Teeny-Tiny Cam Problem

[ClaireTheFaerieFoxx]

I can't have vaginal orgasms.

I feel like this takes away a whole area of shows for me. Yeah, I could always fake it but since I've never had one, I think people would know?

Anybody else have this problem?

 

[Rubi]

You might not be able to orgasm just by penetration but you can try finishing off with a vibrator on the clit. Or whatever it is you know will make you orgasm,

There may be some pushing for the whole fuck yourself until you cum thing but for the most part members want to see you enjoy yourself.

I am in the same boat and I've only ever had clitoral orgasms on cam, no complaints yet.

 

[uncoveredmanhole]

yeh, as a guy (though obviously I can't speak for all preferences), I'd just say rub one out! 'no one is going to mind' you doing both (vag and clit). what matters is that you look like you're enjoying yourself, and if actually enjoying yourself is possible, whatever that requires you to do, opt for that! then we all win.

 

[Ambers Troll]

There are many women who are visually quite subtle in orgasm, but so long as they have fun with it, their members seem to (myself included). I will admit to frustration at that on occasion but never enough to discourage a return visit with someone I like.

I would go for other types of play if you enjoy it more, you can drop a request during a show to do your preference for orgasm, if that is what the member needs. Many models do this pretty naturally when they want to show their member an orgasm.

 

[Guy]

I can't have vaginal orgasms.

I feel like this takes away a whole area of shows for me. Yeah, I could always fake it but since I've never had one, I think people would know?

Anybody else have this problem?

http://anorgasmia.net

 

[SaffronBurke]

One option: Just do whatever DOES get you off. Plenty of models do clit-play only shows, and their fanbase is plenty happy with that. Yeah, some people will complain, but they're the same dudes who complain no matter what. Doing vaginal? Why no anal bb? Doing anal? DO DP! Doing DP? Why aren't you double-fisting yourself and doing backflips?

As for faking it - I personally am too lazy to fake an orgasm, but it's actually harder to tell than you think. Lots of dudes on camsites are pretty uneducated about female anatomy and sexuality, so you get everyone from the guys who think every little twitch and moan is an orgasm, to the ones who think you didn't get off unless you squirted. If you're comfortable faking, fake away.

 

[CharlieCharma]

I can't orgasm vaginally, but I still love vaginal sex. Same with anal. I enjoy it, but it's not going to make me cum. I treat it like I do sex. Yeah, sometimes I bring vibrators and things like that into the bedroom, sometimes I don't. I still enjoy sex either way though. Just be genuine. Most guys understand you aren't going to cum by fucking a dildo without some external stimulation.

 

[ClaireTheFaerieFoxx]

Thanks for the replies everyone :3

I just worry a tad too much that people will expect it of me? Idk why but I do. I've had guys for years trying their hardest to make me cum and none ever had so it's been solo forever. I can have upwards of 10 Clitoral orgasms in an hours so I've thought maybe I could play off that?

 

[uncoveredmanhole]

Thanks for the replies everyone :3

I just worry a tad too much that people will expect it of me? Idk why but I do. I've had guys for years trying their hardest to make me cum and none ever had so it's been solo forever. I can have upwards of 10 Clitoral orgasms in an hours so I've thought maybe I could play off that?

hell yeh. if you can do a 'goal counter' and a 'cum at every goal' type thing and enjoy yourself, go for it and see how rewarding it is.

and for people who sit in your room for hours at a time, you can always change it up -- do a beautiful agony shot with good audio, do a pussy close-up with all the wetness and muscular activity of orgasm, do a different position, etc. so it stays fresh for them. put up a poll to have them choose now to finish in the next orgasm, etc.

as a model and a viewer I've found the interactivity to be a huge thing. the more you can engage people the more they actually want to tip. it humanizes both of you and makes the most of the fact it's a live interactive medium--the reason presumably _they're_ there instead of on pornhub getting free porn. (while the reason _you're_ there may be purely because professional porn is beyond your reach, not because you enjoy the interaction with your audience ... it's never going to be a good thing to act like that's true, to ignore the very people you depend on)

 

[Deleted member 35180]

I find the more I try to appeal to the caters of different members and the less I make sure I'm happy with what I'm doing, the less I want to cam, and the less I'm exposed/meet members who might tip or be just fine with what I genuinely like.

I'm somewhat the same way, usually only being able to orgasm if my hitachi is involved and/or vibrating butt plug thrown in. Members might say "Hey can you ditch the hitachi?" and I oblige, then they might say "Come for me bb" and I say "Well I'll need to bring the hitachi back then tbh", I'm not faking it. They'll often compromise and be more worried about me getting off than doing it just the way they wanted %100 of the show.

Do you

 

[Serenity_Tam]

As for faking it - I personally am too lazy to fake an orgasm

 

[EspiKvlt]

I can't either. Vibrators are a glorious thing.

 

[CharlieCharma]

Thanks for the replies everyone :3

I just worry a tad too much that people will expect it of me? Idk why but I do. I've had guys for years trying their hardest to make me cum and none ever had so it's been solo forever. I can have upwards of 10 Clitoral orgasms in an hours so I've thought maybe I could play off that?

I had to explain to my current bf that just telling me to "cum" does nothing but turn me the fuck off. The girl he dated before me could cum on command. I don't think I have the heart to tell him she may have been faking a bit or he lost a unicorn.
I will lay around all day and masturbate while watching Netflix when I feel like being lazy though. I've literally gone too far to the point of numbing and twitching from too much vibration in one sitting.

 

[Vera]

Just use a vibrator or fake it, bro. Sorry, I am a salty, old-ass camgirl. You are providing entertainment. You should absolutely enjoy yourself. Invest in a Hitachi! I was a hardcore model for the first two years of my career, and no one complained when I used the Hitachi in conjunction with a toy, or my fingers, or with butt stuff, or even by itself. Most of the time, your members just want to see you pleased.

I don't necessarily condone faking it, but if you are in a scenario where they are totally against clit stimulation like some penile focused neo-Cretins, put your acting abilities to use. Be as authentic as you can, when you can, but don't punish your body in the name of customer satisfaction.

The majority of women can't come without clitoral stimulation. This is very normal. Just have fun with it, get some sweet sex toys, and use your judgment. I've been doing this for five years. I've transitioned to exclusively femdom, but my ability (or inability, aside from with trusted partners) to orgasm strictly vaginally has never hindered my career and I do quite well for myself.

 

[uncoveredmanhole]

penile focused neo-Cretins.

nice.
you reminded me of this:

"The superiority of the clitoris to the vagina in stimulating the process of female sexual response is enough to throw many a guy into a tailspin and make him question the very meaning of life, or at least the meaning of his penis. But as difficult as it may be, it's important to separate the concept of procreation from pleasure: the penis, by dint of its convenient fit into the vagina, may play an instrumental role in the former, but that doesn't mean it's ideally suited to the latter."

 

[Ambers Troll]

The clitoris wasn't designed for vaginal stimulation, the bulbs (bulbs are not erectile tissue) will only transfer so much stimulation to the clitoris. Women will be different shapes and sizes; judging the stimulation they enjoy is much like judging a penis based on size and shape: an indelicate thing to do with a partner, better to have fun with what is on offer.

Most men will struggle with orgasm if you just play with the shaft why would women be any different. For men getting off this way would require just the right pressure in the right way, and usually some stimulation of the glans to get off. In my experiences most women do too.
One of the most sexist things we do is to treat a woman's sexuality as so different from a mans in terms of where we enjoy our erectile organs stimulated.

 

[Deleted member 35180]

I'm pretty sure we were givin clits as encouragement to mount and ride horses far far away from predators

 

[Mikey_P]

It isn't about your enjoyment; it is about your viewers perception of your enjoyment.

 

[Deleted member 35180]

It isn't about your enjoyment; it is about your viewers perception of your enjoyment.

I dunno if it's a good idea to get into a habit of faking your orgasms. Members don't tend to like this from what I've read and models burn out when they're not genuinely enjoying what they do.

 

[Sevrin]

penile focused neo-Cretins

This should simply read "penis-focused cretins".

"Cretin" should not be capitalized anywhere except at the beginning of a sentence, since cretins don't hail from "Cretinia" or some such place; they're just either dumb or afflicted with cretinism. The prefix "neo" implies that there were historical "Cretins" who are being emulated, and since we know that cretinous behavior has never abated, that part's just fluff. "Penile" is an adjective, and can't be the object of focus, especially not in the way genitals deserve to be.

 

[Deleted member 35180]

This should simply read "penis-focused cretins".

"Cretin" should not be capitalized anywhere except at the beginning of a sentence, since cretins don't hail from "Cretinia" or some such place; they're just either dumb or afflicted with cretinism. The prefix "neo" implies that there were historical "Cretins" who are being emulated, and since we know that cretinous behavior has never abated, that part's just fluff. "Penile" is an adjective, and can't be the object of focus, especially not in the way genitals deserve to be.

@Dan202 looks like we found Sheldon

 

[Vera]

@Sevrin, feel better there pal?

 

[Shia]

I can't either. What I do is clitoral stimulation along with penetration. Whether it means using a vibrator AND a dildo or just using my other hand to "rub one out".
I would say next time you masturbate off cam-play around with it and see what works for you. Sometime I open my webcam and do it for just me while watching the cam or recording and watching it after. Watching yourself can give you member-view perspective AND there is no pressure since you aren't live on cam.

 

[JoleneBrody]

Vibe on the clit, dildo in the snootch WELCOME TO THUNDERDOME!

 

[mynameisbob84]

Vibe on the clit, dildo in the snootch WELCOME TO THUNDERDOME!

 

[Sevrin]

@Sevrin, feel better there pal?

I'd feel a lot better if you'd used a colon instead of a comma.

 

[Lelo1]

Part of the fun is every one does it their own way. Some people use hands. others use toys. I've never seen some one pissed off about some one using 'the wrong toy' or 'wrong method of orgasm.'

 

[Vera]

@Sevrin, why on Earth would I do that? That is not conventional punctuation. You don't address people with a colon. I apologize if my punchy post from twoish weeks ago offended. I was only offering my perspective, which can be, admittedly, a little blunt. It comes from a good place and was probably posted late at night while not entirely sober.

If you have an issue with my stance, say so, but being a grammar Nazi is hardly a good look and does not provide anything constructive. I won't derail the thread further, but if anyone takes actual offense to my post feel free to address it in PMs. I did not realize my punctuation and phrasing had such an enormous role in the female orgasm. If I had known I would have been more conscientious.

Edit: For what it's worth, one can very much have a "penile focus." "Cretin" also has something of a colloquial use referring to cavemen, so I felt "neo" was a suitable modifier. *shrug.*

 

[ClaireTheFaerieFoxx]

I really didn't expect to get this many replies! :O I haven't had much positive response in "fellow cammer" department aha But thank you! I'v gotten a lot more advice than I expected ^-^

 

[bud9752]

Vibe on the clit, dildo in the snootch WELCOME TO THUNDERDOME!

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