Who the F*$%# are you?! Introduce yourself here.

[usul xH]

Hi, the community

My name is Usul. I'm a part of the Creator Acquisition Division at xHamster.
I've joined BHW to find a teammate who will help us with attracting more creators.

If you are a native Japanese speaker, currently live in Japan and keen on develop a career in the adult industry, feel free to reach me usul@xhamster.com

Great day to all,
Usul xH

 

[frenchdick93]

Hi,

Im new on here, Im broadcaster on CB : Frenchdick93

 

[nanners]

hey my names nanners im 25 and im a cam girl i did it on and off for a few weeks when i was 18 but im trying to get back into it which is part of why im here lol dont be shy say heyyy!!!!!

 

[itsliamcor4]

Hi, I'm Liam and I like to eat bread.

 

[nanners]

Hi, I'm Liam and I like to eat bread.

not big on bread but i like grilled cheese lol eating one now actually!!!

 

[Artreggialis]

Hi I'm Chris, occasional streamer-for-fun and soon-to-be clinical psychologist living Australia, I'm here simping hard for a girl that may be a bit too sweet and honest to make it long-term as a cam model (she flat refused to let me pay for her nails that she was struggling to afford, after which point I'll basically move the fucking earth for her) but in the meantime I'm here seeking advice on a problem she's pulling her hair out over.

 

[Lilly_____]

Hi I'm Chris, occasional streamer-for-fun and soon-to-be clinical psychologist living Australia, I'm here simping hard for a girl that may be a bit too sweet and honest to make it long-term as a cam model (she flat refused to let me pay for her nails that she was struggling to afford, after which point I'll basically move the fucking earth for her) but in the meantime I'm here seeking advice on a problem she's pulling her hair out over.

Oh because long term cam girls cannot possibly be sweet and honest for fucks sake

 

[Artreggialis]

Oh because long term cam girls cannot possibly be sweet and honest for fucks sake

1. Didn't say that. 2. Think you might have misinterpreted the jocular tone of the comment just a touch. 3. Your choice of words in demanding that the sweetness of cam girls be recognised gave me a chuckle, thanks.

Of course there are plenty of sweet/honest cam girls, I wouldn't be here if otherwise. It'd make for an interesting discussion though, to debate the various pros and cons of a character trait such as honesty in this industry.

 

[Lilly_____]

Defensive much?

Also. The pros and cons of being honest? Really?

Nope.

 

[Awesome_Alexa]

what???? i been a model for years.... i like to think i am nice people say i am at-least. so dont know lol

 

[Artreggialis]

Defensive much?

It's this strangely common way people will respond sometimes when you make an aggressive/offensive comment directed at them. I didn't even invent it.

Also. The pros and cons of being honest? Really?

Wait, you do want to to discuss it? You sure?

what???? i been a model for years.... i like to think i am nice people say i am at-least. so dont know lol

The fact that you fondly remember when someone tells you you're nice makes me certain you're a very lovely person Raychel.

 

[Awesome_Alexa]

It's this strangely common way people will respond sometimes when you make an aggressive/offensive comment directed at them. I didn't even invent it.



Wait, you do want to to discuss it? You sure?


The fact that you fondly remember when someone tells you you're nice makes me certain you're a very lovely person Raychel.

thank you

 

[Lilly_____]

I'm just baffled by someone implying that honesty could be an obstacle to thrive in this or any industry. Or sweetness, or kindness. These are strong points, not weak points. They are not the same as being naive.

But this isn't the place to discuss it so I'm sorry to have turned this conversation into this.

 

[MarieElise]

I'm just baffled by someone implying that honesty could be an obstacle to thrive in this or any industry. Or sweetness, or kindness. These are strong points, not weak points. They are not the same as being naive.

But this isn't the place to discuss it so I'm sorry to have turned this conversation into this.

The way he worded stuff did come across really bad. He's also kind of setting himself up as some kind of expert who gatekeeps this industry when the likelihood is he knows nothing about it at all. His words and phrasing definitely infer a certain attitude that we see all too often. So he definitely isn't coming across very well at all. Not to mention how cringe it is that he's here talking, and not her.

But I'd just ignore him. I can totally see why you called him out, he did present himself rudely/ thoughtlessly. And now instead of letting it go he's getting into some kind of defensive ego war with you to try and save face. It looks bad, but you're never gonna get anywhere with him. He'll never back down or apologize. Those types never do, once they're on the defensive. You can go to his profile and put him on ignore. That way you won't see anything further that he has to say, and the people who want to interact with him (if there are any) can.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Hi I'm Chris, occasional streamer-for-fun and soon-to-be clinical psychologist living Australia, I'm here simping hard for a girl that may be a bit too sweet and honest to make it long-term as a cam model (she flat refused to let me pay for her nails that she was struggling to afford, after which point I'll basically move the fucking earth for her) but in the meantime I'm here seeking advice on a problem she's pulling her hair out over.

Hi, Chris! There was a guy on here a while ago who'd made a similar comment about how a girl he knows is "too sweet to be a cam model," (or maybe he'd said "too nice?") and I remember reading it and thinking Well what the hell does that mean??? ? But when you say that this girl is "too sweet," I guess you're just referring to things like her refusing to take your money (for her nails)...and who's super nice to everyone (including rude assholes)? Like so sweet that it almost makes you feel guilty for asking for a pussy flash? Like The Golden Girls' Rose Nylund "Okey dokey!" sweet? Lol.

 

[jillianna]

I’m Mrslonely on MFC. New to camming. 28, straight married. Looking for a cam girl in my area to have my first girl on girl. Any takers? I’m in central west florida.

Did you ever get any takers?

 

[Bennextdoor]

Hi everyone! I’m Ben from Canada, looking to start my new cam page on chaturbate. Looking forward to chatting with you all.

 

[TittyKittyCams]

Hi!
I'm a fairly new web cam model , TittyKitty . I cam on streammate.com and I also offer private online sessions and services but I have a hard time finding somewhere to advertise and that's how I found you!
nice to meet to you and I love that you've set this site up!!!

 

[lildaisy]

Hi beauties! I'm Daisy, new to this industry! I'm a student studying medicine Glad to meet ya!

 

[ArcticKitty]

I'm just baffled by someone implying that honesty could be an obstacle to thrive in this or any industry. Or sweetness, or kindness. These are strong points, not weak points. They are not the same as being naive.

But this isn't the place to discuss it so I'm sorry to have turned this conversation into this.

Please don't feel any need to apologise, @cantsleep! He came right out of the gate with an insulting and prejudiced remark about the character of models. I'm just wondering if someone thinks that, then what do they have to say for themselves about their own moral standing in going to camsites?

And he says he's going to be a clinical psychologist?? *shaking my head*

 

[asian_twink_kurt03]

I am handsome, kiss me baby

 

[Artreggialis]

Hi, Chris! There was a guy on here a while ago who'd made a similar comment about how a girl he knows is "too sweet to be a cam model," (or maybe he'd said "too nice?") and I remember reading it and thinking Well what the hell does that mean??? ? But when you say that this girl is "too sweet," I guess you're just referring to things like her refusing to take your money (for her nails)...and who's super nice to everyone (including rude assholes)? Like so sweet that it almost makes you feel guilty for asking for a pussy flash? Like The Golden Girls' Rose Nylund "Okey dokey!" sweet? Lol.

Wasn't intending to engage with what was started here earlier, but when I saw your comment I couldn't resist, I just love it.

I love the fact that your post doesn't even bother pretending you've got any interest in addressing the issue, or in expressing empathy for the person you're supposedly supporting. Why waste time with that when instead you can just go balls-deep with the ad hominem venom and personal attacks, right?

The thing I love even more though is how gleeful you are when you think you're pointing out to me the various pathetic things I said in that post, apparently oblivious to the fact that was the entire point. Self depreciation humour is great for introductions... Partly because whenever someone sees it as an opportunity to out-alpha you, it's generally a pretty good indication that they've probably got a shitty personality....?

 

[Ozzie_]

Hi I'm Chris, occasional streamer-for-fun and soon-to-be clinical psychologist living Australia, I'm here simping hard for a girl that may be a bit too sweet and honest to make it long-term as a cam model (she flat refused to let me pay for her nails that

Mate, I don't see anything particularly self-deprecating here, but there are certainly some phrases and terms that can be *easily* misconstrued as taking a negative swipe at the female cam model community (or at least implying that negativity).

she was struggling to afford, after which point I'll basically move the fucking earth for her) but in the meantime I'm here seeking advice on a problem she's pulling her hair out over.

I would suggest that instead of getting into a pissing match with the models here, you should go start the thread that will help the object of your attentions stop pulling her hair out.

Oh.. and as an observation.. for a soon-to-be clinical psychologist, you seem to have too little empathy / ability to "read the crowd" and minimal or maybe underdeveloped communication skills.

 

[Brit]

@Artreggialis Are you by any chance an INTJ or INxP?

 

[Artreggialis]

He came right out of the gate with an insulting and prejudiced remark about the character of models.

Genuinely was not intending to insult anyone, and there's a lot of presumptions being drawn here, although if that is universally how my joke (that was directed at my friend) was interpreted, I can't say that isn't at all on me.... (Although maybe that's just the vocal ones...)

I'm just wondering if someone thinks that, then what do they have to say for themselves about their own moral standing in going to camsites?

I mean..... You could ask me what I think, if you want? You might discover I'm not quite such an asshole as you've decided I am? I mean, probably not, I'm clearly Satan, but it can't hurt to try, right?

 

[Artreggialis]

Mate, I don't see anything particularly self-deprecating here, but there are certainly some phrases and terms that can be *easily* misconstrued as taking a negative swipe at the female cam model community (or at least implying that negativity).

I would suggest that instead of getting into a pissing match with the models here, you should go start the thread that will help the object of your attentions stop pulling her hair out.

Oh.. and as an observation.. for a soon-to-be clinical psychologist, you seem to have too little empathy / ability to "read the crowd" and minimal or maybe underdeveloped communication skills.

I find that referring to someone as a simp is usually quite depreciating. Glad to hear you refer to it as misconstrued, that's a step in the right direction away from the intentional malice narrative.

Oh.. and as an observation.. for a soon-to-be clinical psychologist, you seem to have too little empathy / ability to "read the crowd" and minimal or maybe underdeveloped communication skills.

Wow, that comment went from somewhat-amiable to dark in an eye-blink. wasn't expecting it to end with concerns for my childhood development. "read the crowd" Since you said it though, what makes you believe that? Just because I'm still responding despite the majority apparently being against me?

 

[Artreggialis]

@Artreggialis Are you by any chance an INTJ or INxP?

No, not I.

 

[Ozzie_]

"read the crowd" Since you said it though, what makes you believe that? Just because I'm still responding despite the majority apparently being against me?

No, not that.

The fact that you still seem to be completely oblivious (or uncaring) that the corollary of your statement that your friend might be too sweet for a long-term career in camming is that most career cam-models are dishonest, jaded, horrible crack-whores or similar. ?‍ That is what is winning you no friends here.

This forum community is a wealth of information and support, but alienating those who are the actual foundation of the community (the models), and then doubling down when called out on it, is counter-productive at best, and idiotic at worst.

 

[Artreggialis]

But that is literally a true statement, and I think that if you spent even half a second thinking about it you'd reach the same conclusion. (unless you're intentionally being disingenuous, and since you're now for some unknown reason arbitrarily injecting terms like "career cam-models are dishonest, jaded, horrible crack-whores" into the discussion when nothing of the sort has been even remotely referenced, I'm sort of leaning that way.)

I'll expand on my own very narrow experience involving my friend (she's not the object of my affection, just a sweet girl who's channel i visited a couple of times and now stay in touch with offline). The past two months, her and her mother have come extremely close to eviction. Yet she tells me that she makes decisions in her channel like giving 30 minutes of a 45 minute private-chat to a user for free, just because most of it wasn't sexual and she didn't think that was fair.

Would you honestly say that's not a good example of a cam-girl being too sweet? Yes, I feel quite justified with my original comment. She is too sweet.

 

[eyeteach]

not big on bread but i like grilled cheese lol eating one now actually!!!

Okay, you were heading to the top of the list with your screen-nic, but then you doubled down with grilled cheese! I swear if you say that you're Gryffindor I'll declare you as absolutely perfect and share my credit cards with you!