What worries you?

[Blake Devine]

I worry about not having enough time for school and that I am not smart enough. I'm ignored a lot, I feel like people at my vanilla job don't take me seriously no matter how hard I try. Being single is a concern because for the most part I am OK with it there is a nagging thought that I will end up alone. More neighbors know my cat (she's outdoor sometimes) than me. It's kind of funny is a dark comedy sort of way.

Just keep swimming

 

[JohnnyAb]

I deal with depression and anxiety, so lots of things. I worry about disappointing people. My customers, my co-workers and managers, my friends, my family. When I'm out in public, I worry that people are watching me, silently judging me. Knowing how depression and anxiety effects me, I worry about my friends and family that deal them as well.

I worry that I'm attracted to and interested in all the women that will never have interest or attraction to me, leaving me single and alone for the rest of my life.

There's more, I just can't think of them right now.

 

[Yavin4MFC]

I worry that I'm attracted to and interested in all the women that will never have interest or attraction to me, leaving me single and alone for the rest of my life.

Same.

 

[AmberCutie]

I feel like this thread is sorta therapeutic. Sometimes just telling someone else what's on your mind helps free it up a little.

 

[Audus_Isaiah]

I worry that I am not spending my time in the right ways - and I am at the point where I will not be able to turn back. I'm worried I won't be able to go back to school now that I'm old (I really want to enter a PhD program, but I feel slower and need more time than used to be as an undergrad - how will I compete with 25 year old candidates?). I worry that although I love sex work, it will eventually close other doors - even though I love my community and representing it, it does mean that there are other things I will probably never do. I'm worried about getting old and ugly and all the money just disappearing and then being stuck doing normal stuff - and I'm worried that will happen sooner than I think and I will not have adjusted into learning something new by then.

 

[Osmia]

Someone upthread said that they worried about what would happen to their dogs/cats if they died. That's something I worry about also. I want my dogs to have a caring home, and I want them to stay together. Both are rescue dogs, and one of them in particular had a rough early life. I don't want their older years to be rough again. I could put something in my will to that effect, but whether it actually happens depends on the sense of responsibility and diligence of the executor, which as it currently stands, is not ideal.

A few years ago, I looked into a rather unique solution. The Texas A&M vet school has what's essentially a retirement home for companion animals (small and large animals, such as horses), called the Stevenson Companion Animal Life-Care Center. The facility looks nicer than most human retirement homes. The animals are well cared for for the rest of their lives, and receive the best medical care. The catch is that it's expensive--very expensive. I may still do this if I can't find a better option.

 

[AliceSombers]

I worry about never graduating from college, never having a real career, regretting my marriage, not living life to the fullest, ect. I have the worst social anxiety so I worry about small things too like filling my car with gas and having someone talk to me, going to the grocery store, answering phones, calling offices to make appointments, literally anything that involves talking or interacting with people.

 

[JohnnyAb]

I have the worst social anxiety so I worry about small things too like filling my car with gas and having someone talk to me, going to the grocery store, answering phones, calling offices to make appointments, literally anything that involves talking or interacting with people.

I experience this as well. I have phone calls that Ive needed to make for months, but I cannot make them. If I could do everything I needed to in person, it would take care of a lot of my problems. You can't read peoples expressions and body language over the phone. I've gotten better with the grocery store, but I almost have to prepare myself before going. Unprepared trips without a list have to be quick, only a handful of items. In public, I try to avoid eye contact with people that look like the have something to say or to ask.

I have accounts on two online dating sites. I've had one for about 9 months, the other for about 6. I have yet to go on any dates or even message anyone. I've missed opportunities to message women I was interested in because I am worried that they won't message me back, or I'll say something stupid, even that it will go well and eventually end, leaving me hurt and alone, yet again.

 

[paige_orion]

I am afraid of dying and my family not being able to support themselves. So it has been a goal of mine to start a fund that I can leave them when I die.

I am afraid I will soon have to be financially responsible for three different families, due to health reasons, and I am afraid I won't be strong enough. I am afraid I won't be able to be selfless enough and end up resentful if I have to be a caretaker.

I am afraid of my loved ones dying, especially through suicide. This is probably my biggest fear.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

I experience this as well. I have phone calls that Ive needed to make for months, but I cannot make them. If I could do everything I needed to in person, it would take care of a lot of my problems. You can't read peoples expressions and body language over the phone. I've gotten better with the grocery store, but I almost have to prepare myself before going. Unprepared trips without a list have to be quick, only a handful of items. In public, I try to avoid eye contact with people that look like the have something to say or to ask.

I have accounts on two online dating sites. I've had one for about 9 months, the other for about 6. I have yet to go on any dates or even message anyone. I've missed opportunities to message women I was interested in because I am worried that they won't message me back, or I'll say something stupid, even that it will go well and eventually end, leaving me hurt and alone, yet again.

Went through something similar, only it involved getting mail out of the mailbox. I watched it fill up. Got stuffed so full it couldn't hold anymore before the USPS quit delivering. Every day I would pull into the driveway, see it, and just feel sick. I would go inside the house and do whatever I had to do to put it out of my mind. Didn't get mail for like 2 years.

 

[AmberCutie]

If I could do everything I needed to in person, it would take care of a lot of my problems. You can't read peoples expressions and body language over the phone. I've gotten better with the grocery store, but I almost have to prepare myself before going.

OH man, no kidding. 1. doing things in person - if everything was right down the street, I'd much rather go in to a building and deal with something than call. 2. the grocery store - I'm "ok" with grocery shopping, but the line is what gets me anxious. If it's long, I worry I take too long to unload my cart, then worry if I don't get my ID or credit card out in time to be convenient, then stress about how much stuff I have on the conveyor belt if people line up behind me. I don't know why this makes my heart race and my palms sweat, but the checkout line is like my kryptonite.

 

[JohnnyAb]

In the grocery store, my biggest worry is people looking at what I'm purchasing and judging me for it. Being in people's way, other people being in my way, those are next on my list.

 

[katy556]

i have bpd so i worry about being abandoned and i get very anxious when im feeling lonely but i mostly feel lonely when im around people i do not trust. When my life/ mental health is going well i worry about whats gonna happen when it all goes to shit

Yay another cam girl with bpd!
Well I mean not yay, cos that sucks, but also its nice to know I'm not alone haha

 

[Blake Devine]

 

[Crumb]

I worry about the future, namely being destitute in my retirement. I am currently sacrificing my 'now', there is so much I want to do, but don't, to save more for my 'future'. I want travel and sex workers in my life when i'm 70 years old


on a lighter note... I also worry about a possible apocalypse, zombie or otherwise. I should be investing in precious metals because money will be worthless... I should be investing in solar powered things, because during an apocalypse, we won't have power... I should buy a crossbow and some swords and axes.. because, hello, zombies. I should be learning how to hunt and field dress animals, cause the grocery store ain't going to last long! etc etc
I know, I watch to much post apocalyptic sci fi.... but I also hope for a cyber punk type future. long live the corporations!

 

[fandango]

In the grocery store, my biggest worry is people looking at what I'm purchasing and judging me for it.

This is the reason I love the invention of automatic check outs, even though on an intelectual level I know that no one actually cares I still hate the feeling of someone looking at all the weird crap I like to buy.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

This is the reason I love the invention of automatic check outs, even though on an intelectual level I know that no one actually cares I still hate the feeling of someone looking at all the weird crap I like to buy.

Oh, they care, and they're looking. Every. Single. Item.
Not trying to be a smartass; it just so happens this was a nagging worry of mine for about a decade.

Brings to mind a very creepy experience I had. I was on the phone with a someone at a big company, don't even remember what it was about. She was talking with me, and someone there in the room with her. I overheard the guy in the background refer to me by a nickname I hadn't gone by since my childhood, followed by my last name.

 

[n_i_c_u]

Phone calls are something that I always try to avoid. Something about talking to a person that I don't know on the phone bothers me and makes even trying to call the cable company to get my internet working again a painful stressful experience. Even talking to people makes me nervous. I see people with bad breath and a mean personality have longer conversations with people I wish I could talk too (and the people don't mind... but I'm a weirdo and make it uncomfortable because I am uncomfortable).

I have this weird fear where I wake up in the middle of the night and think someone is in my apartment and they can see me naked. I am disoriented and don't know what is going on for a few seconds. I think this is mainly I don't want to freak anyone out with my nakedness.

I really worry about losing my job. I get great performance evaluations and people like me when they want something done right, but I always worry that I will somehow lose favor and be let loose. I've seen people get fired and escorted out of the building and that doesn't help. I try almost too hard to please everyone and it is tiring and I do get taken advantage of in the work environment while I watch other slackers just live it up because they have great personalities. I feel this is heart attack waiting to happen.

I also worry about having to move. I can't do another move, though I should. It's not like I have a lot of friends to do a "pizza" for help.

Owing people money. I don't want to ever have to do that. Especially if they charge interest.

(I'm too old for a psychiatrist)

 

[Gen]

Oh, they care, and they're looking. Every. Single. Item.

I was a grocery store cashier for a year and can guarantee I never gave even the tiniest fuck what people bought (except celebrities; one time Freddie Prinze Jr came in and bought a lot of soup). You see so many people a day and nothing is shocking or weird. As a customer I also don't care what other people buy because I'm too anxious about not having an awkward encounter, haha.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

I was a grocery store cashier for a year and can guarantee I never gave even the tiniest fuck what people bought (except celebrities; one time Freddie Prinze Jr came in and bought a lot of soup). You see so many people a day and nothing is shocking or weird. As a customer I also don't care what other people buy because I'm too anxious about not having an awkward encounter, haha.

My worry wasn't the cashiers, or the other customers.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Things that terrify me

Feeling like I'm gonna throw up, which is exactly how I felt this morning. I almost cancelled my two interviews today.

The thought of getting behind the wheel of a car. It's just not happening...

Outliving/burying my son.

 

[Ribbon]

I'm worried about school soo much lately, even though I definitely over-study rather than under-study. I really want to keep making good grades, but I'm worried I'm pushing myself too hard and will get burnt out. (Worrying about worrying, sounds healthy right? )

 

[yummybrownfox]

My worry wasn't the cashiers, or the other customers.

The GOV'MENT!

 

[justjoinedtopost]

The GOV'MENT!

Yeah, that TV show Conspiracy Theory with Jesse Ventura had me peeking out window blinds for a week straight once.

 

[Osmia]

Phone calls are something that I always try to avoid. Something about talking to a person that I don't know on the phone bothers me and makes even trying to call the cable company to get my internet working again a painful stressful experience.

I too dislike making calls on the phone. I'll send an email instead, if that's feasible (if it's not urgent, and it's a relatively simple question or statement). My problem with making calls has always been the fear that I'm calling at a bad time, that I'm disturbing the person on the other end (even at work,or especially at work). While part of me sees this as simple neurotic behavior, when you stop and think about it, phone calls are objectively disturbing and disruptive in a way that other forms of interaction are not. When the phone rings, especially at work, you feel almost compelled to answer it, like you're one of Pavlov's dogs. Because it might be important. Caller ID has been a huge help, as has email, because it's asynchronous.

My main worries are typical of an older person: that my health will decline too fast, that I will be alone and yet ever more dependent on others, that I won't feel like I've lived a good life.

Finally, I worry about cynicism and lack of optimism among many young people today, especially regarding national politics here in the US. The system has been severely dysfunctional for 10 to 20 years in varying degrees, and many young people may never have known anything different and assume that this is how it's supposed to be (it's not).

 

[JohnnyAb]

(I'm too old for a psychiatrist)

Wrong. No one is ever too anything to see a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, shrink, etc.

 

[Admiralfoot]

My wife has some bone disorders that have had her disabled for a few years and she is on constant pain. I worry she will lose hope and stop seeking treatment. And be content living a life on narcotics.

 

[Yavin4MFC]

Is this all I'm good for? Will I ever be able to show others just how much I can do? ...Will they even care?

 

[n_i_c_u]

Wrong. No one is ever too anything to see a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, shrink, etc.

I often wonder if this is really true. A lot of it is being able to dish out the cash...plus I'm so old, and tried it once and wasn't completely honest (trust issues with the guy). But I do see not only you, but lots of people doing or suggesting therapy. A part of me thinks it is for the younger generation--I'm kind of in constant state of in medias res and given the age I am I wonder if it would be helpful (though I am sure wouldn't mind would love being eased a bit).

 

[Booty_4U]

I haven't answered any emails in about 2 weeks because I've been too anxious. I worry that people think I'm ignoring them, which just makes it even harder for me to get back to them!