Hi, I'd want to inquire as to why my trans cam model girlfriend has been behaving so oddly these past few months? We have been together since last year in March, and she was not particularly well-known at the time. I was one of her first major viewers and not even a customer or client. It was never her body or anything else that drew me to her, even though I found her so very attractive. This was when she was averaging just 40 viewers and had 3000 followers, and when I first saw her she wasn't even naked or anything and hasn't had any surgeries because I went through all her surgeries with her, and she just started taking her hormones, and she was the most beautiful person I had ever been blessed to see and brought into my life, and still is no matter if she is trans, female or male, I fell in love with who she was for her once we got to know each other. That day I had to speak with her, so we got to know each other and became friends, and as time went by, we fell in love with one other. We always promised to each other to have a future together, to see each other, live together, and start a family. She even got on the phone with me and assisted me with the completion of the k1 fiancé visa paperwork, providing me with her personal information and everything else. I even sent her a gift to her current location. So, if you fast forward to now, the way she has been treating me and acting toward me is extremely painful, confusing, and horrible, and I'm not sure who she is anymore. She has been insulting me and getting personal with me, ignoring me so much, blocking me so much, telling me she no longer wants to be with me, that I am cheap and poor, and that she needs love and support all of the time, and then asking me why she would settle for someone like me when she is attractive and laughing after saying hurtful things to me. I'm telling you, she's transformed into a heartless monster who only wants support and that I haven't even given her $500 in one transaction, despite the fact that I've given her more in two days, but she keeps comparing me to other men who are her customers/clients and telling me I don't compare to them, sending me messages of the chat with them, the money amount, and the conversations, and she's giving me a lack of communication and attention, going hours and days without responding to me and making justifications for why she doesn't want to call or couldn't reply. She has truly changed since her viewership increased and her followers reached approximately 20,000, and she is currently at 40,000 followers and averaging over 200 viewers, but I am not a customer and have been here since the beginning, never giving up or quitting on our relationship, and she has received $6000 USD in pesos from me, but she continues to call me poor and cheap, stating that she does not want to be with a man like me or marry one because I am cheap, yet she still tells me she loves me and misses me. I'm sure no one has given her more than $6000 USD, and I gave it to her with nothing in return. She can't appreciate me or respect me, and she wants to call me cheap like I'm buying her like her customers/clients. Can someone explain to me why she is treating me like this and acting like this toward me? Is it because she is very new to everything and only 20 years old, as well as new to all of the attention and on hormones, still processing things and deciding whether she wants to be with me or not? I mean, is it because she is going through something because I believe she still loves me and wants to be with me and wants everything we discussed, and she knows I love her too, and I messed up plenty of times in the relationship and made up for everything, and we have been through so many ups and downs that I can't believe we aren't meant for each other? Can someone who has been in a similar situation or knows what I am going through and what she is going through assist us because I am heartbroken and concerned for her, and I know I will always be there for her, and I need someone's advice right now? I know this isn't therapy, but I want to talk to someone who understands what I am going through and what she is going through so they can help, because there is no way she is feeling like this type of person and believing I can't be there to provide for her after everything I've done, and she is just upset because she is comparing every little thing I do for her to exactly what her supposed customers/clients do for her. Please assist me if you can; I would greatly appreciate it, thank you.
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Very few people are going to read that full wall of text.
I scanned a few sentences and my first thought is that she is NOT your girlfriend and you’ve misunderstood the relationship between you (the member/customer/fan) and her (the model providing interaction and entertainment/content).
I scanned a few sentences and my first thought is that she is NOT your girlfriend and you’ve misunderstood the relationship between you (the member/customer/fan) and her (the model providing interaction and entertainment/content).
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It seems like you’re here looking for someone to tell you that this model really didn’t mean it when she said these things:
To me, that’s the answer to your question. She told you (per your words) she doesn’t want a relationship. Nobody here can tell you this model’s intentions better than she can (and apparently did).
Which leads me to this:
And this:
She’s comparing you to other customers because to her, you are one. And she’s trying to treat you like one, but it sounds like you’re not getting the hint.
I think you’ve only got two possible roles to fill for this model: customer, or former customer. I’d recommend becoming the latter.
To me, that’s the answer to your question. She told you (per your words) she doesn’t want a relationship. Nobody here can tell you this model’s intentions better than she can (and apparently did).
Which leads me to this:
And this:
She’s comparing you to other customers because to her, you are one. And she’s trying to treat you like one, but it sounds like you’re not getting the hint.
I think you’ve only got two possible roles to fill for this model: customer, or former customer. I’d recommend becoming the latter.
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Oh boy.... A tale as old as time.
Have you been on in-person dates? No? She is not your girlfriend.
Have you been on in-person dates? No? She is not your girlfriend.
^^ This
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I read the whole post (yay me for realizing I can lurk social media while getting my steps in on the walking pad!).
If you’re telling the whole, god honest truth, it seems like you were always just a meal ticket to her. Giving you her personal info for a K1 Visa could have been a ruse so that you would trust her and send more money, since she’d be your “fiancé”, without having any intention of following through with it. Or, she could have actually wanted you to go through with the visa process so she could get a green card through you. It’s not like love scams with the intention of getting a green card are unheard of.
She’s probably been telling other people she is in a relationship with them just like she has been telling you, and now that she is more popular and making more money she doesn’t feel the need to continue the love scam with you unless you cough up more money.
The reason why she’s being mean? More than likely it’s because she never actually liked you at all, and having to pretend to be in a relationship with you built a lot of resentment and now that she no longer needs your money she can take that resentment out on you without worrying about the potential consequence of losing her income.
I’m sorry if that came off as mean, but that’s my interpretation of what’s going on (if, like I said, all this is actually true). What you decide to do with that is up to you, but I’d advise cutting your losses, taking this as a learning opportunity and getting off of cam sites.
If you’re telling the whole, god honest truth, it seems like you were always just a meal ticket to her. Giving you her personal info for a K1 Visa could have been a ruse so that you would trust her and send more money, since she’d be your “fiancé”, without having any intention of following through with it. Or, she could have actually wanted you to go through with the visa process so she could get a green card through you. It’s not like love scams with the intention of getting a green card are unheard of.
She’s probably been telling other people she is in a relationship with them just like she has been telling you, and now that she is more popular and making more money she doesn’t feel the need to continue the love scam with you unless you cough up more money.
The reason why she’s being mean? More than likely it’s because she never actually liked you at all, and having to pretend to be in a relationship with you built a lot of resentment and now that she no longer needs your money she can take that resentment out on you without worrying about the potential consequence of losing her income.
I’m sorry if that came off as mean, but that’s my interpretation of what’s going on (if, like I said, all this is actually true). What you decide to do with that is up to you, but I’d advise cutting your losses, taking this as a learning opportunity and getting off of cam sites.
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Sounds like typical love-con; a scenario where a person uses love as a tool to manipulate or deceive another person.
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Copilot say this:'
It looks like this message is from an online forum where someone is seeking advice about their relationship with a cam model. The person is deeply invested emotionally and financially but feels hurt by how they’re being treated now that the model’s popularity has increased.
The response from the forum’s admin suggests that the original poster may have misunderstood the nature of their relationship with the model, viewing it as a romantic partnership when it may have been more of a professional interaction. This perspective can be difficult to process, especially when emotions and financial contributions are involved.
If this is a situation you’re dealing with, it may help to take a step back and assess whether your expectations align with reality. If you need support, speaking to a therapist or someone you trust might provide clarity. Relationships, especially those formed in online spaces, can be complex, and it’s important to prioritize emotional well-being.
It looks like this message is from an online forum where someone is seeking advice about their relationship with a cam model. The person is deeply invested emotionally and financially but feels hurt by how they’re being treated now that the model’s popularity has increased.
The response from the forum’s admin suggests that the original poster may have misunderstood the nature of their relationship with the model, viewing it as a romantic partnership when it may have been more of a professional interaction. This perspective can be difficult to process, especially when emotions and financial contributions are involved.
If this is a situation you’re dealing with, it may help to take a step back and assess whether your expectations align with reality. If you need support, speaking to a therapist or someone you trust might provide clarity. Relationships, especially those formed in online spaces, can be complex, and it’s important to prioritize emotional well-being.
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So would it be a bad thing for her career as a cam model to have pictures of us and say she's happily in a relationship on her socials. Like, ig, fb, and others? I am pretty sure it would be a bad career choice thing if she did put she's not single on her cam page. But I don't think there is anything wrong with doing it on socials, correct me if I am wrong please.
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There’s plenty of models who are open about being in a relationship and it doesn’t hurt their career. Parasocial members who are on camsites for the wrong reasons get upset over a cam model having a partner, but there’s a ton of normal dudes who don’t care.
She had more to gain at the time from scamming you than she did from retaining her other members, so that’s why she was “open about your relationship”.
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