Someone found me...?

[queenb333]

So let me start off by saying I've been camming for awhile, so I've had the threats, people wanting to out me, even declaring my boyfriends name and initials in chat!
But today something odd happened and I'm not sure how to react.
Someone who I met once or twice a long time ago, a good friend of my ex boyfriend, found my "cam" Twitter. I blocked him immediately! Thinking he may show others (my cam name isn't my real name)
Then... He followed my real Instagram.
Then... Someone messaged me wanting to google wallet me for snapchat and then when I went to accept him the initials were the same and he then told me his first name- yep same one!
I declined his money and said sorry! I know you irl and it's just awkward for me!
My question is this- I'm sure top models have guys they know do this all the time, do you accept?
Is it wrong to deny them to be my customer just bc we met once or twice?
Or better to keep my safety and protect being outed.
I feel a little guilty because all the guy wants is my snap but not sure if it's really that innocent and my ex really has no idea?

 

[JerryBoBerry]

I think you did the right thing by not letting that happen. I've heard some models don't mind. But I think most would do what you did.

Ultimately you have to do what makes you comfortable with it. If your first reaction is hell no, *block* then go with that.

 

[pocket sand]

Is it wrong to deny them to be my customer just bc we met once or twice?

Nothing wrong about it. You ultimately have to decide what is right or wrong for you.

I feel a little guilty

You really shouldn't. Nothing wrong with a better safe than sorry attitude towards certain things.

Is it possible to have a work snapchat and a different one for real life shenanigans?

 

[Entertainer33]

I think you did the right thing by not letting that happen. I've heard some models don't mind. But I think most would do what you did.

Ultimately you have to do what makes you comfortable with it. If your first reaction is hell no, *block* then go with that.

This is paramount. With a job like this, with the opportunity for a lot of uncomfortable/awkward decisions, go with your gut, go with what makes you comfortable. It's the only sure way you won't set yourself up for a bad time.

 

[DFT]

I declined his money and said sorry! I know you irl and it's just awkward for me!

I would advise never confirm if being found is important to you. Obfuscate - "thanks, she's pretty, do you like that girl? She's kind of short."

There are options, none after you confirm.

 

[yummybrownfox]

So let me start off by saying I've been camming for awhile, so I've had the threats, people wanting to out me, even declaring my boyfriends name and initials in chat!
But today something odd happened and I'm not sure how to react.
Someone who I met once or twice a long time ago, a good friend of my ex boyfriend, found my "cam" Twitter. I blocked him immediately! Thinking he may show others (my cam name isn't my real name)
Then... He followed my real Instagram.
Then... Someone messaged me wanting to google wallet me for snapchat and then when I went to accept him the initials were the same and he then told me his first name- yep same one!
I declined his money and said sorry! I know you irl and it's just awkward for me!
My question is this- I'm sure top models have guys they know do this all the time, do you accept?
Is it wrong to deny them to be my customer just bc we met once or twice?
Or better to keep my safety and protect being outed.
I feel a little guilty because all the guy wants is my snap but not sure if it's really that innocent and my ex really has no idea?

You definitely did the right thing! I would've done the same thing. It made you uncomfortable. It's just too awkward, and whether or not it seems "innocent," you never know...somewhere down the line he could end up using the whole "But you know me!" angle to try to get freebies or discounts out of you. Been there, done that. Of the two IRL guys who found me on MFC a few years ago and made their way into my public chat, nothing good ever came out of it for me. One of them expected freebies, NEVER tipped me, and blurted out "You used to work at ____" the moment he entered my chat. And the other kept blurting out my IRL nickname in public chat, and messaging me about how he misses hangin' out with me and my son. That second guy is the same one who I discovered created an online photo album dedicated to pics of ME, with my full name and location posted as each photo's caption. I had to contact the website to get that shit deleted.

You have the freedom to decline/block transactions with anyone you're not comfortable interacting with, and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Nah, you have the right to not do business with anybody for any reason. Plus, your reasons here are completely reasonable, and if he's at all reasonable, he'll see that. And I wouldn't feel too bad for him. There are plenty of women who will sell him their Snap without having to feel awkward about it.

 

[queenb333]

You definitely did the right thing! I would've done the same thing. It made you uncomfortable. It's just too awkward, and whether or not it seems "innocent," you never know...somewhere down the line he could end up using the whole "But you know me!" angle to try to get freebies or discounts out of you. Been there, done that. Of the two IRL guys who found me on MFC a few years ago and made their way into my public chat, nothing good ever came out of it for me. One of them expected freebies, NEVER tipped me, and blurted out "You used to work at ____" the moment he entered my chat. And the other kept blurting out my IRL nickname in public chat, and messaging me about how he misses hangin' out with me and my son. That second guy is the same one who I discovered created an online photo album dedicated to pics of ME, with my full name and location posted as each photo's caption. I had to contact the website to get that shit deleted.

You have the freedom to decline/block transactions with anyone you're not comfortable interacting with, and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Damn! What a creep!Yeah I've been on my fair share of hate sites trying to find my real name but luckily they never put two and two together. I could totally see the freebie thing happening! Thanks

 

[queenb333]

You all confirmed what I needed to be sure of haha, thanks! And true, there's other models in the sea.