Two ideas.
1. If/when you talk about visiting her in her country, one day, surprise her and tell her you're on a business trip, you're an hour away from her city by plane, you're 75% sure you can get over there for dinner one night, and hey let's work something out! After all, you're not likely going to be this close again for some time. If her week- which, perhaps she already told you, was going to be uneventful-suddenly gets crazy-busy and she can't nail down a time for you, there's your answer. A ella no le vuelvas hablar, y ya.
If your thing is real, she will cancel everything, she will cut short family funerals, to see you. That's when you feel like a jerk, remind her you had a 75% chance of getting over there, not 100, and never speak of this thing again.
2. Sign up under a new account (don't forget to do it using an independent model's affiliate link) and take her private. Don't be overly sneaky about it, just go and see that what she does for you, she does for others. What she says to you, she very very likely says to others. Brace yourself, it will sting. Remember those witty flirty lines she had, that seemed so spontaneous and clever? They're most likely that way because she works this job many hours a week. She has learned the flirts and lines that are the most effective, and she dropped them on you just like you probably dropped your own on her. It's absolutely nothing personal. Neither is it disingenuous. It's part of the job.
2a. For some reason this reminds me of an ad for the Cancer Treatment Centers of America. A patient asks how long they have left, and a CTCA doc says "I've seen all your scans, betty lou, and nowhere did I see an expiration date on your body." Every staff member within earshot quietly groans, but the patient is thrilled with this response because it meets so many needs: it's witty, it's hopeful, and it's not a lie.
It also skillfully avoids the question, and is not actually true since survival times can be estimated using a variety of 'signs'.
My point is, in every job over time you learn what works and what doesn't. You apply the former, dump the latter.
While both these suggestions are somewhat underhanded, they only really stand to hurt the user. Read any thread on this topic on this site, you will find that the odds of these relationships being real are microscopic. The odds that the user is getting scammed depends on your definition of a scam.
The odds that exceptionalism will spare you from the fate of all those that have come before you are Powerball-bad. Unless your neighbor knows a guy who works for McDonald's who's stealing Monopoly game pieces and they're gonna cut you in, your odds of winning are almost nil.
1. If/when you talk about visiting her in her country, one day, surprise her and tell her you're on a business trip, you're an hour away from her city by plane, you're 75% sure you can get over there for dinner one night, and hey let's work something out! After all, you're not likely going to be this close again for some time. If her week- which, perhaps she already told you, was going to be uneventful-suddenly gets crazy-busy and she can't nail down a time for you, there's your answer. A ella no le vuelvas hablar, y ya.
If your thing is real, she will cancel everything, she will cut short family funerals, to see you. That's when you feel like a jerk, remind her you had a 75% chance of getting over there, not 100, and never speak of this thing again.
2. Sign up under a new account (don't forget to do it using an independent model's affiliate link) and take her private. Don't be overly sneaky about it, just go and see that what she does for you, she does for others. What she says to you, she very very likely says to others. Brace yourself, it will sting. Remember those witty flirty lines she had, that seemed so spontaneous and clever? They're most likely that way because she works this job many hours a week. She has learned the flirts and lines that are the most effective, and she dropped them on you just like you probably dropped your own on her. It's absolutely nothing personal. Neither is it disingenuous. It's part of the job.
2a. For some reason this reminds me of an ad for the Cancer Treatment Centers of America. A patient asks how long they have left, and a CTCA doc says "I've seen all your scans, betty lou, and nowhere did I see an expiration date on your body." Every staff member within earshot quietly groans, but the patient is thrilled with this response because it meets so many needs: it's witty, it's hopeful, and it's not a lie.
It also skillfully avoids the question, and is not actually true since survival times can be estimated using a variety of 'signs'.
My point is, in every job over time you learn what works and what doesn't. You apply the former, dump the latter.
While both these suggestions are somewhat underhanded, they only really stand to hurt the user. Read any thread on this topic on this site, you will find that the odds of these relationships being real are microscopic. The odds that the user is getting scammed depends on your definition of a scam.
The odds that exceptionalism will spare you from the fate of all those that have come before you are Powerball-bad. Unless your neighbor knows a guy who works for McDonald's who's stealing Monopoly game pieces and they're gonna cut you in, your odds of winning are almost nil.
My guess though, is that the majority here has no idea how any of it sounds, outside of the Nordic Noir crime genre (which are almost all Danish anyway). I mean, it's a geographically large area with almost no people in it. Twice the size of California and 20 million people ...
