legmanct said:
About two years ago I was bored so I went through the profiles of every US model who was online at the time and took a look at each ones wishlist.
Every one who had a pair of black fishnet stockings or pantyhose on their wishlist I ordered them for them. I think that day ordered 15 pairs of fishnets for cam girls. (Yeah I have a fetish for fishnets)
Out of the 15 pairs, all the girls got them and said thanks, but I only got to see 2 of them actually wear them which was disappointing. Most of them were like, I wore them for my boyfriend and he loved them... never to be seen on cam unfortunately.
One of them got them and I asked if she wanted to model them for me in a private and she told me, "thanks for the fishnet, but I don't dress like a slut." I then asked her why she had them on her wishlist and was promptly kicked from the room.
I think that was the last time I ordered anything from anyone's wishlists.
I'm really sorry you had that experience- but I would say that's bound to happen if you just buy items for models you don't know or have a rapport with. There are always going to be a few who ruin the reputation of many, just like there are rude members who could give members in general a bad name. They are not necessarily a representative sample! Personally, I do a little thank-you photoset for every outfit that's bought for me, and I definitely wear them on cam; I try specifically to wear them when I know that member will be around, so we can do a private if they want.
PunkinDrublic said:
Yeah I see money/tokens as payment for a job/service. Gifts would basically be random dudes gifts in our house. I'm sure she'd be mad if I bought gifts for models but doesn't care about pvt shows/amount of tokens spent. Curious what rules models have for husbands/bfs when it comes to camgirls.
I think that would certainly be a matter that's different for each individual couple! I also think a critical difference here is in the dynamic and level of intimacy between members and models. Although I think my regulars are the cat's meow, know each one of them fairly well, and appreciate everything they do- from tipping, to keeping up conversation even when it's slow, to buying things off my Wishlist- 95% of them I have never seen before, certainly not with as much frequency as they see me. I can't hear their voice, or see their minute facial expressions. There's also only one of me, but there are many members. Obviously, they are all still special- they're my boys! They're a tight-knit pack of incredible people. But on a psychological level, members have the opportunity to develop a much more intimate connection to a model than the model can form with them. With that in mind, although gifts are always amazing, unexpected, and occasionally even elicit tears of gratitude, it's not
quite as intimate to receive gifts than to give them. No different, really, than them dropping a huge token bomb and me using those tokens to buy the things on my wishlist.
Again, this is a super individual thing- if it bothered my boyfriend for me to have gifts from other guys, I wouldn't have a Wishlist. But it doesn't, so I do!
