LOL Is this Eli speaking or the Gordon Ramsay in you? Of course you are right, though. The whole problem burns down to the fact that so many guys develop an emotional link to their models. Maybe I am lucky that this has never happened to me, or I am just better able to keep my feelings in check. OP's situation is already fucked up (OP, I am not judging you here!) when he talks about friendship and those extra long talks. Why did he and her even take it that far? All those other guys who fell in love or had/have a friendship with a cam model, visited a model not for sex in the first place. The sex is just a catalyst to burn away their feelings of loneliness.
As so many of you sex workers stated, it is not always only about sex. I think it should be, though. I am not here to emotionally support the model (she could pay me for it, but I would only be leading her on) and no model ever should emotionally support me. In my opinion, if you hustle your customers with "I love you.. I need you.." stuff (hope you get what I mean), some customers will not be able to draw the line between fantasy and reality. It is just bound to happen, as it is human! It just doesn't fit into the worldview of many men that a cam model always, and I mean always, refers to his tokens when she says such things.
To members I say: Don't ever let that emotional link develop! She is not your friend, lover, companion, bff, whatever! Your tokens are her friend, and her best lover.
To models I say: Develop that emotional link if you must as a hustle, but don't be surprised if some guys will get attached and eventually get annoying and stalkerish.
If both sides would stick to the business and the sex, those situations could be avoided. But, as we are all humans, this will not happen. I don't think it is ok to call all those misled guys sick stalkers who need a therapist. I think the minority of men and women lead a perfectly "healthy" life with a perspective and a plan, as you say. In fact, I bet a shitload of people nowadays are outright lonesome. Most relationships are nothing but a beautiful mask. The nice house with a garden, wife reclining beside the pool and happy kids climbing the apple tree - it is not true, it never happens, it is just a big facade. Most of us are not cut out to just hide and eat their own darkness, so they seek help and connection, a place to take their personal shit to. We are all connected via the net, and cam models are so easily accessible - cozy and anonymous, from the safety of our homes. I do not think it is astonishing that so many lost souls flock around cam sites. It is the EASIEST place they can try. And they do, and always will.
Spot on, Eli.
The model I visit came up to me with the same bullshit some days ago:
Me: "Good evening. Having fun?"
Her: "Hello."
*silence*
Her: "You lost me!"
Me: "What do you mean, I lost you??"
Her: "You were not here for some days!"
Me: "LOL yeah, I wasn't. So?"
*no reply*
Me: "You look hot tonight. Wanna play?"
Her: "Yes."
Me: "Good. Tell your room you will be gone for an hour, maybe. "
That's all there should be. She knows she will make 2K from the vibes, I know that I pay her so I can masturbate while watching her cum over and over again. Transaction done, where the hell does all this friendship thing fit in?
