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You come to a cam model forum and want to teach them what their job really is?!Joeternal said:I feel like I've already answered that question 4 or 5 times, but I'll give it one more try. Maybe the best way to put it is that I think your idea of camming (especially on MFC) as "fantasy" doesn't hold up, unless you're talking about some kind of specific roleplaying fetish. There are real people involved, on all sides. You're not a fictional character in a TV show, and neither am I. MFC actually states that their goal is for things to be "real" and not "phony" on their site.
PunkInDrublic said:You know whats cooler than dating a camgirl? Dating any woman who isn't in the sex industry.
KittyWilde said:That goes for you, too, Joe.
I feel like I should start off by applauding you for going a full post without insulting anyone, good job. Kinda expected you to act like a five year old and tell me to fuck myself for not agreeing with you. Being with a camgirl isn't as bad as I might make it out to be but it isn't this great honor like so many models pretend it is.Isabella_deL said:PunkInDrublic said:You know whats cooler than dating a camgirl? Dating any woman who isn't in the sex industry.
Erm... dude... You're entitled to have your own personal preferences and not want to date a woman in the sex industry, but please don't make blanket statements making out dating a woman in the sex industry is going to be worse than dating another girl. Each to their own. You may not like the idea of dating a camgirl, but a large percentage of women on this forum are in extremely happy, supportive, healthy relationships where their partners have absolutely no issue with how their wives and girlfriends make their livings.
My camming doesn't effect my relationship negatively at all, it just means that I can work around my boyfriends unsocial work hours and am always upbeat and full of energy when he comes home exhausted. Oh no, poor guy, he has a girlfriend who makes a good wage, is almost always in a good mood, cooks for him when he gets home and wakes him up with blow jobs and bacon sandwiches when he has to wake up at 3am for work. Life sucks for him!
In the statement of why this guy would even consider dating a camgirl when he doesn't want to date a camgirl, well, I don't know, it seems like a naive and delusional thing to even consider if that's your feelings on it. But hey! The cam girls who's job it is to act friendly and like they like members and enjoy their company are genuinely drawn to him! He goes to top models roomsand among those 500+ people in the room the models totally see him differently to every other member. It's not like their job to make people feel that way. Nah, genuine this is. Poor guy, he doesn't want to date camgirls, but they're just so desperate for it!
Oh, and Kitty, I think I might be in love with you
PunkInDrublic said:Being with a camgirl isn't as bad as I might make it out to be but it isn't this great honor like so many models pretend it is.
KittyWilde said:PunkInDrublic said:Hey Joe, can I ask why you'd want to date a camgirl? You know whats cooler than dating a camgirl? Dating any woman who isn't in the sex industry. Find a non sex worker to date and you won't have to worry about getting her to quit for you, you won't have to worry about all the sacrifices you'd have to make, and you wouldn't have to worry about all the other negatives that comes with being with one.
And all this time I was hoping you would ask me out! I mean, you have proven yourself to be a charming, intellectual man with a heart of gold. Any girl, especially the ones with all that "cam whore" baggage and negativity (dear God, not a woman who can support herself and be in touch with her sexuality), would be lucky to have a nice gentleman like you to bring home to her parents. Wouldn't they be SO proud?
On second thought, go fuck yourself.
That goes for you, too, Joe.
PunkInDrublic said:I'll stop posting in this thread before Jerry throws a temper tantrum and says something like "I hate your fucking guts" to me. Yeah he seriously said that to someone on the internet before. haha not even joking, he got so mad at someone on the internet that he said that. Dudes got issues.
Isabella_deL said:But hey! The cam girls who's job it is to act friendly and like they like members and enjoy their company are genuinely drawn to him! He goes to top models roomsand among those 500+ people in the room the models totally see him differently to every other member. It's not like their job to make people feel that way. Nah, genuine this is. Poor guy, he doesn't want to date camgirls, but they're just so desperate for it!
JerryBoBerry said:KittyWilde said:PunkInDrublic said:Hey Joe, can I ask why you'd want to date a camgirl? You know whats cooler than dating a camgirl? Dating any woman who isn't in the sex industry. Find a non sex worker to date and you won't have to worry about getting her to quit for you, you won't have to worry about all the sacrifices you'd have to make, and you wouldn't have to worry about all the other negatives that comes with being with one.
And all this time I was hoping you would ask me out! I mean, you have proven yourself to be a charming, intellectual man with a heart of gold. Any girl, especially the ones with all that "cam whore" baggage and negativity (dear God, not a woman who can support herself and be in touch with her sexuality), would be lucky to have a nice gentleman like you to bring home to her parents. Wouldn't they be SO proud?
On second thought, go fuck yourself.
That goes for you, too, Joe.
From another thread...
PunkInDrublic said:I'll stop posting in this thread before Jerry throws a temper tantrum and says something like "I hate your fucking guts" to me. Yeah he seriously said that to someone on the internet before. haha not even joking, he got so mad at someone on the internet that he said that. Dudes got issues.
Dammit Kitty. You beat me to it. :lol:
Joeternal said:Isabella_deL said:But hey! The cam girls who's job it is to act friendly and like they like members and enjoy their company are genuinely drawn to him! He goes to top models roomsand among those 500+ people in the room the models totally see him differently to every other member. It's not like their job to make people feel that way. Nah, genuine this is. Poor guy, he doesn't want to date camgirls, but they're just so desperate for it!
You know, maybe this is a good opportunity for me to learn something. Because you're probably right that I'm a fool who knows nothing about women in general, let alone cam girls.
So tell me: If I'm in private with a model who I've been in private with several times before and "know" reasonably well in MFC terms, and she tells me point blank that she wants to have sex with me in real life, and then repeats that statement when I ask her if she's serious, should I assume that's just "part of the act"? Because that's happened to me a few times. :dontknow:
Joeternal said:Isabella_deL said:But hey! The cam girls who's job it is to act friendly and like they like members and enjoy their company are genuinely drawn to him! He goes to top models roomsand among those 500+ people in the room the models totally see him differently to every other member. It's not like their job to make people feel that way. Nah, genuine this is. Poor guy, he doesn't want to date camgirls, but they're just so desperate for it!
You know, maybe this is a good opportunity for me to learn something. Because you're probably right that I'm a fool who knows nothing about women in general, let alone cam girls.
So tell me: If I'm in private with a model who I've been in private with several times before and "know" reasonably well in MFC terms, and she tells me point blank that she wants to have sex with me in real life, and then repeats that statement when I ask her if she's serious, should I assume that's just "part of the act"? Because that's happened to me a few times. :dontknow:
AllisonWilder said:It's my firm belief that if a camgirl wants to be with you, you wouldn't still be paying for her time.
Isabella_deL said:In a private as a member I'd assume most of it is part of the act... Maybe it's different in your situation, but I've met members before who've moaned to me about how x model said "I want you to meet/fuck me/do this to me" during a show and then they've been very upset when upon meeting said model at an convention she hasn't let him do any of those things...
It's why I'm very wary of saying anything along the lines of "I want you to fuck me/do xyz" even though many members want camgirls to, my actual thoughts before hearing about this situation were that I was worried someone would be too stupid to understand fantasy from reality and would hold me to those words. I kept thinking of some kind of scene where the member turned up and raped me and then brought those words back to haunt me. Like Allison said, if a camgirl truly wanted you then she wouldn't allow you to continue paying.
Joeternal said:AllisonWilder said:It's my firm belief that if a camgirl wants to be with you, you wouldn't still be paying for her time.
I've never pursued it.
Because I can't tell the difference between a woman who's telling me what she thinks I want to hear (or one who's trying to lead me on for tokens), and one who's being serious. So I need this learning opportunity.
I'm really dumb. I've never had a date before. I weigh 400 lbs.
Joeternal said:AllisonWilder said:It's my firm belief that if a camgirl wants to be with you, you wouldn't still be paying for her time.
I've never pursued it.
Because I can't tell the difference between a woman who's telling me what she thinks I want to hear (or one who's trying to lead me on for tokens), and one who's being serious. So I need this learning opportunity.
I'm really dumb. I've never had a date before. I weigh 400 lbs.
Joeternal said:That post was a mistake. The only way to "prove" anything would be to go into details that would be identifying to the person in question if they happened to read it. Not going to do that, so assume I'm an idiot, making it up and/or lying about it and go about your business. :handgestures-salute:
All I will say is, trust me - I understand the drill.
I want to thank you both. If it wasn't for the childish posters like you, the good posters wouldn't stick out as much.KittyWilde said:JerryBoBerry said:KittyWilde said:PunkInDrublic said:Hey Joe, can I ask why you'd want to date a camgirl? You know whats cooler than dating a camgirl? Dating any woman who isn't in the sex industry. Find a non sex worker to date and you won't have to worry about getting her to quit for you, you won't have to worry about all the sacrifices you'd have to make, and you wouldn't have to worry about all the other negatives that comes with being with one.
And all this time I was hoping you would ask me out! I mean, you have proven yourself to be a charming, intellectual man with a heart of gold. Any girl, especially the ones with all that "cam whore" baggage and negativity (dear God, not a woman who can support herself and be in touch with her sexuality), would be lucky to have a nice gentleman like you to bring home to her parents. Wouldn't they be SO proud?
On second thought, go fuck yourself.
That goes for you, too, Joe.
From another thread...
PunkInDrublic said:I'll stop posting in this thread before Jerry throws a temper tantrum and says something like "I hate your fucking guts" to me. Yeah he seriously said that to someone on the internet before. haha not even joking, he got so mad at someone on the internet that he said that. Dudes got issues.
Dammit Kitty. You beat me to it. :lol:
I wanted to thank your post a gazillion times. I wurv you, Jerry.
Alexandra Cole said:Joeternal said:That post was a mistake. The only way to "prove" anything would be to go into details that would be identifying to the person in question if they happened to read it. Not going to do that, so assume I'm an idiot, making it up and/or lying about it and go about your business. :handgestures-salute:
All I will say is, trust me - I understand the drill.
Yes, that was a bad thing to say.
I don't doubt that you have a very real connection with someone, and it's a shame that you're just jerking yourself off with it. (Didn't you say that you're special because you aren't degrading, unlike all those other guys? Because using someone's genuine interest or casual desire as masturbatory validation is pretty fucking degrading.)
You seem very insistent that we know how worldly and wise and knowledgeable and special and generous you are (to see beyond a cam girl's many faults, I mean), and attractive, and discerning, and unbearably solipsistic, and so different from all the others. But when you're finished deciding whether you'd ever deign to date a cam girl, you should consider the possibility that you don't deserve to.
Joeternal said:All I did was post a suggestion for better search features on MFC. Then I was bombarded with a bunch of accusatory questions, too many of which which I attempted to answer. But hey, it's been enlightening.
There's no enlightenment without a little humility. All anyone here knows about you is from this one thread, and some condescending comments in an earlier one. You didn't even show the community the courtesy of posting a howdy-do in the introduction thread, a feature of pretty much every community forum anywhere. Have you been living under a rock?Joeternal said:All I did was post a suggestion for better search features on MFC. Then I was bombarded with a bunch of accusatory questions, too many of which which I attempted to answer. But hey, it's been enlightening.
So far, so good. It's all about science!I wonder if anybody else sees this as a problem. I have specific tastes when it comes to cam models, and the lack of a good search or sorting function on MFC makes it hard to sift through the 1000+ models online at any given time.
If you had the slightest clue about the ACF community, you would not go telling cam models, who have seen every kind of perv under the sun and heard every line in every variation possible that you, some guy no one knows, who acts like God's gift to cam whores, don't think some of them are worth your precious time.In my case, I'm personally only interested in models who are straight, single and have no tattoos (one or two very small, feminine ones at the most).
Sevrin said:If you had the slightest clue about the ACF community, you would not go telling cam models, who have seen every kind of perv under the sun and heard every line in every variation possible that you, some guy no one knows, who acts like God's gift to cam whores, don't think some of them are worth your precious time.
That's right. You were *that* guy.
Joeternal said:Sevrin said:If you had the slightest clue about the ACF community, you would not go telling cam models, who have seen every kind of perv under the sun and heard every line in every variation possible that you, some guy no one knows, who acts like God's gift to cam whores, don't think some of them are worth your precious time.
That's right. You were *that* guy.
By posting in "General Camming Discussion" instead of "Ask a Model", I thought the target would be mostly other members. I stand corrected.
Joeternal said:mutantdonut said:Joeternal said:If it was early in the relationship, I wouldn't be urging her to do anything one way or another. It would be totally up to her. But if things got serious enough between us and she didn't want to quit, at some point she would have to choose between camming and me.
The way i read this was, "Girl, i'm giving you the choice early on to continue camming if you want, but if we're in this thing deep then the choice is gonna be made by me."
No compromising whatsoever? I'm sorry but it just sounded uber selfish and filled with contradictions
Since I gave a short answer, I'll expand on it.
I'm not interested in being in a long term relationship with a cam girl. I've talked to many of them over the course of the past several years, and they all have different attitudes about camming. Some are like, "Yeah, I'm doing this right now, but I don't want to do it forever. I want to get married and have kids", etc. Some are like, "Camming is my life! It's the greatest thing ever! I'll never give it up!".
In a few of the cases I mentioned, that was the deciding factor in me not pursuing it. I knew it wouldn't work. I wasn't going to open that can of worms. A couple of models in particular were very blunt about the fact that they were just looking for a "fuck buddy". If that's all I wanted, I wouldn't be trying to start it up with somebody who lives hundreds or thousands of miles away. A relationship that has no future isn't worth that kind of time and expense, no matter how hot she is.
Like I said, it would take a very specific situation, and a very special person, for me to consider trying to take things offline.
You can use the Google search function on the profiles page. The only problem with that is that you will get hits on profiles of models who are rarely or no longer active, and that's probably the majority of them.victor0021 said:Does anyone know if there is a way to search tags for models offline? If no one was online matching the tag you searched it would be nice to be about to browse profiles to find when someone would be on that fits that tag description.