Is This A Scam?

[AudriTwo]

Maybe I have misunderstood, but the overall impression here sounds like you have no specific intentions of commitment towards this person, and just see it as an opportunity for sex and a cut-price vacation.

it leaves a weird taste in my mouth. feels exploitive. lady probably thinks this dude is going to make her life better and he is treating her like an escort retreat while leaving her some pretty mixed messages. the emotional goodbye at the airport and meeting the family can appear as commitment vibes. so im really not surprised she is moving whatever the relationship is to the next appropriate step that is culturally accepted in her country.

Spoiler

its also why i really dont care that sometimes these models can take the dudes who treat them like this to the cleaners. they are taking back the power from the men who are trying to exploit the economic disparity. girl power, woo!

 

[cbhours]

No one can answer that for you, you know the girl better than we do. I do know cam girls that will use a guy for money even introduce you to the family but none of them ever announce it to their room that would be silly.

Based on what you said I'm guessing you went to Medellin.

 

[MarieElise]

I'm glad someone said it. From the minute I read the first post I was thinking "wow, so this guy is a sex tourist but in denial of it, or trying not to say it". Because that is exactly what this sounds like. A sex tourist that's trying to get more for less, and probably being slyly dishonest and misleading in the process. And now wants to brag about it. Sorry to be cynical, but those have been my thoughts.

ETA; Also PSA funerals are very, VERY expensive. Any of you models thinking of legally commiting to/ marrying these type of guys, make sure you have the funeral costs covered by him, in advance too. They can put you out of pocket 10s of thousands of dollars some places. Not a topic people enjoy thinking about, or arranging in advance, but kind of smart to. Get 25 G up front, as a deposit, to cover funeral costs.

 

[Vixxen81]

I'm glad someone said it. From the minute I read the first post I was thinking "wow, so this guy is a sex tourist but in denial of it, or trying not to say it". Because that is exactly what this sounds like. A sex tourist that's trying to get more for less, and probably being slyly dishonest and misleading in the process. And now wants to brag about it. Sorry to be cynical, but those have been my thoughts.

ETA; Also PSA funerals are very, VERY expensive. Any of you models thinking of legally commiting to/ marrying these type of guys, make sure you have the funeral costs covered by him, in advance too. They can put you out of pocket 10s of thousands of dollars some places. Not a topic people enjoy thinking about, or arranging in advance, but kind of smart to. Get 25 G up front, as a deposit, to cover funeral costs.

I agree with the first part, but how did funerals come into play?

 

[MarieElise]

I agree with the first part, but how did funerals come into p

older man travelling over seas, younger woman wanting economic security and possibly a visa too, presumably through marriage eventually... I mean, it's not a huge leap.

 

[Vixxen81]

older man travelling over seas, younger woman wanting economic security and possibly a visa too, presumably through marriage eventually... I mean, it's not a huge leap.

Ah, I thought that might be it. Paupers' graves are free in the US.

 

[MarieElise]

Ah, I thought that might be it. Paupers' graves are free in the US.

Really? I was not aware of that. I've been talking w a family member for two weeks now about the cost of burying some elderly relatives. However, they are not paupers. I'm assuming in those cases if there's a wife, she takes on that cost, instead of the family. It's something I'd never thought to plan for, before the last few weeks. Realizing now... that it is a practical consideration.

 

[Vixxen81]

Really? I was not aware of that. I've been talking w a family member for two weeks now about the cost of burying some elderly relatives. However, they are not paupers. I'm assuming in those cases if there's a wife, she takes on that cost, instead of the family. It's something I'd never thought to plan for, before the last few weeks. Realizing now... that it is a practical consideration.

Yeah it's kind of gruesome in the process. One has to be left in the morgue forever and a day with no one claiming their body and then they get buried in a public cemetery. When my dad died, it took them 6 months to identify him, and even though I am his only child born in wedlock my half-sister was the one who had him cremated...so there's some shady things that can be done for sure.

Just go with cremation. They're dead. They don't know. It's $1800 where I live.

 

[MarieElise]

Yeah it's kind of gruesome in the process. One has to be left in the morgue forever and a day with no one claiming their body and then they get buried in a public cemetery. When my dad died, it took them 6 months to identify him, and even though I am his only child born in wedlock my half-sister was the one who had him cremated...so there's some shady things that can be done for sure.

Just go with cremation. They're dead. They don't know. It's $1800 where I live.

Looks like some states it's a little less. But it's way more than I ever would have thought. I'll put cremation in my Will, thanks for the info.
Apparently no one in my family is into cremation, so maybe I can be a trail blazer.

Sorry to distract the thread, but if anyone wants to google average funeral costs by State they're way higher than I ever would have imagined. There are also a lot of hidden fees too.
I'll be quiet now.

And sorry to hear about your father, if that was hard for you

 

[Vixxen81]

Looks like some states it's a little less. But it's way more than I ever would have thought. I'll put cremation in my Will, thanks for the info.
Apparently no one in my family is into cremation, so maybe I can be a trail blazer.

Sorry to distract the thread, but if anyone wants to google average funeral costs by State they're way higher than I ever would have imagined. There are also a lot of hidden fees too.
I'll be quiet now.

And sorry to hear about your father, if that was hard for you

Thanks but nah the bastard died in fire, which is exactly the manner he deserved. But yeah, cremation is a lot easier on the wallet. Funeral homes prey on grief stricken people. A casket should not cost more than a down payment on a house when it's going into the ground to rot like everything else. The local funeral director wears Armani suits and eats at a rat-hole diner and drives a Rolls. Do.not.give.them.more.money.

 

[AudriTwo]

Im all for being donated to science. It's free.

If i can have a special request. I want to a classroom skeleton when i die. Kid you not. Been my morbid dream since seeing one in highschool.

Or body worlds if i don't qualify:

 

[MarieElise]

Oh sweet!

funeral
cremation
classroom

That has so many Pros! They will know enough to make sure you're really dead before rushing into anything.

 

[inertvolcano]

I'm glad someone said it. From the minute I read the first post I was thinking "wow, so this guy is a sex tourist but in denial of it, or trying not to say it". Because that is exactly what this sounds like. A sex tourist that's trying to get more for less, and probably being slyly dishonest and misleading in the process. And now wants to brag about it. Sorry to be cynical, but those have been my thoughts.

Yeah I had that thought too. The more I think about it the more it seems like he just came here to brag that he had sex. Gross and weird.

 

[MarieElise]

Yeah I had that thought too. The more I think about it the more it seems like he just came here to brag that he had sex. Gross and weird.

Yeah tell us you’re a sex tourist without telling us you’re a sex tourist. Not really sure what it even has to do with camming since those of us who are serious about this as a long term profession, wouldn’t do any of that stuff. Not to mention it’s against TOS of all the sites… so

 

[Smoothie]

Yeah tell us you’re a sex tourist without telling us you’re a sex tourist. Not really sure what it even has to do with camming since those of us who are serious about this as a long term profession, wouldn’t do any of that stuff. Not to mention it’s against TOS of all the sites… so

I thought it had elements of fan fiction, too. (Or fiction in general.) Who knows.

 

[Hiunds]

I thought it had elements of fan fiction, too. (Or fiction in general.) Who knows.

"Dear penthouse forum .... I can't believe it happened to me!"

 

[Smoothie]

"Dear penthouse forum .... I can't believe it happened to me!"

Pretty much!

 

[SheMayBeAUnicorn]

Maybe I have misunderstood, but the overall impression here sounds like you have no specific intentions of commitment towards this person, and just see it as an opportunity for sex and a cut-price vacation.

Yes. We have both expressed our intent to having a committed relationship. There are many reasons why I want to go, which is what I intended to express. Finding someone to have sex with isn't difficult where I am, but finding someone as amazing to be around as she is... well, that is rarity.

 

[misterical]

Yes. We have both expressed our intent to having a committed relationship. There are many reasons why I want to go, which is what I intended to express. Finding someone to have sex with isn't difficult where I am, but finding someone as amazing to be around as she is... well, that is rarity.

You're a bit of a creepy bastard. Just saying.

 

[Vixxen81]

I'd like to point out in the sex world/adult industry, a unicorn is a person willing to be the third in a married couple's threesome.

 

[AudriTwo]

I'd like to point out in the sex world/adult industry, a unicorn is a person willing to be the third in a married couple's threesome.

in the poly world, a unicorn is bi woman who seeks a relationship with a married couple. i first thought "oh wow a married couple is in love with a cammodel. that's new"

nope. just a dude. again.

 

[Vixxen81]

in the poly world, a unicorn is bi woman who seeks a relationship with a married couple. i first thought "oh wow a married couple is in love with a cammodel. that's new"

nope. just a dude. again.

I kept it vague because I know there are different types of unicorn dynamics. I noticed the username for the very first time today and I had an Inigo Montoya moment.

 

[AmberCutie]

I'd like to point out in the sex world/adult industry, a unicorn is a person willing to be the third in a married couple's threesome.

I think it’s often used as a word to describe something very rare and seeming to good to be true, also.

Just like I can’t hear CEI or JOI or ATM used in mainstream without thinking of the associated sex-terms, I thought of the same reference with unicorn though

 

[Vixxen81]

I think it’s often used as a word to describe something very rare and seeming to good to be true, also.

Just like I can’t hear CEI or JOI or ATM used in mainstream without thinking of the associated sex-terms, I thought of the same reference with unicorn though

I remember the first time someone threw JOI at me and I was like "huh what?" They nicely explained it and that day I learned men enjoyed being told how to jerk off. (Not something I was able to perfect, btw. I get bored super fast. )

 

[AudriTwo]

Just like I can’t hear CEI or JOI or ATM used in mainstream without thinking of the associated sex-terms, I thought of the same reference with unicorn though

going to get cash out of ATMs makes me snicker every time.

 

[HeadyRaven]

I’m struggling to accept this one. It’s seems a little too ‘cliché’.

My first impression also was that this was either a fake or else some aspects are missing from this story. For one thing, I don't know much (I'm just a member who has spent some time on sites and gotten to know a few models really well), but I've never experienced or heard of anything that moved so quickly (one week of interaction on the site!) to invitations to visit and more notably, included the model discussing all of this in an open chat. Along with other site users commenting on it! Not sure what site it would be but would have to be one that doesn't have many rules.

Aside from that being odd (in my opinion): If it is all exactly as portrayed, it sounds like the original poster and the model really did not know each other too well when this all accelerated into travel and visits. I can understand if she is seeking financial help, a better life, and an actual relationship. Or - maybe just the better life. Okay, but in terms of the guy, I agree it comes across more like sex tourism. And if it isn't, seems like spending more time and thought about whether this is actually going to work out as a genuine relationship would be a good idea.

I don't know. Just thoughts from a non-expert. But if I were going to make bets on this as a successful, long-term, happy relationship, well - not sure I would put much money on that.

 

[Maxi]

My first impression also was that this was either a fake or else some aspects are missing from this story. For one thing, I don't know much (I'm just a member who has spent some time on sites and gotten to know a few models really well), but I've never experienced or heard of anything that moved so quickly (one week of interaction on the site!) to invitations to visit and more notably, included the model discussing all of this in an open chat. Along with other site users commenting on it! Not sure what site it would be but would have to be one that doesn't have many rules.

Aside from that being odd (in my opinion): If it is all exactly as portrayed, it sounds like the original poster and the model really did not know each other too well when this all accelerated into travel and visits. I can understand if she is seeking financial help, a better life, and an actual relationship. Or - maybe just the better life. Okay, but in terms of the guy, I agree it comes across more like sex tourism. And if it isn't, seems like spending more time and thought about whether this is actually going to work out as a genuine relationship would be a good idea.

I don't know. Just thoughts from a non-expert. But if I were going to make bets on this as a successful, long-term, happy relationship, well - not sure I would put much money on that.

Who knows we’ll never find out.

Let’s pretend they found their happily-ever-after.

 

[SheMayBeAUnicorn]

You're a bit of a creepy bastard. Just saying.

I'm not sure how you get to that conclusion, but you're entitled to your opinion just as I am entitled to dismiss it based upon the volume and content of your postings in other threads.

My first impression also was that this was either a fake or else some aspects are missing from this story. For one thing, I don't know much (I'm just a member who has spent some time on sites and gotten to know a few models really well), but I've never experienced or heard of anything that moved so quickly (one week of interaction on the site!) to invitations to visit and more notably, included the model discussing all of this in an open chat. Along with other site users commenting on it! Not sure what site it would be but would have to be one that doesn't have many rules.

Aside from that being odd (in my opinion): If it is all exactly as portrayed, it sounds like the original poster and the model really did not know each other too well when this all accelerated into travel and visits. I can understand if she is seeking financial help, a better life, and an actual relationship. Or - maybe just the better life. Okay, but in terms of the guy, I agree it comes across more like sex tourism. And if it isn't, seems like spending more time and thought about whether this is actually going to work out as a genuine relationship would be a good idea.

I don't know. Just thoughts from a non-expert. But if I were going to make bets on this as a successful, long-term, happy relationship, well - not sure I would put much money on that.

I've left out many details for privacy reasons and many also seemed irrelevant when asking my initial question.

We really didn't know each other very well, so it was very much out of character for me to agree to go. Apparently, it was really out of character for her to ask. We spoke privately over WhatsApp., not on the site. I'm definitely not a sex tourist, although it seems that people are putting me into that bucket. The sole reason that I mentioned that we had sex was because if I hadn't, there would have been many more people saying: "get the tattoo". I had read too many other threads where that was the response because a model was leading someone on. It wasn't any kind of flex because a good relationship is much harder to achieve than just someone to have sex with. She is definitely "in my league", but I think people's personal experiences are biasing them as they read and respond.

WRT long-term, it's never guaranteed for any relationship. Long-distance just makes it that much harder. I've had LDRs before and I've always felt that the real test of a relationship is being together a lot. If you still enjoy each other's company and aren't getting on each other's nerves, that's a good sign. LDRs don't allow you the opportunity to test your relationship in that manner. The reason I mentioned the low cost of travel is because I intend to spend more time with her to see if we truly are compatible long-term. I've already booked my next trip, so I guess I'll see.

Finally, my name wasn't intended as some sort of sexual commentary, it was just to indicate that she may be unique. If I decide to continue on this forum, I will probably change my username if that option is available,

 

[Vixxen81]

I'm not sure how you get to that conclusion, but you're entitled to your opinion just as I am entitled to dismiss it based upon the volume and content of your postings in other threads.



I've left out many details for privacy reasons and many also seemed irrelevant when asking my initial question.

We really didn't know each other very well, so it was very much out of character for me to agree to go. Apparently, it was really out of character for her to ask. We spoke privately over WhatsApp., not on the site. I'm definitely not a sex tourist, although it seems that people are putting me into that bucket. The sole reason that I mentioned that we had sex was because if I hadn't, there would have been many more people saying: "get the tattoo". I had read too many other threads where that was the response because a model was leading someone on. It wasn't any kind of flex because a good relationship is much harder to achieve than just someone to have sex with. She is definitely "in my league", but I think people's personal experiences are biasing them as they read and respond.

WRT long-term, it's never guaranteed for any relationship. Long-distance just makes it that much harder. I've had LDRs before and I've always felt that the real test of a relationship is being together a lot. If you still enjoy each other's company and aren't getting on each other's nerves, that's a good sign. LDRs don't allow you the opportunity to test your relationship in that manner. The reason I mentioned the low cost of travel is because I intend to spend more time with her to see if we truly are compatible long-term. I've already booked my next trip, so I guess I'll see.

Finally, my name wasn't intended as some sort of sexual commentary, it was just to indicate that she may be unique. If I decide to continue on this forum, I will probably change my username if that option is available,

I'm not reading all of that but I'm really happy for you or really sad for you. That said, yes you can change your username without having to create a new account.

 

[cbhours]

One day I should really write out a list of cons about colombia and some of the horror stories i've witnessed. For now all im going to say is its a good idea to get contact information for their family and if you happen to know someone else nearby that contact information as well. Mental health treatment and diagnosies in colombia is poor and communication about it is usually not as open as it is in the states.