Lying about relationship status

[yossarian]

I don't care. She ain't dating me no matter what, so why should it matter?

 

[GweenBlack]

Well after seeing this thread i'm feeling kinda bad for lying. But well, i like to avoid unnecessary private life conversation like this and about what i do in my life besides being a Cam Model.

One user already found me on facebook just for finding me on my twitch account by accident and on my MFC room he started not directly giving hints that he knew about my boyfriend and where do i work in my city.

I like what Steph said there

I think some guys might have a mental block around looking at another man's 'property' sexually. It's not about whether or not he could potentially date her, it's about her being some one else's. That's my thoughts at least. Also, if a camgirl's relationship status changes is there really an appropriate time or way to bring it up?

Ultimately, it's not REALLY anyone's business but her own. I don't even know if half the girls I have class with every day are in relationships.

It's this things that makes me lie about my boyfriend existing.

 

[All_Mina]

I don't blatantly lie but I evade the question. If I answer yes, I hear, "why would your boyfriend let you do this?", "how does your man feel about this?" etc. First of all, I'm grown and no one "owns" me. I wouldn't/couldn't be with someone with those types of hang-ups. If I answer no, it's "how could you be single?", "I can't believe you're single" as if being attractive guarantees a person love in life. Get real.

I just don't answer but I have slipped up a few times. From my experience it helps the clingy, possessive dudes know their place if they're aware that I have a man around.

 

[PearlSparkles]

I already have members saying I'm too innocent for mfc m maybe I'm a virgin. Can you imgaine the outcome if I came clean that I do in fact have a bf? They'd say "your bf probably forced you into this.. "

I don't talk about my relationship, my age n I say I live at disneyworld. *ued to live around there*

I'm just a very good tease model that entertains... That's all they need to know

 

[Magpie]

I'm single and say so openly. I understand this topic is more aimed towards girls who have a significant other and say that they don't but I wonder whether there are many models who are single and pretend they have a partner...?

Personally for me I think telling guys I'm single is part of my appeal. I think a lot of them like to think of a model as obtainable whether that be likely or not; it's all part of the fantasy. I can understand why some girls say they're single even though they're not.

 

[Remykins]

I purposely don't talk about my relationship status, for many reasons. If I'm single, dating, in a relationship, married...doesn't and shouldn't matter to the guy tipping me. Its my business and no one elses...my private life is my private life and I like to keep it that way. I've been stalked more times than I can count, and if I had/were going to have a bf, it'd just be one more person for douchebags to stalk, trying to get to me. And this way, I don't have to deal with the two types of responses I've gotten in the past to my relationship status:

"oh bb, you're single? do you escort? would you fuck me? would you date me? can we meet? why are you single?"

or

"oh you have a bf? how big is his cock? can you suck him on cam for me? why do you have no vids fucking him bb? does he have a problem with you camming?"

etc etc. By choosing not to talk about my relationship status, I choose not to have to deal with those types of questions, and I get to have an air of mystery to me, for the guys who tend to care who a camgirl fucks when she logs off. :twocents-02cents:

 

[jessie125]

for many models, being honest helps with putting on successful shows, particularly when you get chatty with your members. you don't have to remember a backstory and you can be yourself. plus, I am the WORST liar, especially when I am drunk!

on the other hand, I do not believe that members have any right to know more about a model than she is willing to say, and if a model wants to be someone else on cam, that is PERFECTLY OK, and there is no one, either members or fellow models, that can criticize that. furthermore, if a model can be someone completely different on cam and be successful at it, that is an admirable talent that puts her on a higher level. in fact, some of the highest paid people in our society have that skill; we watch them perform in movies. and part of that fantasy world is part of camming in general. in real life, we are students or office workers who nobody notices, but on cam everything changes

 

[NataliaGrey]

I'm honest that I have a boyfriend, but I try not to bring it up as much as possible. Right now I'm on vacation with my boyfriend's mother, step-father, and step-sister... I'm saying I'm with "family." It's generic but not a lie. If I have a funny story about my boyfriend, I might say "my friend" if it's not relevant to the story. It's for the same reason that others mentioned, I don't want guys trying to prove they're better than my boyfriend... I hate being seen as a bitch, so it's awkward for me to be so blunt that I'm not interested in them. I know I should just tell them off (because, really, you're an asshole if you say that shit), and I can if I have to... but if it can be avoided, I will try.

 

[Jupiter551]

I'm single, but I date. And I tell my room exactly that. I would tell MFC folks if it got serious enough that I wanted to move in with someone, but I would want to avoid the personal questions as long as possible. I think maybe because we share so much of our sexuality online it's nice to have some things that are just yours.

Maybe I should have a pretend boyfriend though, because I did get asked on two IRL dates from MFC people recently. I could call him Bob in your honor.

I assume this is the reason more people don't be honest and say they're single and date - because it might be taken as an "invitation" to some members to initiate an awkward situation.

 

[JJasione]

My status is kind of ambiguous and I think I prefer it that way. Officially I'm single, but when I first started camming I had a kind of friends with benefits thing happening which a lot of guys wanted to know about. A lot of the time they'd ask tons of questions, make inappropriate comments about how they could satisfy me better, or in the case of one or two guys, get the impression that I escorted and would absolutely meet for sex. I get the "how are you single??" thing in my room a lot too and I don't know how to answer.

Now it depends on the guy. I have a few that are a little more personal than others who I don't mind mentioning it to. Publicly though it's my own business and I tend to brush it off.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

A lot of the time they'd ask tons of questions, make inappropriate comments about how they could satisfy me better,

This one always makes me laugh. For example, I cannot orgasm through penetration alone. I actually used to have real trouble cumming with penetration even with clit stim, I still do have trouble though have learned to do it, it's much harder for me. Guys always used to egotistically act like I'd cum instantly if they slept with me, those who ever got the chance always seemed far worse in bed than other guys who hadn't been able to make me cum either. I'm not lacking in orgasms through lack of good sex, skills, experience or personal knowledge of my body, I'm lacking in penetration orgasms because my body has trouble in that area.

Almost every man I've met has the self satisfied idea that he's awesome in bed. And well, yes, I'm sure he is awesome in bed, I'm sure 50% of the people involved in a twosome always have an orgasm and enjoy themselves thoroughly. Almost all the guys who've ever boasted about their sex skills and penis sizes have always been really disappointing in bed. Maybe because they think they're good they never try. I know whenever I sleep with a particularly shit guy I make more noise and congratulate him more afterwards just to try and cover up my awkward and slightly embarrassed feelings, I just feel bad for them, so maybe I'm not the only girl who does that.

I get the "how are you single??" thing in my room a lot too and I don't know how to answer.

You're clearly single because no man has decided to snatch you up yet and take you for his woman. Because that's how it works. Man see's woman he fancies, he then proceeds to tell her she now belongs to him and she happily accepts regardless of her feelings on the matter- don't be silly, women don't have feelings!

Nothing to do with maybe you having not met someone that YOU like enough to settle down with. Nothing to do with YOU maybe not wanting to settle down or be in a relationship at the moment. Nothing to do with YOU wanting to do other things at the moment rather than chasing after a boyfriend. Nothing to do you full stop. Nope, all women just sit around waiting for guys to ask them out, and once they're asked out, that's it! In fact, there are zero attractive single female women in the world! They are all constantly in a relationship! And when dudes want a new girlfriend they trade with another guy so these girls are never single for a second!

I get dudes asking this even now I'm in a relationship just because it says i'm single on my profile. I hated the question when I was single and I hate it now. I don't know if it's supposed to be a complement, but it pisses me off. Either someone's single because they want to be, or they're single because they haven't found the right person or the right person doesn't want them. Questioning this is hardly positive. It always just made me feel down.

 

[mynameisbob84]

A lot of the time they'd ask tons of questions, make inappropriate comments about how they could satisfy me better,

This one always makes me laugh.

You bbs just don't know what you're missing. You haven't truly experienced sex until you've slept with the Bobmeister McStud. Yeah, I'm like a magician. I intuitively know exactly how to get you off. You might be under the assumption that your partners are in a better position to sexually please you because they already know what works for you and what doesn't, and I don't. But that's a bunch of hogwash. You might have been led to believe that some people are more sexually compatible than others, but that's also a lie. I can state categorically that I'd be able to send you, or any other woman on the internet, into throes of throbbing ecstasy within seconds. That's how I do. Yeah, bbs, I know what's up. I've had sex with more women than I can count on one hand. There's not a position in the world I haven't tried. Missionary, "doggie style"... I've done 'em both. Yeeeeep, when it comes to pleasuring women I know nothing about, I am certain I'd be better at thrusting-my-willy-in-and-out-of-their-vagina-until-they-cum than their chosen life partners. My certainty is founded on... reasons :?

 

[Aurora]

Bob, I just have to say you're probably my favorite ACF poster so far. If only I could rate and admire more than once...

 

[mynameisbob84]

Bob, I just have to say you're probably my favorite ACF poster so far. If only I could rate and admire more than once...

"Yesss"


:-D

 

[mutantdonut]

I've come across a couple members who have specifically stated their displeasure that a model is already committed to a bf or spouse. One instance was with a model who had a husband, in which a member said something such as "Great... Another bitch that's married. I'm outta here." Had he stuck around longer, i would have asked him why that even mattered. Whether it was merely a fetish to interact with known single models, or it's one less female prospect for that individual to try to pursue and fuck, was beyond me.

 

[DuoShi]

I need to add to my initial post. I still would tip a model regardless of her relationship status. However, I just realized something in the last hour. I can't hear about a model's significant other. I just can't do it. I just can't get past the jealousy. It's small jealousy, but even a small amount of it is too much. I've seen what jealousy does first hand, so I try to avoid it. With that said, I'll usually leave when a model starts talking about her other half. It won't stop me from coming back, tipping, and the like. I just can't handle it. So, I need to step away at that point. Thankfully, I have other things that can distract me temporarily. That's all.

 

[Finebrush]

It's not about whether or not he could potentially date her, it's about her being some one else's.

Well.. or just do not want to harm other people when is not needed... Neither accidentally destroy something nice and with a history. But this only would apply in real life (I do avoid anything my self when the woman has a boyfriend/husband). The property concept gets no sense when the brain has worked a bit. In cams, I do think is just model's private info. After all, despite all the sympathy and good manners, it's people doing their job... Is like when I used to go to job interviews and they would ask me if I had a girlfriend. I had usually status enough to reply it was not relevant...Might slightly damage the fantasy/role thing for some, though.

 

[JaneJupiter]

Also, many men do seem to feel there is ownership in relationships "I'd never LET my girlfriend/wife do this." "How does your bf feel about you doing this?" "Does your boyfriend let you do this?" etc. It's kinda like when in a bar a woman tells a man she's not interested and he ignores it but if a man comes up and says something that implies this woman is dating him it changes things.

I think some guys might have a mental block around looking at another man's 'property' sexually. It's not about whether or not he could potentially date her, it's about her being some one else's. That's my thoughts at least. Also, if a camgirl's relationship status changes is there really an appropriate time or way to bring it up?

I believe there is some ownership in a serious relationship, which is why I shared the way my model friend put it. She said "I'm married but have permission to play online as much as I want."

That should dissolve any guilt or apprehension a member may have. If it doesn't, then said member is on the wrong site.

It's also nice to know that what I previously thought was an innocent honest compliment saying "your husband is a lucky man" is apparently no longer welcomed.

The "permission" thing makes me gag a bit. If she's dating someone who is explicitly fine with sex work, then she's there's a chance that that is one of the qualities that makes them a good match. It's a partnership. I cam, and I'm in a serious relationship with someone who respects sex work, me, and my choices. I don't have "permission" do it, it is what I've chosen to do as an autonomous person.

But to get back to the point of the post, it just depends. Sometimes I say I have a boyfriend, sometimes I call him my roommate, and sometimes I say I'm single, depending on the site, my mood, and if I feel like listening to "why does he let you do this?" "if you were my girl I wouldn't let anyone else see you!" "I bet I could make you cum more than he can" "So why are you on here if you're in a relationship then?" "bb, can I watch you fuck on skype for 50 cents a minute??"

 

[ILikeUonTop]

I really don't care if a model has a boyfriend, girlfriend, is married or in a relationship of any kind. Webcam sites are fantasy fun time for me. I'll tip, go private and generally flirt and talk dirty to any model I find attractive as long as they at least pretend to be into me while I'm doing it. :lol: When our time online is done, I hope we both had a good time and I'll be back for more when I have more tokens. Your significant other is irrelevant to me. I'll probably never ask if you never bring it up. I can do all of this because I'm 99.9999999999999999999999999999% sure that I will never meet much less hook up with any model I talk to online.

 

[nataliestar32d]

Ill admit that I really wish I could portray myself as single. IDK why, but it seems more fun? But I live in a loft so my bf is literally in the same room with me most of the time I cam when people hear him they know there's no way I'm single.

 

[EdenUk]

I personally don't speak about it or get asked about it. I get the occasional guys who assume I am in a relationship and will make statements like "Your guy is so lucky etc" I am in a relationship. I wear a ring on my engagement finger but I am not engaged it's simply because it doesn't fit on any other finger, so I get allot of guys asking if I am married.

I wouldn't lie about it I just allow them to think what they want to think.

 

[Bocefish]

Also, many men do seem to feel there is ownership in relationships "I'd never LET my girlfriend/wife do this." "How does your bf feel about you doing this?" "Does your boyfriend let you do this?" etc. It's kinda like when in a bar a woman tells a man she's not interested and he ignores it but if a man comes up and says something that implies this woman is dating him it changes things.

I think some guys might have a mental block around looking at another man's 'property' sexually. It's not about whether or not he could potentially date her, it's about her being some one else's. That's my thoughts at least. Also, if a camgirl's relationship status changes is there really an appropriate time or way to bring it up?

I believe there is some ownership in a serious relationship, which is why I shared the way my model friend put it. She said "I'm married but have permission to play online as much as I want."

That should dissolve any guilt or apprehension a member may have. If it doesn't, then said member is on the wrong site.

The "permission" thing makes me gag a bit. If she's dating someone who is explicitly fine with sex work, then she's there's a chance that that is one of the qualities that makes them a good match. It's a partnership. I cam, and I'm in a serious relationship with someone who respects sex work, me, and my choices. I don't have "permission" do it, it is what I've chosen to do as an autonomous person.

She's not dating him, they're married. The permission thing is just the way she phrased it, which is pretty clever in my opinion considering she's mostly camming for men. She's a smart, entrepreneurial, strong minded, independent woman. They're a team, he films her videos and helps out where and when he can so you shouldn't assume things or put that much weight on a single word, or 'gag a bit' without knowing more about it.

 

[AllisonWilder]

Also, many men do seem to feel there is ownership in relationships "I'd never LET my girlfriend/wife do this." "How does your bf feel about you doing this?" "Does your boyfriend let you do this?" etc. It's kinda like when in a bar a woman tells a man she's not interested and he ignores it but if a man comes up and says something that implies this woman is dating him it changes things.

I think some guys might have a mental block around looking at another man's 'property' sexually. It's not about whether or not he could potentially date her, it's about her being some one else's. That's my thoughts at least. Also, if a camgirl's relationship status changes is there really an appropriate time or way to bring it up?

I believe there is some ownership in a serious relationship, which is why I shared the way my model friend put it. She said "I'm married but have permission to play online as much as I want."

That should dissolve any guilt or apprehension a member may have. If it doesn't, then said member is on the wrong site.

The "permission" thing makes me gag a bit. If she's dating someone who is explicitly fine with sex work, then she's there's a chance that that is one of the qualities that makes them a good match. It's a partnership. I cam, and I'm in a serious relationship with someone who respects sex work, me, and my choices. I don't have "permission" do it, it is what I've chosen to do as an autonomous person.

She's not dating him, they're married. The permission thing is just the way she phrased it, which is pretty clever in my opinion considering she's mostly camming for men. She's a smart, entrepreneurial, strong minded, independent woman. They're a team, he films her videos and helps out where and when he can so you shouldn't assume things or put that much weight on a single word, or 'gag a bit' without knowing more about it.

In this case, the word permission just sounds like a simpler/faster way of saying "I'm attached, we've talked about it, he knows I cam and he's cool with it." Makes total sense to me.

 

[LilyEvans]

This has been mentioned, but there are members who are explicitly against watching models who are in relationships. I can kind of understand why-- even though webcam shows are about fantasy, the fantasy can be kinda ruined when in the back of your head you know a model is going home with another man when she signs off. And anyway, since the fact that a model is in a relationship is inconsequential, it's just as unimportant if she lies about being single, isn't it?

When it comes down to it, models don't tell the truth about a lot of things. Many of us lie, either explicitly or by omission-- about our names, our ages, our locations. So why does it matter if a model says she's single?

On another note, about lying: I don't think it's a bad thing to lie on cam, especially if it's to keep one's self safe, sane, or to keep up with the fantasy. For instance, I do NOT think it is ok to lie and say, "Guys I got cancer and I need tokens for the hospital bill" or "My puppy needed emergency surgery can anyone tip to help? " or things like that. But I do think, if it is clear that a member has a particular fantasy and will only tip if you are able to fulfill that fantasy, it's ok to fudge. If you know members are more likely to tip if they think you are single, then say you're single. If you have fake tits and members always say, "Oh babe your all-natural boobs are so hot, here's some tokens. xxxx I would never tip a models with silicone tits" I don't think there is any obligation to say, "Actually my tits are bolted on!" and drive them away when they clearly don't know the difference anyway. Some guys tip me and the tipnote says, "Oh I love a natural redhead!" even though I have like two inches of brown roots showing. Do I have to correct them knowing that they are only tipping because they think I am a natural redhead? I don't think so.

Then again I have made it abundantly clear in my room that they cannot believe a damned thing I say. I lie about everything so when I accidentally tell the truth no one notices.

 

[LadyLuna]

When I first started, my partner asked me not to talk about him. I took that to mean that I should say I'm single, so I did. Later, I asked if it was okay for me to tell them about him, but just avoid questions about our sex life. He said that was fine. So I do.

But, there's persistant guys who are really sneaky, and I end up telling more than I intend about my sex life. I really need to ban those asshats who can't take "I won't talk about it" and just leave it there. It's called respecting someone else's wishes, why don't they understand that?

 

[mutantdonut]

This has been mentioned, but there are members who are explicitly against watching models who are in relationships. I can kind of understand why-- even though webcam shows are about fantasy, the fantasy can be kinda ruined when in the back of your head you know a model is going home with another man when she signs off. And anyway, since the fact that a model is in a relationship is inconsequential, it's just as unimportant if she lies about being single, isn't it?

I guess it comes down to a "don't ask, don't tell" policy for certain models, and "don't know, don't wanna know" for certain members. If a naive member is to automatically assume that every cam model is single, then

 

[yossarian]

This has been mentioned, but there are members who are explicitly against watching models who are in relationships. I can kind of understand why-- even though webcam shows are about fantasy, the fantasy can be kinda ruined when in the back of your head you know a model is going home with another man when she signs off. And anyway, since the fact that a model is in a relationship is inconsequential, it's just as unimportant if she lies about being single, isn't it?

I guess it comes down to a "don't ask, don't tell" policy for certain models, and "don't know, don't wanna know" for certain members. If a naive member is to automatically assume that every cam model is single, then

I assume none of them are single. Saves time.

 

[sv89]

Couldn't it legally be considered fraud if a cam model was telling people that she was single when in fact she wasn't so they would tip her more. I know that just saying your single when your not on dating sites is enough for you to be sued and there no money is involved.

I don't get why so many guys in general get so worked up over a girl having a bf/husband/fiancee when in reality relationships do not mean anything,since humans are not designed to be monogamous, if we were then both cheating and divorces would be rare,and we would all be married to someone from our teen years.


I also think the lines such as "How don't you have a bf, your so hot", and guys that believe that all cam models are in a relationship are stupid. If Taylor Swift,Selena Gomez, Sandra Bullock and lots of other beautiful woman are single than why would you logically think that a cam model that is beautiful has to be in a relationship

 

[NoelleBright]

Couldn't it legally be considered fraud if a cam model was telling people that she was single when in fact she wasn't so they would tip her more. I know that just saying your single when your not on dating sites is enough for you to be sued and there no money is involved.

LOL do you even live on planet Earth?

 

[sv89]

Couldn't it legally be considered fraud if a cam model was telling people that she was single when in fact she wasn't so they would tip her more. I know that just saying your single when your not on dating sites is enough for you to be sued and there no money is involved.

LOL do you even live on planet Earth?

In 2005 a New York Dr, was sued for lying on a dating site.
http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/english/do ... 476695.htm

A cam model that lies about her relationship status would be committing false advertising

http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictiona ... dvertising