Pretty self explanatory. What do you do when you log on and there are over 20 people to start and everyone refuses to say anything. It doesn't help when you have social anxiety... Advice?
Yeah it can be so awkward when it's like this!Pretty self explanatory. What do you do when you log on and there are over 20 people to start and everyone refuses to say anything. It doesn't help when you have social anxiety... Advice?
Totally stealing this, thanks!I'm basically completely quiet till someone talks, but meh SM is quiet. This might help some of ya'll though. Long list of interesting questions to get to know folks. The title saying for dating, but obviously doesn't have to be for that. I figure you could answer some of the questions yourself out loud too till someone jumps in. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I've never thought to type as well, that's smart!Yeah it can be so awkward when it's like this!
Try send a message in the public chat saying, "Hey guys! How is everyone today/tonight?" That usually gets at least one person to start talking to you! Also, I've found that both talking and typing my responses can the flow of the room when it is quiet. Even if I'm having a conversation with just one member, any viewers with no sound can potentially join in from what they can see I was previously talking about.
Sorry to hear that you've been finding it challenging. I do understand how challenging social anxiety can make interacting with others. Especially attempting to entertain a room of 20 guys. Honestly, just remember that even if you are sat in silence sometimes, with nobody talking to you, the viewers in your room are just happy to sit and watch you do your thing . They are in your room because they like you, so don't feel pressured to have interesting things to talk about all the time, when the topic of conversation may not be naturally flowing. Just do your thing, it's OK to have periods of time when the room is very quiet, not ideal, but also not the end of the world!
When it is quiet and I want to encourage conversations and tips I do the following:
- Advertise any current deals I have "Guys did you know that my new video is only **** tokens check out the preview on my profile"
- Make up a random deal "next tipper will receive my **** gallery " and post in your public chat
- Think of a random question you could start a conversation with "So, I really want to travel to **** soon, has anyone ever been?" or "I was listening to this new album earlier today, has anyone else heard it?"
Whichever random topic of conversation you start when its quiet, will surely encourage at least one person to chime in!
I feel you with the social anxiety! I also disassociate when left alone with my own thoughts, so I end up staring for a bit before I realize. Oops. Usually I lipsync into my dildo with whatever song I'm playing. That usually gets the room talking, and helps to loosen me up. Plus it's pretty fucking hilariousPretty self explanatory. What do you do when you log on and there are over 20 people to start and everyone refuses to say anything. It doesn't help when you have social anxiety... Advice?
or john ends up leaving is usually the case for me hahaI have this problem too. The silent room is the WORST!!! lately what ive been doing is just spurting out whatever random thought pops into my head. And if its something dirty, you'll usually get a couple bites. Hehe. I love it when someone asks me a question because I can usually answer the question and kinda just use tge question to spin off into a conversation.
Also, if you call out someone by name, they might start talking. Like "hey! John!!! Where you watching me from tonight?" Sometimes they ignore you but most of the time they speak up!
Just my two cents. Happy camming!!
Commenting on a unique username can be a good conversation starter too. I've had many models mention the coffee part of my username when I come into their rooms. Even if it is something as simple as asking if I'm drinking coffee at the moment. Or asking how I drink it. If you see a username that catches your eye mention it and maybe they will engage in conversation.
I can see it going that way too. I usually figure of someone has an eye catching username they want/are used to being called out. While I'm not a big fan of being singled out myself in a way I don't mind being asked about coffee etc because it helps break the ice on my end too. Coming into a model's room and wondering what I'm going to say can sometimes cause the old social anxiety to flare. lolEvery single time I've commented on a member's username they leave my room right away! Even if it's like a popular character from TV or type of music or something we could've actually held a conversation about, haha. I think some people just don't like being singled out.