So I met a girl at work today

[Kunra9]

Let me give a quick little background about myself...

I'm 33, I'm single, I live in Las Vegas and I work at The Cosmopolitan of Las Vegas.

I'm not the kind of guy that has much public shame. I do and say lots of silly things that would embarrass most people just for the sake of getting attention, or trying to meet girls.
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but rejection is part of life and I've learned to have fun with rejections. Which is a great thing because if you're afraid to get rejected, you'll never approach anyone!

Some cam girls that know me can tell you I have some of the BEST rejection stories around. This particular one doesn't count, but I enjoyed it, so here goes!


So I'm at work, this really cute girl comes by and is asking one of my co-workers for directions to the lost and found for the hotel.

My co-workers are awesome, and the one she is talking to calls me over and she says "Can you show her where the lost and found is?"

I say "Sure! Follow me"

AND WE'RE OFF!

This girl is super cute, totally my type. Short, petite, dark hair, dark skin, kinda has a Persian look to her. Big beautiful eyes.
Anyway, so I start chatting while we're walking.

She tells me she was at the Marquee nightclub and thinks she lost her jacket there last night.

I ask her "Well, aside from losing your jacket, did you have a good time?"

She says "ehhh kinda" and goes into a story about how she was with two friends of hers that are dating, and the entire night they were fighting.
I said "Who fights on New Years Eve?!? That sucks!"

And she goes on to tell me that it was mostly the girl's fault, she was being dramatic and stupid and her story goes on a bit.
After she talks awhile she says "Thanks for listening to all of that about my bad night" with a smile and laugh.

I ask her name. It's "Shiva"

omg beautiful name, I'm pretty much in love at this point so I decide to make a move.

We arrive at the place she needs to go, I point it out, and give her a little advice if they don't have it and then say...

"So. It seems like you didn't get to have a great 'New Years Eve Crazy Fun Vegas' night last night eh?"

She says, "Yeah not really." looking completely sad and adorable.

I then say, "So.. what are you doing tonight??"

She is caught offguard and says "What?"

I said, "You didn't have a fun New Years Eve, but it's New Years day and you're still in Vegas. Let's try again to have a fun crazy night, except this time it will be just you and me so I know we will have an amazing time."

Her eyes get crazy big, a HUUUUGE smile covers her face, she even blushes a little bit.
All she can really manage to say is "Oh my god!" and she's laughing and touching me on the arm (I love that).
Then she says "That .. is so sweet! I can't believe you just asked me out like that! Oh my god! Ofcourse I want to go!"

I say "Great!"

Then she says "Only... I'm leaving Vegas in about 3 hours."

And that is the story of my Persian Princess Shiva whom I will never see again

*bow*

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

I said, "You didn't have a fun New Years Eve, but it's New Years day and you're still in Vegas. Let's try again to have a fun crazy night, except this time it will be just you and me so I know we will have an amazing time."

*

Great story. I'm so stealing this line, on the border of cocky and confident so probably works pretty often. However, I'll check first to see how long the girl is in town first

 

[TashaDutch]

i would have stayed..

 

[Jupiter551]

i would have stayed..

Yes I've gathered from some of your recent posts you're in heat

 

[Mirra]

I should totally try something like this... though it seems most of the girls I interact with at work always find a reason to mention they have a boyfriend/fiance/husband before I've even mentioned anything other than whatever issue they've come for. Maybe I'm doing something wrong before I even speak.

 

[Anonymous]

If you're afraid to get rejected, you'll never approach anyone!

Very true!

"That .. is so sweet! I can't believe you just asked me out like that! Oh my god! Ofcourse I want to go!"

I say "Great!"

Then she says "Only... I'm leaving Vegas in about 3 hours."

And that is the story of my Persian Princess Shiva whom I will never see again

Aw, you sound like a good catch, which is why I was hoping this story would have a happy ending for you. I know 'happy ending' could have a few different meanings, but you know what I mean. :lol:

You definitely scored some cool points with a lot of ladies on here (including me) with your comments in your 'models with breast implants' thread.

 

[Kunra9]

Oh yeah I'm not worried at all about meeting someone.

I would say I may hit on, or try to pick up girls, excessively. To me it's a bit of a numbers game. You can't find that "special" girl that's out there just for you, unless you talk to ALL of them. So I'm trying to accomplish that.

Sometimes you meet an amazing person who seems really special, but it turns out she's only in town for a night or two, so you "make the most" of those nights. (scumbag)

Sometimes you meet someone who seems boring and uninteresting, but after a couple of conversations they are completely intriguing.

The rest of the time you pretty much get rejected. Flat out. Is it because they think you're ugly? Is it because they have a boyfriend? Is it because they are simply a high maintenance stuck up self absorbed bitch with severe daddy issues?

WHO CARES

Embrace the awkward situation of the rejection and talk to her friend instead. Or her sister. Or her cousin. Or the random girl standing behind her that she doesn't know.
They are everywhere. Meet them. All of them.

My favorite place to hit on girls is a grocery store. There is no easier way to charm a woman than when she is wearing sweat pants, hair up cuz she just left the gym, no makeup, pushing a metal cart full of food around, just by walking up and saying "Hi, I was standing over there by the Kiwis and completely left my cart behind to come over here and introduce myself because I thought you were cute. My name is Matt."

Most women will SAY they feel ugly when they are dressed like that, so imagine how awesome they will feel to be approached at their worst

Ahhh I could go on for hours I love talking about this.

I promise to start sharing my rejection stories. I love the attention they get me And most times they're a lot of fun.

 

[LadyLuna]

The rest of the time you pretty much get rejected. Flat out. Is it because they think you're ugly? Is it because they have a boyfriend? Is it because they are simply a high maintenance stuck up self absorbed bitch with severe daddy issues?

Or they're just really introverted and get incredibly nervy about a guy who approaches them out of the blue.

If we had met IRL, I would be the one who is very jumpy and runs away at the first opportunity. It's because of trust issues. To be absolutely fair, I think there is nothing wrong with what you are doing, despite how much I dislike it when I'm the girl being hit on. And you do seem to be a decent sort. I hope you have lots of fun, and meet that special girl right around when you're wanting to settle down and start a family.

 

[TashaDutch]

i would have stayed..

Yes I've gathered from some of your recent posts you're in heat

hey! that was a totally romantic story... sometimes i do think with my brains you know
post made me :lol: though

The rest of the time you pretty much get rejected. Flat out. Is it because they think you're ugly? Is it because they have a boyfriend? Is it because they are simply a high maintenance stuck up self absorbed bitch with severe daddy issues?

WHO CARES

Embrace the awkward situation of the rejection and talk to her friend instead. Or her sister. Or her cousin. Or the random girl standing behind her that she doesn't know.
They are everywhere. Meet them. All of them.

i love this approach... and even beeing in the lower area of attractniness.. i still do this exactly!

 

[Anonymous]

i would have stayed..

Yes I've gathered from some of your recent posts you're in heat

That made me laugh so hard i coughed.
Fuck you and thank you.

 

[Jupiter551]

I should totally try something like this... though it seems most of the girls I interact with at work always find a reason to mention they have a boyfriend/fiance/husband before I've even mentioned anything other than whatever issue they've come for. Maybe I'm doing something wrong before I even speak.

Commonly known as the "I have a boyfriend" pre-emptive shootdown, this is sometimes simply the truth and in other cases just her being not interested and getting it out of the way early.

 

[Shaun__]

I should totally try something like this... though it seems most of the girls I interact with at work always find a reason to mention they have a boyfriend/fiance/husband before I've even mentioned anything other than whatever issue they've come for. Maybe I'm doing something wrong before I even speak.

Commonly known as the "I have a boyfriend" pre-emptive shootdown, this is sometimes simply the truth and in other cases just her being not interested and getting it out of the way early.

Women tell me about their boyfriends all the time for some reason. These are women I have just met and have not even considered flirting with or anything. I have always assumed they just liked talking about them and never worried about it.

 

[Rayne]

I would've totally swooned and blushed if I got asked out like that. Bravo sir! Sorry it didn't work out though. I never get asked out all smoothly and cute like that. So jealous!

 

[Anonymous]

Women tell me about their boyfriends all the time for some reason. These are women I have just met and have not even considered flirting with or anything. I have always assumed they just liked talking about them and never worried about it.

As weird as it may sound, sometimes blurting out your personal business to a stranger comes naturally...lol. I'm not talking about blurting out your phone number and address. I mean just venting for a quick minute or two about the thing that's currently on your mind.

*in my Sophia Petrillo story-telling voice* (bonus points if you get the reference...hehe) Picture it...Maryland...the bus stop on a weekday morning...someone sits next to you on the bench, and happens to start up a conversation about how their husband does/doesn't do this or that. All of a sudden you find yourself going "Oh, girl, I know what you mean!"

 

[Kunra9]

You should blatantly zone out when girls talk about their BF's.

Like make it apparent that you've completely lost interest in the conversation.

Interrupt them even and say something like "You know, 20 seconds ago you were way more interesting."

Yeah it's rude, but this is a girl that has no interest in you, is pre-emptively rejecting you, and fast-tracking you to the friend zone, so what's the difference. If you stand there and listen to her talk about her boyfriend, she will never stop talking about her boyfriend. ever. (I'm sorry ladies, but on this subject, you really can go on). I learned the hard way so trust me. You listen the first time, and next thing you know she's coming over to your house crying about him one night and is glad you were there because you are such a good listener. Then she'll ask to stay and cuddle, but as soon as you rub your boner on her leg she freaks out and vows to never talk to you again! I've seen it a hundred times.

I know it sounds like I'm trying to be a badass here, like I'm bragging but it's far from it I swear. I get rejected wayyyyyyy more than I'm successful. Way way more. But like I said before it's a numbers game.

I was the dude that always ended up in the friend zone and never got to be the fuck friend. Am I rolling in pussy now? Hell no. Far from it, but do I get laid on occasion? Absolutely.

 

[Rose]

You should blatantly zone out when girls talk about their BF's.

Like make it apparent that you've completely lost interest in the conversation.

Interrupt them even and say something like "You know, 20 seconds ago you were way more interesting."

Yeah it's rude, but this is a girl that has no interest in you, is pre-emptively rejecting you, and fast-tracking you to the friend zone, so what's the difference. If you stand there and listen to her talk about her boyfriend, she will never stop talking about her boyfriend. ever. (I'm sorry ladies, but on this subject, you really can go on). I learned the hard way so trust me. You listen the first time, and next thing you know she's coming over to your house crying about him one night and is glad you were there because you are such a good listener. Then she'll ask to stay and cuddle, but as soon as you rub your boner on her leg she freaks out and vows to never talk to you again! I've seen it a hundred times.

I know it sounds like I'm trying to be a badass here, like I'm bragging but it's far from it I swear. I get rejected wayyyyyyy more than I'm successful. Way way more. But like I said before it's a numbers game.

I was the dude that always ended up in the friend zone and never got to be the fuck friend. Am I rolling in pussy now? Hell no. Far from it, but do I get laid on occasion? Absolutely.

And sometimes that's just a ploy to see how you'll react. :lol: I don't think it's a numbers game. It's a charisma game.

 

[Anonymous]

Then she'll ask to stay and cuddle, but as soon as you rub your boner on her leg she freaks out and vows to never talk to you again! I've seen it a hundred times.

I know it sounds like I'm trying to be a badass here, like I'm bragging but it's far from it I swear. I get rejected wayyyyyyy more than I'm successful. Way way more. But like I said before it's a numbers game.

I was the dude that always ended up in the friend zone and never got to be the fuck friend. Am I rolling in pussy now? Hell no. Far from it, but do I get laid on occasion? Absolutely.

This is kinda funny...lol. You went from being the nice guy defending models with breast implants (in the thread you started) to posting about how often you get laid by women who are "not much to look at." LOL.

 

[helloimc]

Sweet post. I am a fan of these stories. I recently heard one I thought was rather cute/creative and perhaps manipulative which made it perfectly funny. A friend of mine was working at a store in the mall. Note, this friend was very much in the mindset that she would never date again and is quite a dominant character. So when a co-worker she was obviously eyeing approached her, she quickly dodged him to avoid the "opening line." One day, when she took her break - he convinced his manager to take his break as well shortly after she left. He found her in the food court and announced "Hey, I'm going to leave my phone and wallet with on this table while I buy my lunch. If you leave, that's on you." Everyone asked them how long they have been dating when he returned and they had their first "date."

 

[helloimc]

"Hey, I'm going to leave my phone and wallet with on this table while I buy my lunch. If you leave, that's on you."

*"Hey, I'm going to leave my phone and wallet on this table while I buy my lunch. If you leave, that's on you." Fixed.

 

[Kunra9]

Then she'll ask to stay and cuddle, but as soon as you rub your boner on her leg she freaks out and vows to never talk to you again! I've seen it a hundred times.

I know it sounds like I'm trying to be a badass here, like I'm bragging but it's far from it I swear. I get rejected wayyyyyyy more than I'm successful. Way way more. But like I said before it's a numbers game.

I was the dude that always ended up in the friend zone and never got to be the fuck friend. Am I rolling in pussy now? Hell no. Far from it, but do I get laid on occasion? Absolutely.

This is kinda funny...lol. You went from being the nice guy defending models with breast implants (in the thread you started) to posting about how often you get laid by women who are "not much to look at." LOL.

It's not that, I'm not saying I only bang ugly chicks or something. I'm just a big fan of common sense, and logic, and reality.

I don't think we should all dwell in this fantasy world where we all end up with Princess Jasmine who has a 4 inch waist and 44DD breasts. But I'm not saying to settle either. I'm just saying, on occasion I meet a girl who, maybe physically, is not up to my normal standards, but sometimes that will suffice. But in a long term situation I feel everybody deserves more than that.

Let me be clear here:

I am NOT in to manipulating women to get them in bed.
As in, I would never tell a woman I was interested in a relationship, had feelings for, wanted to date, when in reality I only wanted to get laid. If I want to just get laid I will tell her so. She might say no and tell me to fuck off, then so be it. That's life. But then there are those nights when I tell a girl "You're super cute, and funny and everything, but honestly tonight I'm just looking to take someone home with me and never talk to her again." and she responds and is into it because she is looking for the same thing.

You never know how things can turn out though so you should always keep your eyes open.

I'm actually posting this just after arriving home from a country bar/club called Revolver here in Las Vegas.
I am not a country music fan.
I never have fun in this place because it just isn't my scene.

Tonight however, I managed to find the only girl in the place that wasn't "country", who was in a very similar situation with her friends and we totally hit it off.
She would not qualify as "my type", but before I knew it, I was drunk, we were on the dance floor, and I was touching her in awesome places.

Pulled a number and we are hanging out soon.

I honestly don't know what the point of this post was, but I'm still drunk and it kinda makes sense in my drunk brain.

You get what I'm saying though.

 

[Nordling]

Ha ha! Yeah, I know what you mean. Kind of reminds me of some email I keep getting in my spam folder:

 

[Kunra9]

BTW, ladies, if you have that guy friend, that you go crying to when your BF hurts you. Please fuck him. He wants to fuck you. He does, no matter what he says. Do the world a favor and change this friend zone nonsense. He wants to be inside you but is scared that if he makes ANY move that direction, he will be completely cut off.

Just hook up with him one time! PLEASE! That guy is in pain every time you are near him.

Stop telling him "I just really want to meet a nice guy who will care for me and treat me right."

HE IS THAT GUY!! He will fucking worship you. He will treat you like a queen. Better than any man has ever treated you in your entire life. Just get drunk, super hammered, and make a move. He won't stop you I swear. He is super confused as to why you can't see that the "nice guy" you want so desperately is RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU FACE. You are hugging him, crying on his shoulder, calling him "BFF". Its wrong. You're wrong. Stop it.

If you are friends with a guy like this(crying on his shoulder, cuddling all night to feel comfort, sharing stories of promiscuity) STOP IT. You are TORTURING him. You have locked him in the friend zone. Either put out, or leave him alone because you are leading him on, weather you think you are or not is irrelevant.


Guys: If you are that guy. Get out. It's not going to change. She will never wake up and realize you're "the one". Give it up. Let her go. Stop enabling her. Stop being that comfort. She's an adult, leave her to her own insanity. She will NEVER be into you. The best you can ever hope for is a night of super super drunk making out. Move on. Have butt sex with her sister-in-law. Whatever. Get away.

 

[FrenchKitty]

BTW, ladies, if you have that guy friend, that you go crying to when your BF hurts you. Please fuck him. He wants to fuck you. He does, no matter what he says. Do the world a favor and change this friend zone nonsense. He wants to be inside you but is scared that if he makes ANY move that direction, he will be completely cut off.

Oh, fuck, I didn't know he wanted to fuck me, how rude am I , he must think I'm such a bitch!! *takes clothes off*
Thinking about it, my butcher was looking at my butt the other day, poor guy, brb gotta go fuck him ...and the 20 customers too.

 

[Jupiter551]

Oh, fuck, I didn't know he wanted to fuck me, how rude am I , he must think I'm such a bitch!! *takes clothes off*
Thinking about it, my butcher was looking at my butt the other day, poor guy, brb gotta go fuck him ...and the 20 customers too.

Young lady that's exactly the attitude this world needs! :lol:

BTW, 10 to 1 odds the butcher was thinking "now there's a fine cut o' rump" :-D

Ha ha! Yeah, I know what you mean. Kind of reminds me of some email I keep getting in my spam folder:

OMG I thought Joan and I had a thing that two-timing no good...
At least I still have Ellen and this shadowy "social network" that's apparently pimping me out like a motherfucker:

 

[Anonymous]

BTW, ladies, if you have that guy friend, that you go crying to when your BF hurts you. Please fuck him. He wants to fuck you. He does, no matter what he says. Do the world a favor and change this friend zone nonsense. He wants to be inside you but is scared that if he makes ANY move that direction, he will be completely cut off.

Just hook up with him one time! PLEASE! That guy is in pain every time you are near him.

Stop telling him "I just really want to meet a nice guy who will care for me and treat me right."

HE IS THAT GUY!! He will fucking worship you. He will treat you like a queen. Better than any man has ever treated you in your entire life. Just get drunk, super hammered, and make a move. He won't stop you I swear. He is super confused as to why you can't see that the "nice guy" you want so desperately is RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU FACE. You are hugging him, crying on his shoulder, calling him "BFF". Its wrong. You're wrong. Stop it.

If you are friends with a guy like this(crying on his shoulder, cuddling all night to feel comfort, sharing stories of promiscuity) STOP IT. You are TORTURING him. You have locked him in the friend zone. Either put out, or leave him alone because you are leading him on, weather you think you are or not is irrelevant.


Guys: If you are that guy. Get out. It's not going to change. She will never wake up and realize you're "the one". Give it up. Let her go. Stop enabling her. Stop being that comfort. She's an adult, leave her to her own insanity. She will NEVER be into you. The best you can ever hope for is a night of super super drunk making out. Move on. Have butt sex with her sister-in-law. Whatever. Get away.

Boo hoo hoo, a girl sees me as a friend instead of a sexual partner, woe is me BUT I DESERVE IT!!! IM SUCH A NICE GUY!!!11!!

Get the fuck over it. There is no such thing as the friend zone. You are not entitled to sex, you can not put kindness tokens into a woman until sex falls out.

 

[Jupiter551]

Boo hoo hoo, a girl sees me as a friend instead of a sexual partner, woe is me BUT I DESERVE IT!!! IM SUCH A NICE GUY!!!11!!

Get the fuck over it. There is no such thing as the friend zone. You are not entitled to sex, you can not put kindness tokens into a woman until sex falls out.

In slightly less ferocious terms, I agree. Being friends with a female is not a consolation prize for sex, and one person wanting sex does not equal two people wanting sex.

Furthermore, if the only reason you're friends with a woman and being supportive when she needs it is in the hopes of having sex with her, do her a favour and bugger off.

 

[Mirra]

There is no such thing as the friend zone.

I'm with you on everything but this part. At some point in a relationship, one or both participants might decide that this friend is only a friend and not a potential sex partner. The situation can change, but it's a valid relationship status. I'd argue that it definitely exists and it can occasionally be more than just a sex thing.

As has been mentioned in another thread, guys tend to be more likely to think of their friends as potential sex partners. If you go to some male friend for comfort, they may consider themselves Friend Zoned and that's okay. Rather than asking you all to just fuck that guy, however, I'd ask ladies to be careful what they say to their male friends. Especially if seeking comfort for issues with a guy who is/was a potential sexual partner.

Real World Example: Girl knows friend has feelings for her. Girl goes to friend and complains about current relationship. Girl says guys suck. Girl then makes an exception for friend she is talking to. Guy wonders how he can be so great but not be good enough. So like I said just be careful.

 

[Jupiter551]

There is no such thing as the friend zone.

I'm with you on everything but this part. At some point in a relationship, one or both participants might decide that this friend is only a friend and not a potential sex partner. The situation can change, but it's a valid relationship status. I'd argue that it definitely exists and it can occasionally be more than just a sex thing.

As has been mentioned in another thread, guys tend to be more likely to think of their friends as potential sex partners. If you go to some male friend for comfort, they may consider themselves Friend Zoned and that's okay. Rather than asking you all to just fuck that guy, however, I'd ask ladies to be careful what they say to their male friends. Especially if seeking comfort for issues with a guy who is/was a potential sexual partner.

Real World Example: Girl knows friend has feelings for her. Girl goes to friend and complains about current relationship. Girl says guys suck. Girl then makes an exception for friend she is talking to. Guy wonders how he can be so great but not be good enough. So like I said just be careful.

The 'friend zone' is a psychological construct that has been invented to label a perceived behaviour, not some universal truth. In actuality, there is no 'friend zone', just a guy who wants to have sex with/get involved with a girl who isn't interested in him sexually, who he then often becomes friends with and acts as a support mechanism in hopes of getting into her pants. So the 'friend zone' only exists from his perspective, and only because he became/remains friends with her in order to bone her. So no, there is no actual 'friend zone', there's just guys and girls who may or may not want to fuck one another, and guys who pretend to give a shit so they can get sex.

 

[Anonymous]

Jup, congratulations. You're officially out of my friendzone, now come ravage me like apparently all friendzone'd guys want to do.

 

[Mirra]

So no, there is no actual 'friend zone', there's just guys and girls who may or may not want to fuck one another, and guys who pretend to give a shit so they can get sex.

I still disagree with this part because not all guys are pretending to give a shit simply for sex. Some guys would like a chance at a relationship. It's the difference between the douche bags who call themselves "nice guys" looking to score on some chick by pretending to care and the guys who actually like a girl who just isn't in to them... and as I said before that in and of itself is okay. Maybe it happens the other way around sometimes too.