- Mar 6, 2022
Yeah, I guess I'm just thinking of it from a time management and mathematical perspective. If every user sent a goodbye, and an explanation, it would be a little much to manage and keep up with, and not super fair.
From my perspective I've had users write lengthy goodbyes, where they were projecting weird shit, and I guess doing their own "reading between the lines", but it ended up just being imaginary ramblings, you know. Don't get me wrong I like to read but ... the entertainment value or prospect to learn something cool/ interesting content in some of those messages was pretty ... um... yeah lol. Like it wasn't dudes like Edgar Allan Poe or anything writing me lengthy prose. It was more crazy, drunk John from down the bar, after a long week (and yet another fight w his wife presumably). So I always see this specific question/ issue from that perspective only.
Oh, I understand where you're coming from. I imagine some people go on about it while it's "thanks for all the fish" as far as your concerned.
But it sounds like you have some kind of a special situation that's a little more complex. And I agree with you, without writing out a big long story with more details, someone like me probably isn't going to get it. I'm happy to hear more about it though if you want a listening ear, you've always been cool to me.
And thank you so much for offering your ear, EliMarie! I wasn't thinking to lay it on you before but after reading Smoothie's disclosure, I will take you up on it in part because it may be helpful as a cautionary tale.
Some background: She's 25 but looks younger and only speaks Romanian, Her natural parents came from Romania's notorious orphanage system that resulted from the ban on abortion and birth control during Nicolae Ceaușescu's rule and in turn were alcoholics who had kids that they couldn't take care of and so she and her siblings went into the system. She was placed with rural Eastern Orthodox foster parents and is herself religious.
She got pregnant in her teens by a much older married man whom she married then divorced. Her daughter lives with him and his family and she visits her whenever she can. She lives in Bucharest with her sister who drinks heavily and they have a strained relationship. She sometimes works as an extra in films and commercials and TV shows in addition to being a studio model.
As a model she's barely getting by. Her style isn't very inspiring and her room mostly has a few regulars who don't tip much and I strongly suspect that two of them are old creeps who are perving because she looks underage. And it's not hard to see that she has a hard time squaring her job as a model with her religious beliefs.
And I think she got a crush on me. She has a thing for Asians (which describes Inuit girls accurately enough) and she took to using terms of endearment that are a bit over the top even allowing for translation and social norms and not in a way that you might expect a model to employ with a user, if you know what I mean.
All of this is from what she told me (oversharing) and what I inferred from context. For my part, I'm not sure how I came to be involved with her - only conversation - and really, I did and do feel sorry for her but that doesn't explain it.