Ladies....Do You Get Upset If Your Guy Masturbates?

[Bocefish]

Found this rather interesting and accurate with some ladies I've known, especially if we don't do it more than once or twice a week.

http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/secrets- ... keeps-pt-2

What say you?

 

[LilyPink]

I say go for it! If I'm not in the mood and my man is, he's more than welcome to bash one out. Preferably when I'm next to him unless I'm REALLY grumpy, but hey if it's a secret I won't ever know about it so why does it matter!

 

[LadyLuna]

Do I get upset? Only if he hasn't touched me in over a week. Then it's like "why the fuck did you do it for yourself when I've been needing it?"

As to does he do it in secret? well, kinda hard to, with only one bed, and the sheet kinda does show the wet spot after

Truth- it does upset me a bit, but I don't want him to stop it, because I know I shouldn't be upset by it. So, yes, I get upset, but I wish I didn't get upset.

 

[Jebbaz]

I do not enjoy sex. I have a physical need for it, maybe twice a year. Other than that, never. Don't touch me, I'm not gonna have sex with you. That said, I like to masturbate maybe 3 times a week, so if I found a woman who could deal with me never wanting to have sex with her, and be ok with me masturbating a few times a week, then hey that'd be awesome.
But that doesn't exist I'm guessing? Darnit oh well.

 

[amberimplosion]

I get myself off 3 times a week. So, I'd be a hypocrite if I said I hated my boyfriend getting himself off...

 

[Sevrin]

I get myself off 3 times a week. So, I'd be a hypocrite if I said I hated my boyfriend getting himself off...

Well, the question is not whether you can justify being upset by it. The question is whether it upsets you.

In the OP, the reference is specifically of guys masturbating in secret. This is not about a fellow saying to the missus "Honey, since you're tired, you won't mind me having a go at myself, will you?" In this case, there is not only the question of whether one might feel somehow sexually inadequate or unaccomodating, but the issue of a lack of trust and open communication within a couple. These are two completely separate matters.

 

[PinUpKittie]

My guy and I don't live together yet, and considering I've been sending him photos/videos of myself since we were 16, and his Christmas present this year was a Fleshlight, I'm more than okay with him masturbating. I was, however, shocked when he hadn't mentioned it for months and suddenly admitted to having 4 a day on average O.O

It may have been jealousy (wish I had the time to cum that often!), or something else, but it really made me feel a little uneasy. Strange thing is, though, that the more sexually excitable I am, i.e. the more I get off myself or ask for sex, the less he masturbates....so I guess now that I know this, if he ever goes back to 4 a day it means I have to step up my game xD

 

[AnaVictoriaXO]

What would bother me is why he would keep it a secret. Otherwise it doesnt bother me at all, grab a playboy and have a ball lol.

 

[SatanJonez]

What would bother me is why he would keep it a secret. Otherwise it doesnt bother me at all, grab a playboy and have a ball lol.

This.

 

[Enon]

"3 times a week"
"about twice a week"

I masturbate way, way too much. FML.

 

[Mitchie Lynn]

What would bother me is why he would keep it a secret. Otherwise it doesnt bother me at all, grab a playboy and have a ball lol.

This.

Yup. Sums it up for me too.

 

[Jebbaz]

What would bother me is why he would keep it a secret. Otherwise it doesnt bother me at all, grab a playboy and have a ball lol.

This.

Yup. Sums it up for me too.

so you girls tell your guys every time you decide to masturbate?
Just curious... the hivemind I'm seeing here is that girls want to know when boyfriends are masturbating, and if your boyfriends dont expressly tell you hey I like to jerk off, you do not want them doing it?

When you put it like that, it sounds kinda crazy.

 

[Mitchie Lynn]

Well.. Not really like that.

For me it's more like, you don't have to tell me everytime you do, but it's okay to do it and you don't have to lie about it.

It's like I have nothing against him eating burgers. He doesn't have to tell me everytime obviously but I hope he doesn't feel the need to be like "Me? Noooo... No burger here!" when he has.

Did that make sense? LOL

 

[Jebbaz]

Well.. Not really like that.

For me it's more like, you don't have to tell me everytime you do, but it's okay to do it and you don't have to lie about it.

It's like I have nothing against him eating burgers. He doesn't have to tell me everytime obviously but I hope he doesn't feel the need to be like "Me? Noooo... No burger here!" when he has.

Did that make sense? LOL

Yes THAT makes sense, but the previous hivemind was, and I mean no offense but it does exist, crazy-woman-logic.

 

[Mitchie Lynn]

Well.. Not really like that.

For me it's more like, you don't have to tell me everytime you do, but it's okay to do it and you don't have to lie about it.

It's like I have nothing against him eating burgers. He doesn't have to tell me everytime obviously but I hope he doesn't feel the need to be like "Me? Noooo... No burger here!" when he has.

Did that make sense? LOL

Yes THAT makes sense, but the previous hivemind was, and I mean no offense but it does exist, crazy-woman-logic.

Haha, re-reading it through I can see how you would think that, but it's not what -I- meant at least. Obviously can't speak for everyone but I believe that's what the other girls think too.

 

[AmbrosiaCer]

I wouldn't care at all. Then again I wouldn't care if he was in love with and having sex with another girl, as long as I was still a primary girl (at least if our relationship was a mutually-primary one) and he was open about it.

 

[Just_mark__]

"3 times a week"
"about twice a week"

I masturbate way, way too much. FML.

Don't worry about it fella, I smash out at least 1 per day and on my last 2 days off work, somewhere in the region of 6 a day.

Doesn't seem to affect my sex life, although it can start to chaffe(note chaffe, not actually damage myself) if I've really been going for gold - natures warning that you're doing it too much maybe.

Girls shouldn't be upset by it tbh, wanking is about the self completely. It's stress relief, it's boredom relief and just fulfilling an urge, more like having a long bath with candles and music than a sexual urge. Sex with your partner is about giving, it's two completely different things.

 

[AnaVictoriaXO]

so you girls tell your guys every time you decide to masturbate?
Just curious... the hivemind I'm seeing here is that girls want to know when boyfriends are masturbating, and if your boyfriends dont expressly tell you hey I like to jerk off, you do not want them doing it?

When you put it like that, it sounds kinda crazy.

Not sure how "what would bother me is why he would hide it" translates to that but um ok. What i meant was if he hide it he would obviously have a reason, the question was about a boyfriend doing it "in secret" and that to me would be weird because i do not see a problem with it. I dont mean i need to be told every time, that would be weird and kinda annoying lol

 

[SamCamNxtDoor]

It doesn't bother me at all. If he lets me watch, it's even better. I sometimes want to have a "private" orgasm and so I don't care if he does either. We both know we love one another and we satisfy each other but that doesn't mean we can't have extra fun. We both watch porn on our own sometimes too and it doesn't bother me at all--- and we love to watch it together as well.

 

[Eva_ChangeN]

No problem here, less work for me even LOL :lol: I know he has needs and sometimes I am not available (sick, work, w/e) so yea, have a it...just don't leave wet spots on my side and put my porn DVDs back LOL and please don't log into my model name, it kills my camscore!

 

[LadyLuna]

It would bother me if he felt a need to hide it. I'm actually rather paranoid, so yeah... there have been times where I was freaking myself out thinking that he was, when I reminded myself that he always just does it on the bed and doesn't even put something between himself and the bed to keep the mattress clean x.x

Then I switch to annoyance that he's ruining the mattress until I remind myself that all my bouncing on camera has already ruined the mattress...

My mind is weird.

I stand by my original comment- whether he hides it or not, it bothers me, and I wish it didn't bother me. I know that if it didn't upset me, he wouldn't feel the need to try to hide it.

 

[AluraCurvyBBW]

I wouldn't care at all. Then again I wouldn't care if he was in love with and having sex with another girl, as long as I was still a primary girl (at least if our relationship was a mutually-primary one) and he was open about it.

ok now i have to hunt you down on mfc under my prem name.. lol you sound like me and mine



i do not give a shit if my guy masturbates.. but to hide it or act like he doesnt do it is fucked up. there are times he may be feeling frisky and i am dead tired and knocked out... or i could be sick.. or maybe he just wants a quick nut. who am i to say not to handle it.. lmao no pun intended..

however doing it and hiding it... not cool

and um if there was NO sex between us.. and all he did was masturbate... an not include me somehow.. i will be single shortly after a undisclosed amount of time

 

[amberimplosion]

I get myself off 3 times a week. So, I'd be a hypocrite if I said I hated my boyfriend getting himself off...

Well, the question is not whether you can justify being upset by it. The question is whether it upsets you.

In the OP, the reference is specifically of guys masturbating in secret. This is not about a fellow saying to the missus "Honey, since you're tired, you won't mind me having a go at myself, will you?" In this case, there is not only the question of whether one might feel somehow sexually inadequate or unaccomodating, but the issue of a lack of trust and open communication within a couple. These are two completely separate matters.

What I kinda meant was that I do it 'in secret' too. So why should I care AND who am I to say that I don't like it if he gets himself on in secret. Doesn't bother me at all.

 

[LadyLuna]

I do not enjoy sex. I have a physical need for it, maybe twice a year. Other than that, never. Don't touch me, I'm not gonna have sex with you. That said, I like to masturbate maybe 3 times a week, so if I found a woman who could deal with me never wanting to have sex with her, and be ok with me masturbating a few times a week, then hey that'd be awesome.
But that doesn't exist I'm guessing? Darnit oh well.

O.O

You sound like the way I used to be... until my sex drive finally woke up twoish years ago x.x

Biggest difference there is, my fuckbuddy at the time only wanted it once a month and I was fine with doing that for him. Otherwise, talk centered around various other things... DnD, Magic the Gathering, WoW (he played, not me), cooking, sushi, martial arts...

Course, he was the one who said "I cook, I clean, I do the laundry, I'll make someone a very good housewife someday" (yes, that was HIM saying that about himself)

I tend to pick the guys who some people refer to as female...

 

[Jebbaz]

funnily enough I cook, and clean, and do laundry.

If my sex drive decides to wake up, well thats just gonna make my social life even more of a disaster.

 

[LadyLuna]

funnily enough I cook, and clean, and do laundry.

If my sex drive decides to wake up, well thats just gonna make my social life even more of a disaster.

Social life? What's a social life?

Oh, right, that thing I've never had and never really wanted. INTROVERTS FTW!

 

[Jebbaz]

funnily enough I cook, and clean, and do laundry.

If my sex drive decides to wake up, well thats just gonna make my social life even more of a disaster.

Social life? What's a social life?

Oh, right, that thing I've never had and never really wanted. INTROVERTS FTW!

lol I used to have one but (spoiler alert insight into Jebbaz's past) I used to have a pretty bad drug problem, and I did a lot of bad things and pretty much ruined my life. So I left town, and it started a new life. Well... now it seems the only people I meet would pull me back into my old habits and I do not want that... so I kinda gave up on having friends.

All that stuff in my past, the one good thing was my then finance, who finally got sick of my shit and left me almost two years ago, and since she left I haven't had a sex drive at all. Didn't have much of one when I was with her, now its just not there at all.

Spoiler alert over.

Yeah... this got way off topic lol

 

[DivSavel]

No, not really. I've always had a high sex drive (higher than him), and I'm used to being the perv. So, I understand the want to just do it. Hell, sometimes I want it to help me get to sleep when my mind is racing. Works like magic.

We tend to tell each other when we've diddled/fapped, just to keep each other updated. xD

 

[AlexLady]

I do not enjoy sex. I have a physical need for it, maybe twice a year. Other than that, never. Don't touch me, I'm not gonna have sex with you. That said, I like to masturbate maybe 3 times a week, so if I found a woman who could deal with me never wanting to have sex with her, and be ok with me masturbating a few times a week, then hey that'd be awesome.
But that doesn't exist I'm guessing? Darnit oh well.

I know a girl who never, ever wants to have sex. Her dream guy is someone who can have all the relationship stuff without having to fuck. They're out there.



I'd be worried if a guy I was dating didn't masturbate, unless he had a reason to. There are benefits to it like having more cum.

 

[Bocefish]

I'd be worried if a guy I was dating didn't masturbate, unless he had a reason to. There are benefits to it like having more cum.

That depends entirely on the frequency...for optimal fertility reasons, it's recommended that a space of three days between two successive ejaculations be maintained to keep a man healthy and most fertile. Any more ejaculations than that causes decreased sperm count.

Why flogging the bald headed, one eyed giggle stick is good for you:

Helps Cure Insomnia -- Throw Away Those Sleeping Pills! The benefit of masturbation with insomnia has been proven in 1979.

Masturbation stimulates your immune system (Human Reproduction, Vol 12, 2200-2207, Copyright 1997 by Oxford University Press)

Keeps you in good health. Recent research study suggests masturbation may decrease incidence of prostate cancer. (Leitzmann MF, Platz EA, Stampfer MJ, Willett WC, Giovannucci E. Ejaculation frequency and subsequent risk of prostate cancer. JAMA. 2004 Apr 7:291 (13): 1578-86.)

Release tension and stress. Masturbation can lower blood pressure in stressful situations. One out of five Americans has an anger management problem. There haven’t been any studies on this particular argument, but nobody disputes the relaxing affect of masturbation.

Masturbation releases sexual tension without any performance anxiety. There is also no need for a condom and embarrassing drug store checkouts.

It fights depression. Masturbation releases the mood –enhancing substances seratonin and dopamine. No more need for Prozac! (F.C. Denison, V.E. Grant, A.A. Calder, and R. W. Kelly Seminal plasma components stimulate interleukin-8 and interleukin-10 release. Mol Hum. Reprod., March 1, 1999; 5(3): 220-226)

Earn some extra income with it! Make money as a sperm donor at a local sperm bank. Donate sperm and see how much you could make.

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On a side note, I'm surprised nobody has mentioned how the vid in the OP may be affecting the lovely ladies who swallow. :whistle: