As a fellow 22 year old who cams from her family's apartment - it works, but prepare to be caught, and prepare to have to lie to your parents over and over again. You'll quickly find out if it's worth the trouble. For me, it's more than worth it.
I'll tell you my story to give you an image of what you'll have to deal with if you decide to start camming without your parents' consent under their roof and to explain to you why it makes sense for me to be a camgirl against all odds.
I started on MFC in August 2011 without telling my mother about it (there's no father in my story
). I quit my call center job after 3 weeks on MFC because it just didn't make sense to continue doing something I didn't enjoy for little money, when I could focus on MFC instead. In October '11, my mother went through my bag and found bank statements from MFC. That's how I had to admit what I'd been doing. I told her back then that I already quit after a few weeks of camming because it wasn't my thing. I kept doing it. I cammed at night when she and my brother were sleeping, and sometimes during the day on days I didn't have to go to school, when my mom was at work and my brother at school. In March she found bank statements again, by going through my handbag again.
That's where the real lies started. I told her I had money from MFC on my bank account because I'd been receiving huge offline tips from one wealthy guy I met on MFC during my time there. I said all the money came from offline tips and that I'd never actually cammed again. My mother told me to tell the tipper to stop it and to 'not give me any more money'. I told her I would do that.
Because I could
still afford to buy things without ever having a job, she always remained suspicious, always.
At the end of 2012, she went through my bag once again and found bank statements with MFC on them, and there was way too much money in my account, and I had to explain to her that I'd gotten offline tips from this guy throughout the
whole year. - This is what she currently believes. She thinks I just had this one sugar daddy type of guy who kept offline tipping me to care for me. She thinks that's where all the money always came from.
She's not OK with the thought of me camming at all, and it took all the acting skills I could find in me to be able to convince her that I don't actually cam but only get offline tips.
Now, when I say 'she went through my bag again' it doesn't sound like much, but it always ended in screaming and tears and me desperately making up new details about this 'offline tipper' so she wouldn't think I was still camming.
Then - apart from having an explanation for where your money comes from - there's lots of
little things you have to take care of, of course.
* Don't leave your bank statements lying around. Don't leave them in your bag. Don't be stupid like me.
* Don't buy underwear that's too sexy if you use your family's washing machine. You won't be able to explain a corset or something.
* You can't have a lighting kit or a whiteboard or other big, unhideable objects that are absolutely essential for many camgirls.
* Lock your door at night. It's not only bad if your mother comes into your room while you're actually masturbating - if she hears you talking, comes in, and you're just sitting there with a full face of make-up and not wearing much else, you'll have some explaining to do. My go-to excuse if this should ever happen will be that I'm skyping with my S.O.
I don't even have a key for my door, I have to pull the bed in front of the door before a shift.
* Don't let anyone use your computer under any circumstances. Come up with excuses for why they can't use it ('I'm preparing something for Christmas/your birthday/a surprise, and I can't risk you seeing it!'; actually prepare something). If you leave your room, lock your computer so people have to enter a password to get to it. - Soon, you'll have naked/half-naked pictures of yourself everywhere, you'll have camsites (or this forum
) in your bookmarks or among your frequently visited sites, you'll have graphics your made for your profile somewhere, you'll basically have camming stuff all over your PC if you take camming seriously. Believe me.)
* Don't leave things like raffle tickets or toys lying around, no matter how tired or lazy you are after a shift. Hide them. Lock them away.
This is one huge big fat lie that I've been keeping up, and if I didn't know in my heart that camming is the right thing for me and that it makes me happy as fuck, I wouldn't be able to do this to my mother. I keep hoping that she'll come around someday. She met a model friend and her boyfriend when they were visiting me last year and we all chatted for a couple hours. I think that got her closer to believing that cam models are actually normal people, but she's faaar from accepting the thought of her own daughter doing that. She might never accept it.
So why do I still do this, even though it's wrong to lie to your parents, even though it would make her unhappy if she knew and even though it puts me under loads of stress and I'm actually worried about leaving the house when my family's at home?
Because, like I said, it makes me happy and I wouldn't want to miss it for anything. I can NOT imagine a better job for me while I'm still going to school. I'll keep doing this to save money and be able to stand on my own feet until I finish my studies (English Studies and Germanistics) and find a job as a translator that pays well, and then there won't be a secret anymore. That's the perfect scenario I'm imagining. It could all end horribly with me and my mother, too.
But camming has changed my life, and to be honest I wouldn't give it up even if my mother kicked me out of the house.
You'll have to find out if keeping up a lie and a secret life in front of your parents' nose is worth the trouble and you should be able to tell after a month or two of camming.
She already knows I've been getting money from MFC. Whether I got it from camming, or from this one guy through offline tips, is something she can't prove/disprove. I assume by 'find out again' you mean find out that I still cam, right?
