Seeking out help... need advice!

[Poker_Babe]

OK, so here's my problem (I'm just gonna' come right out and say it) I need to improve at "talking dirty".
Whether I'm doing a private show, or getting it on with my S/O, my mind always draws a blank when ever I get asked to "talk dirty to me baby". Then I start getting self conscience, which makes it even worse.
Does anyone have any skillz in this department that might have some advice for me?
I'm thinking I should probably just think up some ahead of time and memorize them for just that situation. Anybody got any good "one-liners"? What's something that you heard your partner say to you in bed that just really got you hot? Something said that stood out above anything else ya know.
I need a mentor LOL.

 

[Nordling]

I'm guessing that "talking dirty" isn't "you." Why force yourself to act in an uncomfortable way. It's kind of like eating Brussels sprouts just to please someone even though you hate them. Maybe make the "none-dirty-talking" into your "bit?" Use only clinical terms for naughty bits, e.g. Talking like that could be extremely erotic in its own way if you worked a routine around it...maybe exaggerated the tendency to "not" talk dirty.

You are a beautiful, intelligent and unique lady and human. Don't ever lose that.

 

[NoelleBright]

I am so weird with this!
I am the dirtiest dirty talker ever in real life sexual situations, it will just flow out of me.
However, the very second I get asked to talk dirty on cam-I freeze. It gets incredibly awkward for me and I have no idea what to say. I'm sure a lot of it is that I feed off of the other persons energy and response in real life sexual encounters, but on cam it turns into this incredibly one sided thing. It makes it difficult because even though I know there's a guy on the other end, I still feel like I'm just dirty talking to myself. I suddenly start analyzing every little thing that I say, and things that I would say in person without even a second thought start to sound stupid to me. Instead of it being natural, I become too aware of what I'm actually saying.
I can't really offer much help, but I'm in the same boat.

 

[RogueWarrior]

I'm sure someone is going to give you great advice, but it ain't gonna be me.

My brain is wired a little bit differently and I've listened to so much music over my lifetime that anytime anyone says something I think of a song. So "talk dirty to me" takes me to a Poison video, not to heightened excitement.

 

[LadyLuna]

My first step is "what do you want me to focus on?"

Every guy is different, and sometimes they want me to talk about what I want to do to them, what I want them to do to me, or just what I like in general... then just let your fantasies run wild.

My problem is that my mind will come up with something awesome but it will all be in fantasy form (which for me means my five-senses are experiencing it) and I can't find the words to describe what I'm feeling because I forget how to make words if I have to make them come out of my mouth.

Have me writing them down, and I'm fine, but as soon as I have to try to say them, I can't remember what word goes with what picture/sound/smell/taste/sensation . x.x

 

[Poker_Babe]

I also think that part of my problem might be that... when I *do* just get into it and stuff starts coming to me naturally that I want to say... ugh... the thought of "uh oh, what if he totally freaks out and thinks I'm some weirdo' pervert after hearing me say that" then I tend to hold back. It's even worse when it's online because I have little to no cues to pick up on from the guy because it's over the internet (ie, no facial expression, body language, just have to wait to read his text. And that's a bit distracting from the goal I'm sure, when he has to type one handed ya know).

 

[SoTxBob]

Why not find a few porn vids that are "talkative" like that? The vids could give you the usual fake crap [or at least a good base to start with] most guys want to hear in these situations. Long time ago I had a GF that did that... lol... all vhs tho.. back in the "vintage days" some of them actually had a semi script with words and not just the "hi, fuck me" that seems to be what its all about now. :lol: :lol: One I remember was PJ Sparxx... she had the GND thing down. She'd get this look on her face and would then start in with the 'want your cock', and 'fuck me' stuff... :drool:
IDk.. I'm inclined to agree tho... If it's not you, why bother?

 

[LaceyRoyce]

So don't do dirty talk.

I mean this with all the love in the world, but sometimes it seems like you're trying to please EVERYBODY ... and less yourself. Maybe I'm reading you wrong.

Many many camgirls are SHIT at dirty talk, and don't do it.. and it doesn't effect their earnings. If Dirty talk doesn't turn you on.. i'd suggest not doing it.

Although I love it on cam in a situation like that.. im not very good at doing it in bed. And Sir doesn't like it much.... so we don't.


If you really feel like you'd love it if you could loosen up a bit.. do your 'research' watch porn with good dirty talk in it. See if it turns you on. Shooting solo vids where I had to talk to the cam/roleplay helped me get better at it.

 

[Rose]

My dirty talk includes the following: "mmmmm fuck," "you like that?" That is all. :mrgreen:

 

[Anonymous]

OK, so here's my problem (I'm just gonna' come right out and say it) I need to improve at "talking dirty".
Whether I'm doing a private show, or getting it on with my S/O, my mind always draws a blank when ever I get asked to "talk dirty to me baby". Then I start getting self conscience, which makes it even worse.
Does anyone have any skillz in this department that might have some advice for me?
I'm thinking I should probably just think up some ahead of time and memorize them for just that situation. Anybody got any good "one-liners"? What's something that you heard your partner say to you in bed that just really got you hot? Something said that stood out above anything else ya know.
I need a mentor LOL.

For me it's kind of weird when a guy blurts out "Talk dirty, bb" when he doesn't even have his cam on. If you ask me to "talk dirty, bb," at least turn on your cam so I can watch you being naughty too. Otherwise you're just asking me to pretend I wanna do this and that to you, and it just comes out feeling fake. I've seen some models on cam do dirty talk that sounded so insincere with no feeling.

Also, I think that in a toy play private show, I'm gonna start opening a second tab up with YouPorn or something if the guy's cam isn't on. I WANT A VISUAL. :-D And during off-cam solo play, I'm ALWAYS watching porn on my laptop.

 

[Poker_Babe]

Also, I think that in a toy play private show, I'm gonna start opening a second tab up with YouPorn or something if the guy's cam isn't on. I WANT A VISUAL. :-D And during off-cam solo play, I'm ALWAYS watching porn on my laptop.

Oh yeah, I always got porn on either the TV or on XHampster.com in another window. I think I might be a porn addict, so I guess this may very well be the perfect job for me at times LOL.

 

[Zoomer]

I don't think anyone can claim either way whether it will affect your earnings - there is no way to know. Should it worry you? Probably not. Just depends whether you want to be able to "talk dirty" if someone asks it is all. So assuming you would rather than telling you that you don't have to I'll just toss in something

I remember spying a private where I could hear the guy saying "I am licking your clit" and the model said something like "I love the feel of your tongue around my clit". Obviously whatever floats your boat with regards to dirty talk/fantasy I think it soon became a recital of a Daft Punk song as it went to faster harder stronger type words?

Anyway The point is that if it is important to you and you are doing Cam-2-cam (and maybe it's a regular who is unlikely to therefore be rude/abusive) maybe turn on the mic and hear them talk "dirty" to you? It would give you some indication as to what they like, and perhaps (no idea) it'll become easier to go from there? I am trying not to say the word rapport... but it's the right kind of implication. The lines feed off of each others?

However, you may also just get called a slut and all sorts of derogatory terms - so obviously be cautious and/or thick skinned if you try that sort of thing. Just all depends upon what your parameters are for working and your comfort/willingness etc. Everyone is individual, so just thought I'd punt an alternative idea if you are worried.

 

[Anonymous]

However, you may also just get called a slut and all sorts of derogatory terms - so obviously be cautious and/or thick skinned if you try that sort of thing. Just all depends upon what your parameters are for working and your comfort/willingness etc.

Yup. Last night one of my tippers wanted to PM me dirty talk, which was fine until he decided to call me a 'bitch' and 'slut'. Sorry, but I like dirty talk with terms like 'thrust/cock/explode/fuck/etc.'...not dirty talk that involves calling me names. Luckily, he apologized and was respectful of that, and he even put "I apologize" in a tip note. :thumbleft:

 

[mynameisbob84]

Step One - Un-mute basics and guests

Step Two - Write down everything they say

Step Three - Sift through the nonsense and find the stuff that makes SOME grammatical sense

"i wanna fuck u hard bb"
"like my dick bb"
"im so hard bb"
"show pussy bb"
"i wanna fuck you ass bb"

Step Four - Turn their declarative statements into rhetorical questions and instead of calling them "bb" every time, mix it up a bit

"You wanna fuck me hard, baby?"
"You want me to lick your dick, you dirty fucker?"
"Are you hard, honey?"
"You wanna see my pussy, you horny fuck?"
"You wanna fuck me in the ass, you dirty boy?"

BOOM! Dirty talk :-D

 

[GracieHart]

Step One - Un-mute basics and guests

Step Two - Write down everything they say

Step Three - Sift through the nonsense and find the stuff that makes SOME grammatical sense

"i wanna fuck u hard bb"
"like my dick bb"
"im so hard bb"
"show pussy bb"
"i wanna fuck you ass bb"

Step Four - Turn their declarative statements into rhetorical questions and instead of calling them "bb" every time, mix it up a bit

"You wanna fuck me hard, baby?"
"You want me to lick your dick, you dirty fucker?"
"Are you hard, honey?"
"You wanna see my pussy, you horny fuck?"
"You wanna fuck me in the ass, you dirty boy?"

BOOM! Dirty talk :-D

Brilliant! This post made me laugh so much!

But actually probably not the worst idea in the world lol

 

[Bocefish]

There is actually a blog about this very subject with recommended books on the subject.

http://howtotalkdirtyblog.com/

 

[mynameisbob84]

Brilliant! This post made me laugh so much!

But actually probably not the worst idea in the world lol

Why thank you, bb

If this works then I might be convinced to write a book on camming.

"How To Successfully Cam, BB - An Introduction To Camming - By Some Random Guy Who Has Never Cammed Before"

That's a working title :?

 

[sweetiebatman]

If you find it uncomfortoble i'd just not bother with it, and tell them as much, at best it will come of as erm.. insincere is the best i could describe it :lol: and at worst you feel uncomfortable and the perm feels like hes got no value!

Its like public speaking vs talking to friends i think!

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

The township today ran a road-grader past my house and destroyed 300 feet of roadside landscaping in front of my house.

I was talking fluent dirty for an hour straight.
:lol:

 

[Rose]

I was talking fluent dirty for an hour straight.
:lol:

Are you fully fluent in dirty? If so would you mind helping me practice so I can become fluent in dirty as well? :lol:

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

I'll have the TWP send the road grader your way asap.

:lol:

 

[Tragicdesire5]

Well I only know how to talk dirty because I use to be a phone sex operator. Thier are some books that can help you. Look at porn movies. But with some people it is hard to do it.