Guys always fall for cam models. Do cam models ever fall for guys?

[AmberCutie]

What I've noticed is that little crushes from your regs are inevitable. I'm also biased towards the members i have more in common with / enjoy some occasional offline chats. It is human interaction, after all. But as a model, imo, you should be really cautious not to let the lines get blurred.

Remember that Sopranos scene where Tony thinks he's in love with his therapist? It's kinda like that. You become a supportive presence in a lot of your regs' lives, and that might be confusing to some, but 90% of the time it's not malicious, and something anyone with healthy amounts of empathy can understand. It also passes. Most members know full and well that there isn't a chance of romance. What they can expect, however, is a rather genuine friendship. Which is so much more valuable than a skewed hypothetical Pretty Woman fantasy.

I've found myself attracted to a member's personality more than once. That too, passes. The initial awe of having someone new pop in, who's great at conversation and interaction with the rest of the room. The member who makes great jokes, who tips and plays the games you spent time creating for your shows. And ultimately you just have to always instinctively know that your room is a place of work, a place of business. Tippers come and go, and getting too attached is merely setting yourself up for disappointment and hurt feelings.

(Then, every so often, a member comes around and doesn't get it. It's awful every time and while it's uncommon, it's still painful and emotionally exhausting. There is that segment of camsite visitors who seem to genuinely believe the platforms are a dating site. From my experience, they're also the ones who try to woo you into compliance and overspend like crazy, only to then, when they finally end up broke and decide it's time to declare their love like prince charming on a white horse, end up butthurt when you tell them a loud and clear "no".)

Friendships happen, connections are formed, but bottom line is still that camming is a JOB and it's important to keep the right balance / not have the scales tip too much in the wrong direction.

Also, you sound like you have a healthy relationship with the platforms. Good on you, there's nothing worse than members who don't understand the concept of boundaries.

Very well said!

 

[yummybrownfox]

Quite interesting responses, thanks.



That took an unexpected turn. Last sentence made me lol

I like making people laugh.

 

[lost_angel]

Ok there's no way for me to NOT sound like a total stuck up meanie when I say this. I swear I'm not and I have nothing but gratitutde for anyone who has ever spent time in my room or spent a token.

... I have 3 kids I'm trying to be a good role model for despite my camming career lol. I'm single handedly raising them because my ex husband abandoned, so I'm extra cautious who I waste my time on. I'm super straight edge. I show up to every school meeting and dance recitals and swim meet and karate class and dr appointment and on and on. I have plaques on my wall for my community service, I wrote grants for a homeless shelter, helped a UPS driver perform CPR on someone he was delivering to, helped police stop an armed assailant and was honored by the fire chief at a town hall meeting for my 911 dispatcher work. I bake cupcakes for my neighbors and host a book club. When I have extra money, I pay off people's payday loans anonymously at my local cash checking place. Ok, like not to toot my own horn, but I'm a literally super mom haha.

I'm just not compatible with any man who spends his free time on cam sites blowing his money on sex stuff. Most of my regulars hang out on those sites more than I do. They teach me all kinds of stuff about the site, industry, models, etc. Well, I got stuff to do. I'm not even compatible with a local dude who has a regular 9-5 just getting by in life. I've got the whole weight of the world on my shoulders supporting 3 entire people on boner money, so I can't ever let myself mix business and pleasure. How would I even introduce him to my kids? "Hey kids, this is BigPhatCock69, he bought mommys GFE and well, we made it permanent" haha yeah. It won't happen for me.

Also this just reminds me. I is lonely. ?

When I first read this, it made me feel a certain way. But I think you pretty much cleared it up in your second post. I noticed that in some rooms I always see the same people. I don't know if it's a coincidence (seems doubtful), but imo seems like a waste of time or an unhealthy habit. When I first noticed this it made me wonder how models feel about members spending a lot of time in their room.

What I've noticed is that little crushes from your regs are inevitable. I'm also biased towards the members i have more in common with / enjoy some occasional offline chats. It is human interaction, after all. But as a model, imo, you should be really cautious not to let the lines get blurred.

Remember that Sopranos scene where Tony thinks he's in love with his therapist? It's kinda like that. You become a supportive presence in a lot of your regs' lives, and that might be confusing to some, but 90% of the time it's not malicious, and something anyone with healthy amounts of empathy can understand. It also passes. Most members know full and well that there isn't a chance of romance. What they can expect, however, is a rather genuine friendship. Which is so much more valuable than a skewed hypothetical Pretty Woman fantasy.

I've found myself attracted to a member's personality more than once. That too, passes. The initial awe of having someone new pop in, who's great at conversation and interaction with the rest of the room. The member who makes great jokes, who tips and plays the games you spent time creating for your shows. And ultimately you just have to always instinctively know that your room is a place of work, a place of business. Tippers come and go, and getting too attached is merely setting yourself up for disappointment and hurt feelings.

(Then, every so often, a member comes around and doesn't get it. It's awful every time and while it's uncommon, it's still painful and emotionally exhausting. There is that segment of camsite visitors who seem to genuinely believe the platforms are a dating site. From my experience, they're also the ones who try to woo you into compliance and overspend like crazy, only to then, when they finally end up broke and decide it's time to declare their love like prince charming on a white horse, end up butthurt when you tell them a loud and clear "no".)

Friendships happen, connections are formed, but bottom line is still that camming is a JOB and it's important to keep the right balance / not have the scales tip too much in the wrong direction.

Also, you sound like you have a healthy relationship with the platforms. Good on you, there's nothing worse than members who don't understand the concept of boundaries.

I think that's sort of part of human nature. You will like people you get along with. There's like 3 cam girls I've had good convos with and I think they're cool people, but that's as far as things go. I think it would be wrong to say nothing beyond that can ever happen because relationships and feelings can be complicated but it's certainly not an expectation and something I would prefer to avoid. I'm here primarily to bust a nut and you're here to make money. Let's leave it at that.

 

[pimpsmack23]

I've been told by one of the models over seas in Eastern Europe that I am "her favorite" if that means anything LOL We have a bit of a connection because we have some stuff in common with our heritage, and she liked that a lot. But I am almost certain she tells that to every guy that tips her a lot too. She definitely goes out of her way though to communicate with me, and not just on the site, which is nice. But to me, it's strictly business.... though I'd gladly entertain the thought of getting together with her should the opportunity present itself

 

[JGenius]

Imagin camgirl's making a lot of thread like "I think I love or member" or "Does this member really love me or it's just role play".
And member would answer "No it's just fantasy" or "Us member have a private life outside of camsite, we're not loners waiting to be rescued".
It'd be funny to see.

 

[notambernotcutie]

I. Just. Want. Pizza. Rolls.

?

And cuddles. Don't. Forget. Cuddles. ??

 

[notambernotcutie]

No, never, and it makes my job hell sometimes when I get a string of guys asking me to meet them. I'm here to provide masturbation material and entertainment in exchange for money and that's all. Would be a lot more enjoyable if customers would understand this. I never ever give any indication that I would be interested in meeting but still get harassed about it daily.

Completely understood. Over the many years I've been a cam site member I've never once thought of the site as a potential dating one. Sure, I've seen a few who I think would make good girlfriend material. But that's in my mind's fantasy. In the real world I've never considered any of them as anything but online masturbators / entertainers. BUT (there's always at least one) ...

I joined my first cam site long before I ever heard of Twitter. But, since Twitter, confusion has multiplied. I fully get the "only for entertainment and making money" thing. Yet, why would so many models Tweet/post so many teasingly provocative one-liners such as "I need to get laid" or "I want to cuddle" or ... the examples are endless. If the online experience is just that - online - what is the purpose of Tweeting seemingly real life (n person) expressions? Teasing and advertising I suppose. Yet such expressions have, for some, only furthered the fantasy of meeting in real life.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Completely understood. Over the many years I've been a cam site member I've never once thought of the site as a potential dating one. Sure, I've seen a few who I think would make good girlfriend material. But that's in my mind's fantasy. In the real world I've never considered any of them as anything but online masturbators / entertainers. BUT (there's always at least one) ...

I joined my first cam site long before I ever heard of Twitter. But, since Twitter, confusion has multiplied. I fully get the "only for entertainment and making money" thing. Yet, why would so many models Tweet/post so many teasingly provocative one-liners such as "I need to get laid" or "I want to cuddle" or ... the examples are endless. If the online experience is just that - online - what is the purpose of Tweeting seemingly real life (n person) expressions? Teasing and advertising I suppose. Yet such expressions have, for some, only furthered the fantasy of meeting in real life.

Much of that is similar to the allure of magazine, videos, etc. of yesteryear when they'd put that in print or advertisement for videos. All a means of playing on the emotions of potential or current customers. The difference is that with electronic communication now (I'm saying this in a very broad sense such as Twitter, camsites, forums, messaging apps, etc) and how online activities have now become a major part of life, it seems much more personal. Add in some nuances of a person's personality, and you have a recipe for mixed feelings to occur.