If a guy and a girl are dating and NOT in an open relationship, but he is okay with her having a threesome with women, but not men, is that a double-standard? Why/why not?
I think if you are dating, that is not the time to start injecting other people into the equation.
Dating is a time for the 2 of you to get to know each other.
Now, if the woman is bi, and that's part of what she needs to be satisfied, you need to discuss that one and come to some sort of understanding, or stop dating and move on.
If he is OK with her having a 3some with another woman but not another man, the double standard thing probably doesn't come into play unless the man is saying "lets have a 3some" and dictates the terms.
If it's just a matter of what either of them will like or not like, it's not a double standard it's simply each of them making known what they do and don't like.
If the woman tells me "I'd like a 3 way with another woman" I could probably be ok with that. If she said she wants a 3way with another guy, I'd have to say no, that's not gonna work for me. I don't see it as a double standard for me to state what I don't like.
I would find it a double standard IF one of us was trying to dictate the terms of the 3way and getting pissed when turned down because of the mix.
When the man and the woman both discuss what they like and dont like, and both have no desire to force the other to engage in an activity they will feel uncomfortable with then there is no double standard.
The double standard comes into play when pressure is put on the one who doesn't care for the mix to do it.
Which is a sign of a deeper problem, when you try to force or pressure your partner into something they clearly do not like/want.
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