Where to cam?

[Janelle]

Hi all!
Short version:
I am a paraplegic, high enough level (T7) that I have no abdominal control. Plus, the accident that made me a paraplegic (hit by car in 2003) did a lot of damage to my body. I will be 50 very soon, but have been told I look like I am in my 30s. I used to work in the sex industry, and I do not have the skills to get into some other field. So, I setup with NiteFlirt. I have not started yet. And I am really wanting to do cam stuff, preferably cam2cam. But, topless only. Damage from the accident has me a little too self-conscious right now.

Considering my age, disability, and the topless only (just panties is cool), suggestions for which cam site(s) please?

Long version:
I worked in the sex industry for nearly a decade. Primarily I did escort (mainly Boston and NYC, but also Miami (Beach), Chicago, Atlanta... wherever clients would fly me basically), both male and female clients (fav was couples; I am VERY happily bisexual). I also did Dom work, most of the time with an established Dom (I had a place in Boston, and also in Fla), but I was not the "typical Mistress" type; I was more like the "girl next door," beach-bunny type, but when you realized your mistake in thinking I was not a true Dom... HahAHhaha! I also did some vid and pic work (nothing notable).

I was taking a break, about to limit myself to established clients and such when I ended up getting hit by a car. Not my fault, but I did freeze like a deer in headlights (I think, no memory of it). I was in a coma for almost 6 days. My right leg bent at an odd angle, and my right hip was badly damaged, and my poor pussy... (sigh)... Not sure how I ended up getting damaged like I did. Right side of my body just got a ton of damage. My right hand was bent sideways. My tongue got bit in half, but they sewed it back on, no sign anything happened to it. Lots of rib and abdominal damage. I had implants (saline; had to have a bunch of breast tissue removed) that developed leaks (result of accident), but had them replaced earlier this year (silicone). Very few visible scars from the front, full zipper scar on my back though. My current pic is me from a few months ago, before my hair finished breaking off from a stylist who should be burned at the stake.

I went through over a year of recovery, and am able to take care of myself almost 100%. I need help with some little things, like getting trash cans to curb, moving large objects, etc. Daily stuff I am self sufficient. And, after a few years of recovery, I discovered I am still VERY much sexually responsive. I am hyper-sexual/sensual, and orgasms are... Even though I do not have tactile sensation below a certain point, I do feel pressure and temperature. Luckily, my sensation response is like an ice cream cone shape, with the tip being my crotch. Pressure in that whole area is VERY much alive. I can masturbate for hours every day, and still crave sex on top of that.

I am used to "in person" interaction, be it professional or personal. I LOVED my work, and LOVED my personal life. When not working, I would go to swingers clubs and parties, and if I went out dancing and felt like getting laid, I would. Not being in the same room as the person(s) I am "with" will be interesting. It will take some getting used to. IMO, that is where I shined. I could usually tell very quickly if there was chemistry, and more often than not there was. Maybe a casual chemistry, maybe a more intense chemistry. The more intense, the more I would "feed" on it, and the more I would pour back into it. So, cam2cam seems like it would be perfect for me, as close as I can get to being "with" someone.

I have a thing for detail.. nuance.. subtleties. And connections. And honesty. If I do not feel it, or if I sense the other person(s) do not, I say something. I have NEVER not given my all. The intensity will reflect it though. But, EVERY time money was involved, I took pride in my work. I cannot be any other way.

I am still trying to reclaim my life. I gained a bunch of weight, but have lost most of that. I started doing the body building thing (inspired by Tiphany Adams from Push Girls), but it is so not my thing (trying to lose the muscle I developed, ugh), and went through almost 8 years of severe depression. I never took meds for it, and climbed out of that pit, and have spent most of 2015 trying to figure out what to do.

I am going to have a new bed frame built soon. It will have an overhead frame with hooks/bolts for a sex swing, straps, etc, so I can have more sexual freedom. Using that for doing cam work would be a no-brainer IMO.

There it is, my boo-hoo story, HAhHA. I am just not sure where to start. MFC? Chaturbate? SM? NiteFlirt sounded like a good starting point, but as I began looking around, I found ACF, and the more I look around, the more I wish I could just be doing what I used to do. I know I cannot, and since sex is on my stupid brain most of the time every day, I figured why not get back into the sex industry? I have not found other paraplegics doing this, so I am a bit unsure of what to do. Any suggestions would be very much appreciated!!!

And I apologize if this post is out of line in ANY way. I simply do not know of anywhere else, or any one else, to look for help. Thank you!!!

 

[disciple_of_lucifer]

Sorry that I don't really have any good advice, but I just wanted to chime in for my fellow hit by a car sister I was hit by a drunk driver (on a wednesday afternoon! WTF!) a few years back and boy is that a tough thing to handle. So glad you are still here with us, living and loving life!! *giant hug*

I haven't started camming just yet, but I would figure that pretty much anywhere you set up, you'd find people interested in you. Make clear what you are/aren't up for. And I think the fact that you're also looking for some real connection with members is a big bonus- I'm sure there are a whole lot of folks out in camland who are also wanting that, so that might be an aspect to really play up!

In any case, I hope all goes super well for you. It's great that you're getting back to doing what you love!
You are soooo gorgeous, btw. I imagine you would have plenty of customers and fans, even if you are only topless!

 

[cara_mae]

I stream on streamate, which I love, so I'd definitely recommend it, but I hear that MFC has a really huge range of people, so you might like that too. You'll do great wherever you go though, you know the industry and you're gorgeous
Also, please tell me if this is insensitive, but there are a lot of people with disability fetishes, and if you were comfortable with that, it could be something worth looking into. Good luck!

 

[LilPixy]

If I were you, I'd try MFC and SM, then maybe Chaturbate. There're differences between them and every girl have to find out which one suits her needs the best. You can also get verified on ACF and get access to Models Only section - there are tons of useful information

 

[Janelle]

Thanks for the replies so far! As for gorgeous... Thank you! But, for me, it was like I happened to get a good pic that day, HAhHA. Not a fan of pics of me, I always feel like the "in person" me is never captured in a pic or video very well.

I was leaning toward MFC, but when I went to sign up, it said "looking for models 18-45." I am guessing it is mainly them wanting girls that are over 18, and look like they are under 40? I wrote them an email asking about it, because I have a thing about following rules when it can result in my being banned or kicked off. Or ending up in jail.

SM and CB I know very little about, looking into both of them. Seems like these are the big three. Cam2Cam is a big part of it for me. All three are a bit daunting to me; I feel like "itty bitty broken old lady fish in huge ocean of incredibly beautiful young women fish." But, I imagine a lot of women feel like that, especially at first. I am hoping that once I put myself out there, I will get over it. Everything has changed SOOO much from the 90s and early 2000s, and since I was kinda out of it, I am playing catch-up. The negativity that seems rampant on the 'net saddens me, but I guess I will learn to sigh and move on I could never bad mouth another girl.

@cara_mae: Not insensitive at all!!! I am VERY open about things, and always prefer discussing something, so long as people are courteous and respectful. Anyone who politely asks about my accident, disability... anything! I am very happy to chat. I am definitely planning on using being a paraplegic to my advantage, when appropriate "Even being in this wheelchair, I am a woman, so I am still better than you, silly male!" And if someone fethisizes (word? sp?) it? Works for me! A sexy mind is... Mmmmm

 

[SoTxBob]

Hi Janelle, welcome to ACF. Each of the sites have their vibes and MFC can be quite hard for a start out or, if you hit it right and on a good day, it can be immediately great. Its the damn cam score that takes a lot of new girls out of public eye. You have a head start tho having dealt with clients in the past. You will find a lot of 'tools' to deal with on whatever site you go to. I'd make accounts at all of the sites and float for awhile till you find one thats a good fit. When its non productive at one, try another etc.
.... no way you're 50...

 

[Tilly]

I think you would do really well trying out MFC and Chaturbate! I've seen plenty of models (at wide age ranges) do well being "topless only" and even non-nude altogether! The cool thing about starting on Chaturbate would be the lack of camscore ranking. You can stay on as long as you want on CB without having your tokens per hour affect your placement on the homepage (which brings in traffic to your chatroom). If you have a fun, engaging personality the possibilities are limitless. Camming is largely luck and a pinch of skill.

 

[SashaBlack]

I stream on Chatrubate and I'm quite happy there You should try!

 

[Janelle]

Thanks again so much for all the replies I have been this mix of excited, scared, nervous, and more. I felt like running away SOOO many times (figuratively, of course, HahHa!). I still have some things to get done for my "set" to be ready enough for me to be comfortable broadcasting. Bring a paraplegic, I cannot simply stand up and dance, or move around very much without some serious effort. I have some ideas to compensate for that, just waiting for the carpenter to be freed up to get the work done

I got accepted over at MFC! I think I am also going to apply at SM for now, perhaps try CB later if neither of those pans out. Cam2Cam seems like it would be my favorite thing, since person(s)2person was my fav before my accident, with filing with others being second. Solo pics and stuff was never my thing, mainly because I "feed" off of others' energy, and the other people prompt how I act and react. Hope I explained that well enough. I have to have sex every day, and it must include at least an hour or so of masturbating or I become a complete bitch. If someone want to pay to watch my boring ass do that, more power to them. But... Cam2Cam for that? WHOLE different story! Hoping I find what I am after at one of these two.

@SoTxBob : Awww!!! Thank you! But, technically, not 50 yet. Few more days left this side of the fence This was the first year I went to buy some wine and did NOT get carded! I really wanted to make that 50th bday before having that happen. But, I have been out with friends in their early 30s, and I get carded, and some of them did not, Hahha!!!

 

[sagereign]

Streamate has both a confidential phone feature and cam to cam! They also seem more fetish-based than a lot of other sites so if you're used to doing dom work or what have you, could be interesting. MFC also has c2c and a really friendly environment, and you have a ton of freedom with your shows. Also, you could sell Skype shows on MFC and get that personal interaction that way.

 

[caireen]

Also, if you are comfortable with the disability fetish you might want to look at Clips4Sale (I know there is a wheelchair category, I'm not sure what else). I know it's not live camming, but you can make a decent living or supplemental earnings from clips (videos) selling there. And you might be able to meet a lot of guys potentially interested in Skype shows that way, too.

 

[LilPixy]

C4S is a good idea, not only for the disability fetish. If you decide to make some videos you can sell them through camsites and Clips4Sale. Like Caireen said, it can be a source of addtional income.

 

[Janelle]

More replies! Thank you all so much!!

I ended up choosing MFC and SM to start with. Because of holidays, birthdays, NYE, etc, getting a contractor in here has been very tough, so it looks like first or second week of January to start. Unless I figure a way to not just be a disabled lump flopped in bed, HahHA!! Catch22 though, because if I had a following, I could stick to cam2cam, and I KNOW I would be fine even without the "bed gymnastics frame" being built. But I need to be able to build clientele first, and would feel better having the ability to move more freely.

C4S sounds very cool! I saw that before (and others), but could not figure a way to create anything interesting enough with what i have. My injury level, effectively, is just below my breasts, and without abdominals, I have to use my arms for everything, which is why I got into bodybuilding. How it distorted my body (further), in my eyes at least, is why I stopped. I am more... FemDom with my mind and body language than with any visual sign of physical force, or looking like a threat. I love looking like the girl next door, only to discover just a little too late what a HUGE mistake that first impression was. I guess I feel like I need to figure out what fetishes I can play best to, which ones I feel best playing roles for, and then find someone to help me capture that in videos. You girls have me thinking now, so... Thank you so much!!!

 

[SpankyHam]

Why not cam from your chair? Quite a few models sit behind a table or desk with just their upper body visible, and if you are just wanting to do topless this may be a good option, and mobility will be less of an issue.

 

[disciple_of_lucifer]

Regarding making clips, I know plenty of folks make videos where they are mostly just talking! So if that did strike your fancy, you could certainly do something like that. Maybe browse through some of the categories that click with you on clip sites and see the kinds of things people are making! I'm certain there is a lot you could do without any difficulty

 

[Janelle]

Thanks for the continued replies!!

Why not cam from your chair? Quite a few models sit behind a table or desk with just their upper body visible, and if you are just wanting to do topless this may be a good option, and mobility will be less of an issue.

This is something I have considered, and have not ruled it out. I love variety, and this could be part of it, or it might be the only thing that ends up working for me. While in my wheelchair, if I lean at all, I only have one hand available to use, because the other is holding onto a rim or other bit to stabilize me. I usually lean on something, or hold onto something. I actually took up body building for several years (inspired by Tiphany Adams), but felt the look was too masculinizing for me (still trying to lose that bulk! ).

With limited mobility, I know I am not able to do any dancing, or be able to flip onto my knees, ass in the air, and go to town on myself and stuff. No ability to arch my back, etc. Add in my age, and the visual impact of the damage to my body, and I can see my (potential) audience shrinking. I am unable to fake stuff; if I try to fake emotion... I have been told it is obvious I am faking. In my past work, it was the interaction with guys, girls, and couples that allowed me to do well. If I met someone/couple and the vibe was not there, I would tell them, and suggest trying someone else. Personal and professional life. This is where I think the cam2cam thing would be excellent for me. I masturbate every day for at least an hour, usually closer to two, and sometimes go three or more. And then I will still have sex on top of that. So why not just masturbate on cam? If my body were not so damaged, I probably would, if the $$ were there. But it is damaged. I guess I could get things fixed, but even then with my limited mobility it would mostly be me on my back.

I do have a carpenter coming out to build an overhead frame, like a four poster bed, but with a beam also across side-to-side. This would allow me more mobility (use your imagination, HahA). I am planning to try that out soon (7-10 days from now). The C4S thing.... I have some ideas already, and have been looking into the fetishes my disability works with. So, if I can get clients that want to get off with me, ones that I can utilize my other talents with, and then fill things out with wheelchair time and clips, then cool! I have been researching like mad, taking suggestions, finally found this place, and now it is time to flop out there and see if anyone is interested in a quirky paraplegic middle-aged hypersexual alpha female that refuses to lie down and simply survive the rest of my life. Sex was my life before, and I do not really know anything else, and I don;t really have the urge to do anything else. I am clumsy and awkward at everything in life except sex/sensual pleasure. Go figure...

 

[Violet Dawn]

You have probably already heard these but for your situation and what you are wanting I honestly think that Streamate, Niteflirt and Cammodel directory would be great for you. And Clips4sale is a great income boost, especially if you want to utilize your disability.

 

[Omne35]

A lot of it depends on whether you enjoy one on one interaction or dealing with multiple conversations at once. If you have a lot of energy MFC or CB can be good. There is a lot of great advice in this thread. It might take a couple of tries to find your perfect place so don't limit yourself to only certain sites. Any of them can be very successful depending on you.

 

[Janelle]

I have soooo much to do today (all week actually), but had to stop in and say THANK YOU!!! This forum is absolutely amazing, Amber is... beyond all!!!

I finally said screw it and tried out MFC last night for a couple of hours. WOW!! Circus is an understatement, HahHA!! I got to ban someone (one warning policy; they bad mouthed another person in my room), got to let the girls out, and got to babble. It is SOO different from anything I ever did prior to my accident, including stripping (only a few months for that... too clumsy, HahHA! and was not my cup of tea). I did have some cam2cam requests, so I am hopeful that I can get that going. I was almost totally unprepared, but wanted to see how the software worked (web browser based), and how my cam (Logitech 920) would do (used it on skype before). I did not expect a flood of people, HahHA! Nor did i expect them to stay once they saw I was a paraplegic, and not doing a full nude type show last night. Had an absolute blast, who knows what I screwed up (besides dropping my camscore a little). I did get to "Walk Like An Egyptian." My limitations are so frustrating, but I am working VERY hard to compensate (hardware-wise, like a bed swing, straps, etc), it is simply a matter of my dependence upon others to do the work I am unable to physically do that is slowing me down. Despite that, going to try and see how far I can go on Friday night

Once again THANK YOU SO MUCH to all who helped, PMs, notes on MFC, here, etc, and Amber and this forum!!! You have helped me get going doing something I NEVER thought I would be able to do

Oh- and if the person who said they went skydiving last night is on here as well... you disappointed me by not adding "naked" to your claim. Please do better next time

 

[SpankyHam]

Congrats! Happy to hear it was a good experience, I will try to drop in on you friday to show my support.

 

[Miss_Lollipop]

Happy you tried out MFC and it went well! (i think?)

Remember with MFC its largely a social site. If you're good at talkign to lots of people at once, and you're entertaining and a good chat host.. I'm sure you can find a way to make this work for you. Your unique situation will make you very, very memorable. best of luck!!!

Oh if you're bulky/muscled there is a strong-woman fetish and related type clips on c4s. i bet you could sell clips where you show off how strong your arms are and tell them how even though you're in a wheelchair you can fuck them up. Or something. (im a weakling so i dont know much about this fetish but you should look into it if it sounds like something you'd enjoy)

 

[Janelle]

Congrats! Happy to hear it was a good experience, I will try to drop in on you friday to show my support.

Thanks!! It has been a rollercoaster week, the dominoes are each falling sideways or backward rather than forward so far in 2016. Our water heater decided to give out today, guy cannot even get here until afternoon tomorrow. No idea if I will be able to be on tomorrow, and then Saturday through Monday will be out of town. Going to try tomorrow, but might try SM out.

 

[Janelle]

Happy you tried out MFC and it went well! (i think?)

HAhA, yes and no.

Remember with MFC its largely a social site. If you're good at talkign to lots of people at once, and you're entertaining and a good chat host.. I'm sure you can find a way to make this work for you. Your unique situation will make you very, very memorable. best of luck!!!

MFC reminds me of working at strip clubs. Granted, my experiences are from 1991 (all east coast, mostly southern, Dollhouse, Crazy Horse, etc), and I never worked as a regular at any club. I only lasted a few months, and moved on to escort (mid-range, knew people, networking clubs paid off ), which was more my thing. Add in Dom work as a team with girls I knew, and I was in heaven (money-wise, and "job satisfaction" HAHhA). "Fishing" a crowd is difficult for me some times, other times I am great. But, I forget about making money when I am having fun like that. I hesitate to mention it, but.. I am also "high functioning" Autistic. Yeah, I know, a bundle of oddities and quirks.

Oh if you're bulky/muscled there is a strong-woman fetish and related type clips on c4s. i bet you could sell clips where you show off how strong your arms are and tell them how even though you're in a wheelchair you can fuck them up. Or something. (im a weakling so i dont know much about this fetish but you should look into it if it sounds like something you'd enjoy)

This is where I am VERY torn. I stopped doing the body building thing, and wish my arms/shoulders would go back to before. I cannot even fit into my favorite jacket from before I began doing that. I have been called some pretty rude things, especially when I was really into it. I saw Tiphany Adams, and just got inspired. My arms are a little smaller than hers now (12.5" biceps, flexed, 11" forearms flexed), but still look too masculine to me (though there are girls and guys I know that seem to get very turned on by it, Hahaha!). Thing is, not matter how much or hard I trained, I never felt I got the added strength benefit. I have to ask others to open jars, and most hills are a no-go on my own. Do I try to make clips highlighting something I am overly self-conscious about? Or do I wait until I have lost the weight/size? Without the ability to work my abs or legs, it does look odd, HahHA.

I appreciate the suggestions SOOO much. Especially because of who you are, and I am beyond thankful that you took time to reply to me, a noob. I am in awe of you (and several others on here... okay, more than several, HAhHA!). I am "not right in the head," am a proud vulgarian and pervert. I warn people about inviting me to go places, especially funerals and weddings. I make inappropriate people blush and faint. When I find other girls like me, this teenager in me begins excitedly dancing aorund, screaming, "LOOK!!! I found another one like me!! She is totally wacked!! YESSSSS!!!"

 

[nikki_bbw]

I honestly would say MFC first and foremost. It has a HUGE amt of traffic and there is someone for every type of model there if she plays her cards right. But most importantly, MFC members feed off of interaction and personal relationships. The big earners don't make big money from casual tippers who come and go. They make it off of regulars who have formed a close relationship with them. You seem very people-oriented, like communication and building relationships is your forte. So I think that would be a great fit for you. Bonus: It's where you can make the most amt of money out of all the camsites (generally speaking). EXTRA bonus: It's nearly essential that you have something that makes you stand out from other girls there. I mean no offense when I say this, but you being a paraplegic and your story behind it can really be a talking point for your chat rooms and help you connect with guests. It's what makes you unique, so I'd definitely go for that site before I tried the other ones.

 

[Janelle]

I honestly would say MFC first and foremost. It has a HUGE amt of traffic and there is someone for every type of model there if she plays her cards right. But most importantly, MFC members feed off of interaction and personal relationships. The big earners don't make big money from casual tippers who come and go. They make it off of regulars who have formed a close relationship with them. You seem very people-oriented, like communication and building relationships is your forte. So I think that would be a great fit for you. Bonus: It's where you can make the most amt of money out of all the camsites (generally speaking). EXTRA bonus: It's nearly essential that you have something that makes you stand out from other girls there. I mean no offense when I say this, but you being a paraplegic and your story behind it can really be a talking point for your chat rooms and help you connect with guests. It's what makes you unique, so I'd definitely go for that site before I tried the other ones.

No offense at all!! I appreciate all the advice given, and everything has been meant in a positive manner, and all have been incredibly helpful, providing insight, and other points of view. I LOVE that!!! Thank you for the reply!!

I love established clientele, love meeting new people. But, being a Dominant/Alpha personality type (with a very fragile inner shell at times), it can be interesting at times. I know what I want to do, and need to figure out how to make that happen. I got two nights of trying two different approaches, and have learned at least one "what not to do," hHahah!

Maybe I will take tomorrow off and not try to rush into getting on with the water heater fiasco and all, and with so much happening this weekend. With the advice given, I will put together a new plan, and use my free time to build a proper profile, and ask some friends to help with creating clips (I am VERY open about my past and present in the sex industry, and VERY proud to be in it!).

 

[Janelle]

BTW- here is a shot of Tiphany Adams. She is a lower level paraplegic, and has use of her abdominal muscles. She is currently using arm braces to walk a bit. Though I am not that big, and never got that big, that is how I feel I look, and having been into gymnastics and martial arts, it is not a look I ever wanted. Toned, lean, not bulky. I simply did not think I could ever be "Me" again after that accident, and tried to find a new "Me." While I can never have my previous "Me," I cannot be something that is not "Me."