Would you meet IRL someone who tips you $7,000?

[Magnolia]

Sure, at the club I work at. You know, where I'm in control, time is closely watched, and there is security everywhere.

Actually, I allow people to buy time with me at the club through my website, I would accept payment via tokens.

 

[Grave_Kitten]

Not in a million years, (unless my favourite musician or celeb happened to stumble upon me and tip me so much haha Then I would totally take the chance of meeting them).

 

[Lelo1]

I have to agree with what's already been said. It doesn't sound like a great position for any one to put a model in. Along the same lines, I wouldn't string any one along. If you don't want to do it. Don't take tips or incourage tipping that supports this narrative.

 

[Miss_Steamshow]

Both trying to get her to come to their country (one is USA).

As far as I know sometimes it's worth risking your life to get out of Russia

 

[justjoinedtopost]

As far as I know sometimes it's worth risking your life to get out of Russia

No, from what she has shared she is living a pretty good life. Studying for a career in a rather advanced field, doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to (good family). She is smart as the dickens and going somewhere. Seems to like where she lives. Romance seems to be the thing drawing her.

she is not really in Russia. but I've told her I'll play along as long as she wants me too.

 

[RebeccaT]

Random totally unrelated things:

I'm not sure how the My True Lover App works, but shouldn't it be reflected in the tip goal?
And if 7 FPS is all that's needed to have a smooth stream, then I'm bumping down my internet speed immediately because I've been overpaying for faster speeds (that I'm probably not getting most of anyway).

I spotted that...7fps? I get 35 - 45fps on CB. If it drops to below 15 I log out. (Mr T said "Perhaps the tip is to upgrade her internet")

But, congratulations

EDIT: I met Mr T on the internet...

 

[CaymeLady]

Please don't get confused, 7fps is mobile rate (this screenshot was made on mobile phone)

 

[MsLexi77]

I need a tip like that but to answer your question NO.

 

[LittleLei]

Random totally unrelated things:

I'm not sure how the My True Lover App works, but shouldn't it be reflected in the tip goal?
And if 7 FPS is all that's needed to have a smooth stream, then I'm bumping down my internet speed immediately because I've been overpaying for faster speeds (that I'm probably not getting most of anyway).

LOL RIGHT, I pay for the highest service internet from my provider and I only get between 25-30. Once it starts dropping to 15 and below I have to figure out if I should stay on or not.

 

[Rose]

If I were attending a convention, like FetCon where I encouraged people on twitter to come find me in the pool party, and a member tipped an extreme amount, then I may consider meeting him at the convention bar and letting him buy me a drink while we made small talk. Granted, he'd never touch the drink, it would be extremely public, there would probably be other camgirls with me, a male escort of my choosing would be directly beside me at all times, and the interactions wouldn't leave that convention's public bar.

In certain circumstances with extra precautions, it *may* be considered.

 

[StacySins]

Nope, never

 

[NataliaGrey]

I don't understand why a member would stop watching a girl who sells dates or has date raffles. Obviously if that doesn't interest you, just don't buy it. I feel like if the idea of paying for a camgirl's attention/time offends you, a cam site probably isn't a good place for you. I'm not sure why it being in the "real world" is suddenly objectionable. It's basically just a conversation-based true private, set in the real world.

If it's about danger, you don't know what precautions she has set in place.

I agree that you shouldn't meet with a member JUST because he's a big tipper, but if you like him and feel like you have are able to create a safe-ish environment, why not? Obviously nothing is completely safe, but I'm sure the majority of people put themselves in more dangerous situations on a frequent basis than meeting an MFC member.

 

[Leon_Omega]

This is way too true. I have heard SO MANY stories from fellow cam girls about how they trusted a regular with their real name or other personal information, only to have the member turn around after a period of time and use it against them. As hard as it is, because people can be so damn nice, the ultimate key is to TRUST NO ONE. Absolutely no one, even if you want to.

While I'm all for trust between members and camgirls (as some of you guys may know) as well as meetups, I do feel that this is an important thing to keep in mind. Ultimately the trustworthy people who wouldn't hold your personal details over your head like the Doxx of Damocles will understand why you would be hesitant to reveal that information.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

I don't understand why a member would stop watching a girl who sells dates or has date raffles. Obviously if that doesn't interest you, just don't buy it.

Your second sentence here should completely clear up any lack of understanding that you expressed in your first.

 

[Azhrarn]

I only ever do group date raffles. In highly public places. Really going on a date with a member isn't much more dangerous than meeting someone on a dating site.

I'm surprised by the reactions to this topic I guess. Like... date raffles are so common on MFC. :/

You're surprised that cam girls on a cam girl *cough* friendly *cough* forum are all giving the same politically correct answer? This is just one of countless contradictions and double-standards you'll find here.

"Oh sure, I become friends with my regs all the time! We have deep meaningful conversations over Skype..."

What's that? Would I ever meet up with one of them? Even if I'd been chatting with them for a year, and they tipped generously and I had their contact info? Oh fuck no, not in a million years, ever!

What's that? Do I wanna come hang out with you and a couple of biker guys you just met at some dive bar? They're paying for drinks and they know where to get weed? Oh sure, that sounds like fun, I'll be right there."

One girl will claim she never dates regulars and then flies out to meet one of them over a weekend. Another won't ever meet up with a regular, but has no problem hanging out with "friends" who got her roofied.

Pure entertainment.

 

[SexySteph]

You're surprised that cam girls on a cam girl *cough* friendly *cough* forum are all giving the same politically correct answer? This is just one of countless contradictions and double-standards you'll find here.

"Oh sure, I become friends with my regs all the time! We have deep meaningful conversations over Skype..."

What's that? Would I ever meet up with one of them? Even if I'd been chatting with them for a year, and they tipped generously and I had their contact info? Oh fuck no, not in a million years, ever!

What's that? Do I wanna come hang out with you and a couple of biker guys you just met at some dive bar? They're paying for drinks and they know where to get weed? Oh sure, that sounds like fun, I'll be right there."

One girl will claim she never dates regulars and then flies out to meet one of them over a weekend. Another won't ever meet up with a regular, but has no problem hanging out with "friends" who got her roofied.

Pure entertainment.

I'm more referring to the disdain or shock that member's have that girls will meet members.

But you seem to think camgirls are some stereotypical irresponsible train-wreck girl who puts herself in dangerous situations that you see in teen movies. You doing okay, kid?

 

[Azhrarn]

I'm more referring to the disdain or shock that member's have that girls will meet members.

But you seem to think camgirls are some stereotypical irresponsible train-wreck girl who puts herself in dangerous situations that you see in teen movies. You doing okay, kid?

Not all, but some, yes. The examples I gave are ones I've personally verified.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

@Azhrarn I think it's fair enough to say that any model who meets a member should do so with caution. Many people in the world make crazy decisions. Yes, there are some camgirls who meet members without preparation, however they should be more cautious. Would I meet up with a guy for money? No. The closest I'd ever maybe get to meeting a member would likely be by accident, or somewhere like an adult convention like how @Rose described. The idea of a group date raffle like @SexySteph said is a fairly safe method, but again it's important to remember that bad things can still happen in even that situation.

Even if nothing bad happens during the time together, the member might still find out personal info, and such. Unlike a regular job (even a regular sex work job) camgirls don't really have a means of escape, since many can just create new accounts.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

...and they know where to get weed? Oh sure, that sounds like fun, I'll be right there.

I forgot about weed in my earlier hypothetical "if I was a camgirl" scenario.

I agree with @Azhrarn here; if you got weed, we can forget all about the $7,000 onsite tip and the $10,000 CIA tip. Just tell me where and what time you want me to show up. Weed changes the whole equation.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

Sure, at the club I work at. You know, where I'm in control, time is closely watched, and there is security everywhere.

Actually, I allow people to buy time with me at the club through my website, I would accept payment via tokens.

You are a little different in my book. If the price was reasonable, I would have no problems pontificating with you over a few drinks.

But I do not view you in a sexual or romantic light (though you are indeed very sexually attractive). I view you as a high caliber entertainer. A celebrity. Of course, this would not stop me from crying "SCAMMER!!" if an autograph was not included in the meetup price.

 

[Magnolia]

You are a little different in my book. If the price was reasonable, I would have no problems pontificating with you over a few drinks.

But I do not view you in a sexual or romantic light (though you are indeed very sexually attractive). I view you as a high caliber entertainer. A celebrity. Of course, this would not stop me from crying "SCAMMER!!" if an autograph was not included in the meetup price.

I only autograph butt cheeks. And bewbs.

 

[NataliaGrey]

Your second sentence here should completely clear up any lack of understanding that you expressed in your first.

Yeah, I still don't get it. So you don't buy the date, that doesn't mean you can't buy one of the many other things she may offer that might interest you. You said you would probably have no further interest in the model if you found out she offered this, why?

 

[Sansa]

@Azhrarn I think it's fair enough to say that any model who meets a member should do so with caution. Many people in the world make crazy decisions. Yes, there are some camgirls who meet members without preparation, however they should be more cautious. Would I meet up with a guy for money? No. The closest I'd ever maybe get to meeting a member would likely be by accident, or somewhere like an adult convention like how @Rose described. The idea of a group date raffle like @SexySteph said is a fairly safe method, but again it's important to remember that bad things can still happen in even that situation.

Even if nothing bad happens during the time together, the member might still find out personal info, and such. Unlike a regular job (even a regular sex work job) camgirls don't really have a means of escape, since many can just create new accounts.

This. Most of the time girls do dates, it seems to be a double date and usually at a convention.

Even in a crowded setting, like an Exotica convention, it would be so easy for a member to follow a model around and learn info. Like, no way I'd go to something like that alone, and bring any of my friends means my real name is being said out loud. Or that member could follow a girl to her car and see her license plate. That said, I don't even think it's that safe at conventions unless you're really in trusted hands with several other models.

Some members insist that if someone tipped five grand worth of tokens that any model would meet up with that member. And...no. A lot of models don't like the idea of meeting up with members because they have a boyfriend or husband, not just for safety reasons.

 

[Guy]

Would you?

Thats a lot of money. He might be an addict.

 

[caireen]

I would probably meet a member for that much. If he didn't send me super creepy vibes. I would bring a friend and meet somewhere public. I've definitely gone on dates with guys off the net before and been much less careful- and for free.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

Yeah, I still don't get it. So you don't buy the date, that doesn't mean you can't buy one of the many other things she may offer that might interest you. You said you would probably have no further interest in the model if you found out she offered this, why?

Well that was kind of a blanket statement I threw out there. As I mentioned, there are exceptions; a lot of it depends on the performer in question.

But most of the time I view "dates" as tacky, tasteless, and reeking of chicanery. Just the impression I usually get from them. Sort of has the same effect on me as a model asking outright to be tipped. It makes me lose interest.

This is just me though. One opinion among many, and I may well represent the minority. I wouldn't give it too much weight.

 

[NerdieBirdie]

I went on a "date" with my highest accumulative tipper of all time (he has collectively tipped quadruple the amount my second accumulative tipper has tipped, to put it in perspective) back in July. He bought us tickets to Neil Young. I had a situation in June where the highest accumulative tipper for that month would when a day/night out with me. My boyfriend brought me to the venue, (it was at Summerfest) so he stayed on the grounds outside of the show, and the guy met me at the amphitheater, I regularly texted my boyfriend with checkins (though it wasn't needed, the member, who I consider a friend, was incredibly respectful, never even asked to hug me or anything.) We had a great time! Afterward my boyfriend was waiting at the exit of the grounds so I was immediately escorted by him back to our car.

This guy doesn't tip me to be sexual or do cumshows. He started tipping me in May and quickly grew fond of me and invested a lot of time. We spoke a lot outside of MFC and there was/has never been anything to make me worry. I feel like women just have a feel for who to meet and who not to meet.

I would likely not consider meeting someone who hasn't tipped a minimum over $10,000 over time and that is the number I have stuck with. Someone who invests that kind of financial commitment can be taken more seriously than someone who tips 1000 or 2000 tokens once and asks me about meeting. Basically anyone who asks me to meet gets crossed off the potential meet list. It is something I feel I do as a courtesy to those who have shown they have a high level of respect for me.

To those who are all, "OMG YOU COULD GET KILLED!" Well, I live in central Milwaukee, WI. People get hit by stray bullets here every day. I could easily get killed any day of the week. There are endless creepy people I know in real life who could easily kidnap me too. Some people are good and some people are bad.

 

[LilyBlueBBW]

I am kind of a girl that is on the fence about that. I would definitely meet one of my followers but only if I get a background check and a police clearance beforehand. I just don't want to walk into a situation that could be bad for my health, you know like a damn murderer.

 

[SexySteph]

Even in a crowded setting, like an Exotica convention, it would be so easy for a member to follow a model around and learn info.

I know I keep chiming in on this topic but since very few of us have said we'd do dates and those of us that wouldn't keep bringing up safety issues I just want to dispel any concerns about safety that people keep bringing up. Not like "date raffles are safe" but just "hey, most of us that do date raffles are actually doing them safely and aren't being idiots".

At least of the girls that I have done double date raffles with:
Only use cash (no one can see your card), if you DO need to use cards, both walk away from the members and make the transaction and then return to the group (if we aren't in a open enough area that we can see that the members remain an appropriate distance away so that can be done safely we don't do that).
See the date off before you get in your car. (This is easier in places like Disney where you can watch him get on a shuttle to his parking spot and know that unless he's a magician he's not going to somehow be able to follow you to yours.)
Don't do the date in our home cities. (Worst case scenario he somehow follows you back to your hotel, he'd still have to figure out the room you're in, and you have that extra layer of protection. Bonus, the date cannot possibly follow you to your OWN home).
This is an inadvertent safety feature but since dates are only done while traveling you're not driving our personal vehicles so they'd be unable to associate a rental car tags with our real names.

I mean, yeah, if a member wants to murder you he's going to find a way but most of these safety measures go a long way in preventing most risks.

Sorry if I seem super defensive of dates but I just want to demonstrate that many of us that do them aren't going into them willy nilly just money hungry and not thinking about safety concerns. And the impression that I've gotten from this thread (members and models) is that many think we're not considering safety risks and are naively walking around with our heads in the clouds.

 

[Sansa]

@SexySteph I completely agree with your points and all of that is really good advice for anyone who wants to do meet-ups.

I guess I am just vehemently against the idea for myself personally because I really have not had good experiences with things like dating sites, something where sex might be expected in some context from another. Some would get really hostile and weird really fast after seeming super nice at first. I stopped using sites like that because of how uncomfortable some of the guys made me feel and so close to home. Camsites seem like a breeding ground for something similar, and it really doesn't take much at all to figure out who someone is.

I've been meeting up with people over the internet for several years, and I've never had any issues with feeling uncomfortable unless it was someone from a dating site. In the camming world I'd feel perfectly fine meeting up with another model if I knew her well enough, but a member? No.