HarmlessSquirrel said:
Men tend to verbally "spar" with their friends, by which I mean they'll teasingly insult them or generally give them crap. This is usually understood to be "just in fun" even if it actually does sting a bit.
I don't think women do this, or if they do, it must be in some other way.
Women definitely do this. I've noticed this is more of a cultural difference than a gender one. My friends from the East Coast are mostly rather crass and won't hesitate to give some friendly shit. People from the West Coast are generally more PC and offended by that.
I love people from the East Coast. Most of my friends are and I love the way we can show each other love by insulting lovingly. I've always seen it as first noticing (being observant is a sign of interest in another human), addressing it (bringing it up at all) and accepting you despite that (doing it lovingly). I'd much rather my friends call me out on my goofy habits and like me regardless as opposed to us all pretending we're perfect. :lol: Seems more real.
On the subject, I don't really think there are many differences between men and women besides biologically. Pretty much everything mentioned here is just a personality trait.
Kunra9 said:
When women fight over a man, they are enemies for life. Even if that guy is done with both of them, moved on and is happily married with kids to someone completely different, those two girls still hate eachother. Women also hate the ex-girlfriends of their current man. I have female friends that hate women they have never actually met, just because of their past relationship to their current mate.
This is entirely the opposite in my experience. I've bonded with almost every ex's other girlfriends in pretty significant ways. One of my good friends is my first boyfriend's girlfriend after me. Neither of us speak to him anymore but we still get along great.
I've worked with ex boyfriends' ex and current girlfriends in a variety of artistic formats. Usually the guys I date have a type and I love all the other people they date as well. I've met goths and clowns and artists and physicists and these are some of the people I consider family. And they've been eager to befriend me as well. Hell, one of my best friends dated an ex of mine years ago and it was totally fine and the three of us are tight as hell.
I've only ever had one girl in this scenario actively dislike me. But at least half of that was because I am a sex worker. But the number of girls it's been totally awesome with is way higher than the number of guys and thinking about it I just keep coming up with more and more bad-ass women who let me into their life.
I'm not going to lie, none of these observations apply to my life.
Oh, here's one: men are way cleaner than women. Most of the women I know are kind of messy and have shit strewn around everywhere, whereas most the guys I know are pretty organized and put up with the mess because boobs. :lol: