Re: Hey it's another one of them posts - Cam she really like
I prolly should not be posting as I am very late to the party, and have only read about half the first page and all the post on page 3. I do gather there were some red flags that came up in those post in the middle. I have a friend who became very close with a model, (eastern block, but that is only relevant imho as to the logistics of his story) She too had problems with rent. She also had problems with camming. Her rent problems I believe were genuine. (She was actually between places for a short time, and was very happy when she got into a new apt.) I am also very sure her camming problems were genuine. I got to know her a bit, and though she wanted to do better camming, she often did things that were self destructive. I believe she never really wanted to cam, and it showed. And anybody who has been around camming very long can tell you, that being on cam when you don't want to be is very hard to hide, and that it is very hard to keep new visitors in your room long enough to get to know and like you if it seems you are not so happy to be there. (That may have nothing to do with why your model friend has not been working enough to pay bills, I'm just saying that it can be almost impossible to cam enough if you are doing it just to pay bills, and dread being on cam. It's a vicious circle.)
With out going into any detail, (b/c that would be a breach of my friend's trust, and b/c I don't know all the details) the way I believe things went for him, was something like this. At some point they became close enough that there was an open invitation for him to travel to visit her. I am not sure why he did not do so, but my feeling was that he did not see that as leading to anything more substantial. It was pretty clear he fancied something more than a week with an attractive model, and if he had only wanted that spending $1500-2500 on airfare wouldn't make any sense. I know that he had offered to fly her over here with a no obligation visit of a week or two. If she wanted to stay than they could figure it out from there, and if not she could get back on the plane and fly home. In this way, he was out no more $ than going to see her, and it put at least a bit of the commitment in her hands. (It also was working with home court advantage or more importantly not giving up home court advantage, and not being familiar with things if there were any problems.)
I'm sure he did quite a lot for her for over a year, but never did the complete saviour thing and pay her whole way, and eventually he could not do as much as she needed. And she never did make the commitment to come visit. She doesn't cam any more and I know he might have liked if it had gone differently, but I'm sure he is better off than had he spent the $ to visit her, with the same end result, and I'm guessing happier too. I believe they are still in touch, so who knows. (And to be honest, when I was younger I did the saviour thing more than once, and in the end it is my experience that you do not get respected for it and are often treated like a sucker.)
On being 50lbs over weight thing - that should only bother you, if it bothers you! What I mean is, yea, if you feel you want to do what it takes to shed the extra pounds, and being lighter will make you feel better, and/or better about yourself than that's what you will do. But in the mean time don't let that get you down wrapping all your worth in how you look. Yes, obese is an ugly word, and can even hurt, (especially if you thought 50 lbs overweight was just chunky as I did) when it is listed under the doctors evaluation of your most recent examination. And, being a bit more than a bit heavy is not the best look, but I assume you can still wipe your own ass without assistants? Well OK then, you are a race car in development, that extra weight is like the street tires you're running, or the stock fuel system, and when you lose the weight it will be like adding race slicks, or a supercharger, to the race car you already are. I'm pressing you on this point b/c I used to be very much like you I think - I thought I didn't stand a chance, b/c at best I've always been ,,, lets say a little thick. I was so sure that i didn't have a chance, that often I was the main reason I didn't have a chance. Remember woman don't tend to be the superficial, visual douchebags us men are, so be confident that the great person you are will count for something. Maybe being a little heavy does handicap you a little, but if you are a caring, kind, dude with a good sense of humor, (which you seem to be from what your post here suggest), let that shine, and don't let the extra pounds make you feel ugly.
Even if this turns out to be more scam than real, it can happen, and it is not always a scam. This story
https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/viewt ... es#p293430
doesn't prove that one way or the other, but I do know where you are coming from.
