Nothing of what you say she's told you strikes me as untrue. But make no mistake:
You've been fooled.
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my advice to another guy in a similar situation, I strongly urge you to cut all contact with this woman immediately. Trust me, I know perfectly well how hard that will be for you. But to protect your health and sanity, not to mention your bank account, it's the only wise thing for you to do.
I'm sorry to say you still have a number of difficult and painful lessons to learn about women before you'll be able to have a relationship that meets
your needs as much as it does hers. This is not the place to discuss that, but here's one thing you can pick up easily by browsing this forum:
To women, Webcamming is a business. They do not go on camera to meet men, find a boyfriend or fall in love—they have far better avenues available to them for doing all that. Women work as Webcam models to
make money, and in much the same way a bar owner is happy to hand out bowls of salted nuts, not because he's generous but because it stimulates drink sales, models are sometimes happy to foster a man's delusions around being a wealthy provider swooping in to save the damsel in distress. It plays to our instincts, and it's a powerful way of keeping us on the hook—and spending money.
In other words, you've been sold a bill of goods. And she's been laughing all the way to the bank.
Make no mistake: This woman is not in love with you, does not feel reliant on your "help", has almost certainly been seeing a boyfriend or two the entire time you've known her and would never be seriously interested in meeting you in person. Frankly,
nobody, man or woman, can respect a man who spends his money with such reckless abandon.
The best thing you can do right now is to refocus your energy on yourself and start
investing your resources in learning what it takes to be a successful and attractive man, then begin the journey of self-development that will get you there. If you have absolutely no idea where to start, consider starting with a therapist who can help you identify why it is you feel so dependent on securing approval from women. $75,000 will pay for a lot of sessions.
And please, please:
Abandon any thoughts you have of travelling to Romania to meet this woman. Eastern Europe is
not like America; people there have grown up in rough environments under governments that are thoroughly corrupt, and if you've never lived outside the West you have no idea the sort of easy target you represent to these people. You never know who'll be there to meet you, but you can be quite certain it won't be this girl. American men have been
killed flying to Eastern Europe believing they were about to meet their mail-order bride.
So stay safe, invest in yourself and forget about this woman. Trust me, she hasn't been suffering (not with the money you've been spending on her) and will have forgotten all about you in a week. Once you've successfully built yourself up into the sort of man women naturally find attractive, you'll have plenty of decent girls to choose from right in your own city.