Is there someone on the forum you just can't stand?

[AlexLady]

...then use the ignore function. You don't have to see their posts at all. There's no need to let them get to you, or for you to react to them. Odds are, you're pretty much making a scene instead of just letting it pass you by. If you do that, no matter what you dislike about the person, odds are you're making yourself seem more silly than they look to you.

There's no need for everyone to be like, "You suck!" every here and there.

Hell, I ignored that annoying Heart dude.


It makes the forum a better place in more than one way, and it's there for a reason.


So please, use it.


If you don't know how to ignore someone, just click their name on one of their posts and click "Add Foe." You can remove them from your foe list whenever you want via your own settings in the User Control Panel at the top right.

 

[AmberCutie]

Thank you for this post, darling. :love5:

 

[Zoomer]

just for clarification, with ignore you can still see their name as post author/last poster in the forum list - but in the thread their post will be there - just minimised. You'll know who posted it, but not see anything else. You can, if you wish, view on it as there is a link to reveal that individual post just for that moment, but otherwise you don't have to see them ever again.

Except when someone quotes them - it doesn't solve that

 

[Jebbaz]

I love the ignore function. Usually its implemented right after I have to tell someone to go fuck themselves.

 

[Rose]

nice thread, it never hurts to remind people how to keep the peace. every now and then a good time out is needed so the fighters can learn to behave

 

[LilyPink]

I think it's awesome but yes you can still see their name and click on what they've posted. It can be quite annoying when they comment right after you just to stir up drama but hey, we're all adults and should be able to cope with it without things getting silly. Tis only the internet after all.

 

[Just_mark__]

I love the ignore function. Usually its implemented right after I have to tell someone to go fuck themselves.

Aww that's like punching someone in their sleep and running away man. Stand by your convictions

 

[Jupiter551]

Well I'm going to disagree, sorry. :twocents-02cents:

I just don't agree that someone (anyone) can say whatever they want, and in response I'm supposed to abdicate my right to answer for myself in a public forum. Not to make this all super serious or anything but I think the right to speak one's mind like an adult is a very basic and important human right.

Lily's right, we are adults and we should be able to act like it without things getting silly. We should also reserve the right to make calm, logical responses to something we disagree with.

Where I'm from if someone acts like an anti-social asshole for example, others will let him or her know - not just carry on indulging them until no one dares to say anything.

I don't put people on ignore, here or anywhere on the internet. If someone's being an asshole I want it to my face, not behind my back.

I don't go looking for conflict but I won't shy from it either -conflict really isn't a bad thing in every case, sometimes it's a catalyst for a change that really did need to be made, or someone's inappropriate shit that 99 other people were scared to say anything about in case they were the next target.

It also doesn't make sense to me to blame someone responding to a troll or otherwise insulting person for 'making a scene'. Why is the onus on the respondent?

Completely hypothetically speaking, if a person was to say, sign up for this forum a couple of weeks ago and in that time make a number of inflammatory and insulting remarks to those who disagreed with anything he or she said and in response annoyed 20 people I think two things are logical.

a) It's actually a lot more than 20 and that's just the ones who actually bothered or had the balls to speak up

b) if it's in the interests of keeping the peace you might want to look at the one person to find the root of anti-social behaviour, rather than the multitude, because if a whole bunch of people say someone's acting like an asshole, they probably are.

 

[Zoomer]

Well I'm going to disagree, sorry. :twocents-02cents:

I just don't agree that someone (anyone) can say whatever they want, and in response I'm supposed to abdicate my right to answer for myself in a public forum. Not to make this all super serious or anything but I think the right to speak one's mind like an adult is a very basic and important human right.

Lily's right, we are adults and we should be able to act like it without things getting silly. We should also reserve the right to make calm, logical responses to something we disagree with.

Where I'm from if someone acts like an anti-social asshole for example, others will let him or her know - not just carry on indulging them until no one dares to say anything.

I don't put people on ignore, here or anywhere on the internet. If someone's being an asshole I want it to my face, not behind my back.

I don't go looking for conflict but I won't shy from it either -conflict really isn't a bad thing in every case, sometimes it's a catalyst for a change that really did need to be made, or someone's inappropriate shit that 99 other people were scared to say anything about in case they were the next target.

It also doesn't make sense to me to blame someone responding to a troll or otherwise insulting person for 'making a scene'. Why is the onus on the respondent?

Completely hypothetically speaking, if a person was to say, sign up for this forum a couple of weeks ago and in that time make a number of inflammatory and insulting remarks to those who disagreed with anything he or she said and in response annoyed 20 people I think two things are logical.

a) It's actually a lot more than 20 and that's just the ones who actually bothered or had the balls to speak up

b) if it's in the interests of keeping the peace you might want to look at the one person to find the root of anti-social behaviour, rather than the multitude, because if a whole bunch of people say someone's acting like an asshole, they probably are.

I agree to an extent - and don't worry, people can spot the bullshit others make at them without needing to see a defence. My favourite is being told what I would/wouldn't do - usually based upon assumptions using their own personality as blue print. It's pretty transparent when they're doing it against others - laughable, and quite sad.

I use iggy for those with whom there is no discussion - they're not interested in discussing anything and they will not change irrespective of what I post. They're interested in being a cunt and trying to upset people - it's the only way they get attention whilst also feeling good about themselves - it's sad and pathetic, but it is what they know.

Others know this and realise it. They may find it funny/entertaining - their choice, but if we all respond how this person wants it'll rip the forum dynamic apart.
They're not worth it - so I iggy...and all is good I'd prefer other methods, but honestly, I iggy until either they run out of steam and behave better, or they're removed because they've gone too far*. Til then, I ignore.


*where far is not my judgement, but someone elses

 

[Felicity]

What's worse is when "said member" starts pm'ing you with personal information to try and make you nervous after you put them on iggy :?

 

[Bocefish]

What's worse is when "said member" starts pm'ing you with personal information to try and make you nervous after you put them on iggy :?

Yeah, that's going way too far.

I understand that personalities can clash. However, when the vast majority is having to place someone on ignore for trolling, insults, threats, etc., I can't imagine it reflects very well on the site. :twocents-02cents:

 

[Lydia_Deetz]

What's worse is when "said member" starts pm'ing you with personal information to try and make you nervous after you put them on iggy :?

When someone does that you should report them to Amber, she takes care of that stuff pretty quickly.

 

[Zoomer]

What's worse is when "said member" starts pm'ing you with personal information to try and make you nervous after you put them on iggy :?

When someone does that you should report them to Amber, she takes care of that stuff pretty quickly.

Agreed, escalate it up. The change from "irritant" to someone who's attempting to cause alarm, fear and embarrassment is simple harassment. Of course, they may be attempting to point out "how vulnerable you are" - but it is still bloody creepy.

 

[AmberCutie]

What's worse is when "said member" starts pm'ing you with personal information to try and make you nervous after you put them on iggy :?

When someone does that you should report them to Amber, she takes care of that stuff pretty quickly.

Yeah, please report it, otherwise I'd never know.

Well I'm going to disagree, sorry. :twocents-02cents:

I just don't agree that someone (anyone) can say whatever they want, and in response I'm supposed to abdicate my right to answer for myself in a public forum. Not to make this all super serious or anything but I think the right to speak one's mind like an adult is a very basic and important human right.

Lily's right, we are adults and we should be able to act like it without things getting silly. We should also reserve the right to make calm, logical responses to something we disagree with.

Where I'm from if someone acts like an anti-social asshole for example, others will let him or her know - not just carry on indulging them until no one dares to say anything.

I don't put people on ignore, here or anywhere on the internet. If someone's being an asshole I want it to my face, not behind my back.

I don't go looking for conflict but I won't shy from it either -conflict really isn't a bad thing in every case, sometimes it's a catalyst for a change that really did need to be made, or someone's inappropriate shit that 99 other people were scared to say anything about in case they were the next target.

It also doesn't make sense to me to blame someone responding to a troll or otherwise insulting person for 'making a scene'. Why is the onus on the respondent?

Completely hypothetically speaking, if a person was to say, sign up for this forum a couple of weeks ago and in that time make a number of inflammatory and insulting remarks to those who disagreed with anything he or she said and in response annoyed 20 people I think two things are logical.

a) It's actually a lot more than 20 and that's just the ones who actually bothered or had the balls to speak up

b) if it's in the interests of keeping the peace you might want to look at the one person to find the root of anti-social behaviour, rather than the multitude, because if a whole bunch of people say someone's acting like an asshole, they probably are.

There are many cases in many scenarios where a person (troll) won't carry on unless provoked. Why do you think "don't feed the trolls" is such a popular line on the internet? Because without getting the reactions like you and Jebbie and a few others keep giving, they won't have as much fuel for their fire and will eventually get bored and fade away.

The reason I was pointing you out in the thread started by Strokin' was because it was his own post, with obvious "acquired taste" humor, which people still decided to comment on, when the fact of the matter is that you should have just clicked the next topic and moved on. Some members here are getting an ego about posting, as if it's their place to tell someone if they aren't funny, or have the right to say GTFO. I would have thought that after I stepped in and basically called a halt to it, that you folks would respect my request. But apparently you guys know better than me nowadays, eh?

 

[Lydia_Deetz]

I love it when you flex your admin muscle's Amber :love4:

Why is everyone taking this troll in particular so seriously? Meh, I just don't get it :dontknow:

 

[Jupiter551]

There are many cases in many scenarios where a person (troll) won't carry on unless provoked. Why do you think "don't feed the trolls" is such a popular line on the internet? Because without getting the reactions like you and Jebbie and a few others keep giving, they won't have as much fuel for their fire and will eventually get bored and fade away.

The reason I was pointing you out in the thread started by Strokin' was because it was his own post, with obvious "acquired taste" humor, which people still decided to comment on, when the fact of the matter is that you should have just clicked the next topic and moved on. Some members here are getting an ego about posting, as if it's their place to tell someone if they aren't funny, or have the right to say GTFO. I would have thought that after I stepped in and basically called a halt to it, that you folks would respect my request. But apparently you guys know better than me nowadays, eh?

It wasn't the humour, it was the fact that he took any disagreement with anything he said and turned it into a series of personal insults. He's done the same thing on every thread I've seen that he's posted on here, pissed off numerous people, started posting "personal" info for god knows what reason - days after I stopped responding to him in my case, and if (as I suspect) Felicity is talking about him too, in her case pming her days after she put him on ignore.

I don't know who's getting an ego about posting here, I mean if you say so but I haven't seen it, and I don't think any of us assume we have the right to say GTFO, or be the ultimate arbiter of humour but if someone's idea of humour is insulting every person that comes along, belittling their opinion in any thread they post in, posting personal info then I do assume we have the right to tell said person to go fuck themselves.

Why is everyone taking this troll in particular so seriously? Meh, I just don't get it :dontknow:

I dunno but I know a really fast way to fix it.

 

[Zoomer]

tell said person to go fuck themselves.

This just reminded me that Channel 4 On Demand (UK) no longer show the Daily Show with Jon Stewart :crybaby:

 

[AmberCutie]

There are many cases in many scenarios where a person (troll) won't carry on unless provoked. Why do you think "don't feed the trolls" is such a popular line on the internet? Because without getting the reactions like you and Jebbie and a few others keep giving, they won't have as much fuel for their fire and will eventually get bored and fade away.

The reason I was pointing you out in the thread started by Strokin' was because it was his own post, with obvious "acquired taste" humor, which people still decided to comment on, when the fact of the matter is that you should have just clicked the next topic and moved on. Some members here are getting an ego about posting, as if it's their place to tell someone if they aren't funny, or have the right to say GTFO. I would have thought that after I stepped in and basically called a halt to it, that you folks would respect my request. But apparently you guys know better than me nowadays, eh?

It wasn't the humour, it was the fact that he took any disagreement with anything he said and turned it into a series of personal insults. He's done the same thing on every thread I've seen that he's posted on here, pissed off numerous people, started posting "personal" info for god knows what reason - days after I stopped responding to him in my case, and if (as I suspect) Felicity is talking about him too, in her case pming her days after she put him on ignore.

I don't know who's getting an ego about posting here, I mean if you say so but I haven't seen it, and I don't think any of us assume we have the right to say GTFO, or be the ultimate arbiter of humour but if someone's idea of humour is insulting every person that comes along, belittling their opinion in any thread they post in, posting personal info then I do assume we have the right to tell said person to go fuck themselves.

I wasn't aware of the PM thing until this post arrived as no one told me, and now that I've seen the post your'e referencing I've taken steps to take care of it. I can only be helpful if you take the right avenues.

 

[AmberCutie]

In fact if everyone would like to take matters into their own hands, I can just stop moderating completely. Shall I take a vote?

 

[Mikeythegeek]

I think everyone needs to subscribe to the Golden Rule: One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.

So if you treat everyone nicely, you'll be treated nicely.

If you treat everyone like a piece of shit, don't bitch when you're treated like a piece of shit.

End of discussion.

 

[Jupiter551]

In fact if everyone would like to take matters into their own hands, I can just stop moderating completely. Shall I take a vote?

Amber, that's silly you do a great job and it's YOUR site, no one is trying to suggest otherwise on either front.

I dunno what to say about this... I don't really know what you wanted us to do about him, because ignoring things doesn't always make them go away, it just makes them someone else's problem.

 

[AmberCutie]

In fact if everyone would like to take matters into their own hands, I can just stop moderating completely. Shall I take a vote?

Amber, that's silly you do a great job and it's YOUR site, no one is trying to suggest otherwise on either front.

I dunno what to say about this... I don't really know what you wanted us to do about him, because ignoring things doesn't always make them go away, it just makes them someone else's problem.

Exactly. Say less about it. Report it. Make it my problem. Then I can deal with it how I want to instead of having a jillion public posts with people in uproar.

 

[Eva_ChangeN]

I think everyone needs to subscribe to the Golden Rule: One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.

So if you treat everyone nicely, you'll be treated nicely.

If you treat everyone like a piece of shit, don't bitch when you're treated like a piece of shit.

End of discussion.

Well said!


Amber, you do a great job. Maybe there needs to be a warning/probation thing where if people get nasty, they can't post for a while. IDK if its possible or worth the time, just an idea.

 

[Jebbaz]

In fact if everyone would like to take matters into their own hands, I can just stop moderating completely. Shall I take a vote?

If you're serious about that I vote Mikey gets ban hammer powers to compensate....

(edit) or Alex.

Someone needs to moderate if you plan on stopping. Far too many fucktards find their way here.

 

[Rose]

I think everyone needs to subscribe to the Golden Rule: One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.

So if you treat everyone nicely, you'll be treated nicely.

If you treat everyone like a piece of shit, don't bitch when you're treated like a piece of shit.

End of discussion.

Well said!


Amber, you do a great job. Maybe there needs to be a warning/probation thing where if people get nasty, they can't post for a while. IDK if its possible or worth the time, just an idea.

i also vote for mandatory time outs and corporal punishment. i think it's hot when amber flexs her admin rights, i'm willing to participate in a demonstration of how said punishment will take place to help scare off all trolls/potential trolls. i think 15 spankings may be in order, just for good measure to really scare all the trolls.

 

[Teagz]

I honestly think you guys are being a little dramatic. If someone is threatening you, you should definitely report it. But the majority of the people posting are just complaining about dumb shit. I feel like almost every thread I read on here now is a bunch of whining, bitching, and shit talking. I'm sorry that I'm probably coming off as a bitch, but we are adults - and we should act as such. Maybe you don't feel like you should HAVE to ignore someone - but if all they're doing is annoying you, or saying shit you don't agree with or don't like - you really should ignore them. This is getting way out of hand.

 

[Lydia_Deetz]

I honestly think you guys are being a little dramatic. If someone is threatening you, you should definitely report it. But the majority of the people posting are just complaining about dumb shit. I feel like almost every thread I read on here now is a bunch of whining, bitching, and shit talking. I'm sorry that I'm probably coming off as a bitch, but we are adults - and we should act as such. Maybe you don't feel like you should HAVE to ignore someone - but if all they're doing is annoying you, or saying shit you don't agree with or don't like - you really should ignore them. This is getting way out of hand.

For Bobs sake, this^^.

 

[Felicity]

There are many cases in many scenarios where a person (troll) won't carry on unless provoked. Why do you think "don't feed the trolls" is such a popular line on the internet? Because without getting the reactions like you and Jebbie and a few others keep giving, they won't have as much fuel for their fire and will eventually get bored and fade away.

The reason I was pointing you out in the thread started by Strokin' was because it was his own post, with obvious "acquired taste" humor, which people still decided to comment on, when the fact of the matter is that you should have just clicked the next topic and moved on. Some members here are getting an ego about posting, as if it's their place to tell someone if they aren't funny, or have the right to say GTFO. I would have thought that after I stepped in and basically called a halt to it, that you folks would respect my request. But apparently you guys know better than me nowadays, eh?

It wasn't the humour, it was the fact that he took any disagreement with anything he said and turned it into a series of personal insults. He's done the same thing on every thread I've seen that he's posted on here, pissed off numerous people, started posting "personal" info for god knows what reason - days after I stopped responding to him in my case, and if (as I suspect) Felicity is talking about him too, in her case pming her days after she put him on ignore.

I don't know who's getting an ego about posting here, I mean if you say so but I haven't seen it, and I don't think any of us assume we have the right to say GTFO, or be the ultimate arbiter of humour but if someone's idea of humour is insulting every person that comes along, belittling their opinion in any thread they post in, posting personal info then I do assume we have the right to tell said person to go fuck themselves.

Why is everyone taking this troll in particular so seriously? Meh, I just don't get it :dontknow:

I dunno but I know a really fast way to fix it.

I have to agree completely and 100% with Jupiter. The humor is easily ignored, but it's the slew of insults he's given every single person that has questioned him in the slightest. Also, I don't feel bad for sticking up for my friends even if it means that people are going look down on me for not welcoming a troll onto the forums.

 

[AshaSnow]

Yea, I think it boils down to the fact that we should be bombarding Amber with messages saying we don't like stroke instead of furthering his drama in threads. Instead of responding to a troll's trollin', send a message reporting said troll to the admin. That seems to be the gist, and an excellent point.

 

[Zoomer]

Instead of responding to a troll's trollin', send a message reporting said troll to the admin. That seems to be the gist, and an excellent point.

That's the red ! at the end of people's posts (incase people don't notice or use forums much )