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Discussion in 'Ask-a-Model!' started by Brett M, Sep 13, 2018.

  1. Brett M

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    I have random thoughts, sorry.
    This crossed my mind recently and it has actually been niggling at me ever since I thought it.
    I had never considered it before, as I had always said anything like this as a very huge compliment...

    If I am chatting with a model (or heck, any woman I guess), is it rude to say you like their SMALL (petite, tiny etc) boobs? I am a massive fan of smaller/petite breasts so for me it's always a very big compliment and even though the woman/model will know she has smaller breasts than other women and despite the fact she has accepted that, she still may find it offensive or rude.

    I would never just go in and have my first comment as something like that, it would always be chatting/tipping first.

    I thought maybe it could be classed as being rude because if a woman said that to a guy with a small[er] dick than others/average, the guy would definitely (9/10) be offended, right? Or would it all depend on how I am gong about saying it - for instance saying how I do now, and not just being one of those jerks going straight in and "omg i like those small tits"... Or would you all deem it as rude and a "no-no" regardless ?

    I genuinely am wondering and curious about this.
     
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  2. Miss_Lollipop

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    I'm also a lover of itty bitty titties .. and I'm curious how ladies w smaller bobs feel about this too. I certainly hate it when ppl tell me they love my big saggy tits lol.
     
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  3. Natalie_Lavender

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    Why not just tell her you think they’re perfect? She might not think they are big or small, or even perfect. Maybe she’s self-conscious about the size? Just leaving it as “perfect” is a better compliment without pointing out a size.
    I’m happy with my boobs. But when a member says something about their size, it’s hard to tell if they are being sarcastic or if it’s a genuine compliment. Then I just focus on the descriptive word rather than the “compliment” as a whole.
     
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  4. Diana Blake

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    In my experience I've always found that you don't want to go with size words right out of the gate. Actually, descriptive words can be tricky no matter what. They're a little too loaded as well as having regional connotations. You have to get a feel for a model before you really know what will be safe. For example, the word "squishy" is one I use a lot for my tits but I've met women that find the word insulting and it seems to come down to where you grew up and how that word is commonly used.

    The word small growing up in the South is rarely a good thing and brings to mind the words piddling, paltry, and inadequate. However, words like modest or petite don't cause the same imagery. Since its hard to know how a person's regional understanding of words has developed it's often safer to go with descriptions/compliments that aren't necessarily size based. Also, never give a complement that directly or indirectly compares to the breasts of other women.

    Things like "I love the soft curve of your breasts; how the lines of your body wind seamlessly into your ribs and abdomen." vs things like "I love how your small breasts don't sag."
     
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  5. MollyMidnight

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    I am always very happy to be told someone loves my small breasts. That said, it took a lot of time for me to get comfortable with them being small. Until recently I would have been in complete agreement with the people above me that it would have been better to leave out small and just keep "I like your breasts" or "your breasts are amazing/perfect/beautiful/etc."

    On the flip side, never ever describe anything about me as big. I don't care if people prefer bigger butts, I will not take it as a compliment.
     
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  6. Lintilla

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    I wouldn't necessarily say that it's rude or offensive, but it's probably unwise and a bit tactless. I've been at this naked on the internet business for a long time, so even when I have guys come into my room and compliment my "hangers", I'm personally unlikely to get upset--that's probably exactly what they type into Pornhub to find boobs they like, and I know that most of the time they really are trying to express something positive. Even so, my response is definitely going to be "thanks, but never say that to anyone ever again, you moron."

    That's obviously a bit more extreme than describing breasts as "big" or "small", but just about any adjective you can come up with has connotations that go along with it, and even if those connotations might not be negative in terms of current culture and preferences, there's the individual's life history and self-image on top of it all. Everyone has their insecurities, and you never know what they might be.

    In conclusion, why not just keep it simple and say "nice boobs!" Is there a particular reason you'd want to highlight their difference from other boobs within the compliment? I know that sometimes it does play a part in the business at hand (if someone is asking me for closeups of my nose, I know it's not because it's small and cute), but generally size is something that might be unnecessary to bring up at all, especially in terms that would tend to create a comparison.
     
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  7. Dan Epstein

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    When ever I try to discuss sizes, I come out stupid and end up holding the shortest stick.
     
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  8. Lunasha

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    I agree with what the other girls have said! It's super nice to realize that some people like my breasts because I've been self-conscious about them for a long time. But I think the best way to compliment us is to use non-descriptive words, just stuff like ''they're perfect'', like Natalie said!
     
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  9. ForceTen

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    I never comment on size. But, will say generic compliments about how I think they're perfect, etc. Sometimes, will give something specific that I like or find appealing.
     
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  10. AudriTwo

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    I has small tits!

    I usually get offended when men compliment my tits by putting down other women. I think a simple compliment on them is good enough. I'm constantly being told how big, fake, saggy, large areolas, ect, are gross or less superior.

    Or telling me don't get a boob job. I get it you like my small tits. That shit is tacky. Am I not the final decision maker when it comes whatever I want and not want done to my body?
     
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  11. SaffronBurke

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    I've never in my life had small boobs and even I hate seeing dudes say this. Don't like boob jobs? OK, don't get moob implants, but leave anyone alone who wants to change not your body. Cause it's not your body ya dingus.

    Shameless confession: I enjoy imagining every small-boobed lady getting big ol' Anna Nichole tiddies to spite these dudes and just watching them whine about it.
     
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  12. ForceTen

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    I've had a few female friends commenting on what I thought about them getting a boob job. My typical response is to inquire why they're considering one. If they provide a solid reason why (confidence, cosmetic, medical, etc), or even if they're set on the decision, I won't comment to stop them. If they're on the fence, I would be neutral and inquire about why they do/don't want it. Makes no difference to me if they get them or not.

    I've also never had a friend who got them asked me for a before/after comparison visually as well as physically. :p
     
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  13. JickyJuly

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    If it's a general cam room, I'd leave size out of it. If you're buying fetish clips labelled with like "small boobs" and send a complimenting message I think it's fine. I don't want to hear about my big nose in front of everyone while camming, but I don't mind if the nose fetish dudes who buy my clips call my nose big when they're ordering a custom or something. Context I guess.
    And really just commenting to add Happy Birthday, @ForceTen !
     
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  15. elbowknee

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    I have small boobs and I love it when people tell me they like them :) I was insecure about them for a while, as others here have said.. so it's nice to hear positive things about them specifically.

    I agree with AudriTwo though about disliking compliments that come with a put-down of other women or other types of bodies. Aside from being tacky, it's just.. not at all necessary.

    I personally think saying "I love the size of your breasts" or "I love your small perky tits" is completely fine! And while I completely understand and to most degrees agree that a general compliment "they're perfect"/"you're beautiful" is safer, the specificity is more meaningful to me and makes me feel like you see me as an individual.
     
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  16. Fatquack

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    I think the proper etiquette is:
    /tip 100 I love your boobies
    ;)
     
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  17. JoleneBrody

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    People place insecurity on girls with small boobs in their compliments ALL THE TIME too! “Never get implants” or “don’t listen to trolls they’re perfect!” Or when I say something non chalant about having small boobs. “Well I love your boobs!”
    1. Never said I wanted too!
    2. What troll?
    3. Why do you assume small means BAD? My boobs are small, I love them. You didn’t have to console me.

    Just tell them you like their boobs and leave the descriptions out of it. It always gets wierd
     
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  18. Songbird_Shelly

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    Posting from my cell phone, and haven’t read the replies. But to play it safe, you could just tell the model “I LOVE your boobs!” You don’t even have to mention the fact that they’re small or saggy or whatever.

    I know mine are saggy, but I really hate it when a guy points out that he loves my “saggy tits.” Ouch...
     
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  19. Brett M

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    Thanks everyone I really appreciate the responses.
    I truly never thought it could ever be interpreted as a horrible, negative or rude way until a few days before I made this topic to discuss it - and I actually had a little debate with myself of whether to make this as in my mind I still thought "nah it's definitely fine; it's a huge compliment, especially if I am letting her know small boobs are **my thing** "

    So I really thank you all and from now on I will definitely not mention anything like size.

    I can't be bothered to pretty much like all posts in here - doubt there is a "like/thumbs up all" option anywhere ?? #LazyAt5am
     
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  20. OohOlivia

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    I didn’t really develop boobs until junior year of high school. When people would tell me my boobs were small (not necessarily in a bad way) I would lowkey get hurt because it was something I’m embarrassed about.

    I would recommend not saying “small” because you never know how the model feels about them. I would just say “I love your boobs, they’re the perfect size.”

    I’m self conscious about my vagina and when people say stuff about how they like lips that stick out I don’t like it (I don’t really let it show though) because it’s something im self conscious about. I’d much rather them say they like it than to describe it.

    But the fact you questioned if it was rude or not is really good on your part!
     

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