I've been on the receiving end of a lot of discord DMS over the last year, where experienced models are openly discussing lurking in other models rooms, in ways I would categorize as obsessive. It's hard for my personality type to deal with having this kind of info shared with me because whether I like someone, or perhaps don't, I'm not the type to go obsessed on them. I do my own thing and focus on my life, and try to manage my time well. So when grown women share this kind of stuff with me, I find it really cringey. And I've ended several would-be "friendships" over it the last year. I don't see how that even helps the models doing the lurking, unless they are a new model, trying to learn the ropes.
Also to be clear no one has been bitching about me (that I know directly lol). It was more gossiping and bitching about other models to me. But people who cross that boundary with someone else would cross it with me without hesitation too, so I choose not to develop friendships with people who have that behavior. It's extremely disappointing. Even if I don't like another model, I'm not the type to spend any energy talking about them behind their back, or visiting their room?? So I find it distasteful and strange. But as my partner said, you're gonna find the worst of the worst on the internet.