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[BaneAndIvy]

"Although not usually grounds for termination, affairs between co-workers can form the basis for expensive sexual harassment lawsuits. Even in the context of a consensual affair between an employee and a supervisor, an employer might be sued by other employees if the supervisor demonstrates favoritism. Also, under certain state laws, supervisors can be held strictly liable for claims of sexual harassment from their subordinates. And in some states, the supervisor may be held personally liable for proven claims of sexual harassment."

http://martin-martin.net/resources/offi ... -business/


And anything that isn't consensual (sharing pornography of an employee, for example) certainly is.



Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.

Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitutes sexual harassment when submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual's work performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment.

Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of circumstances, including but not limited to the following:

"The victim as well as the harasser may be a woman or a man. The victim does not have to be of the opposite sex.
The harasser can be the victim's supervisor, an agent of the employer, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or a non-employee.
The victim does not have to be the person harassed but could be anyone affected by the offensive conduct.
Unlawful sexual harassment may occur without economic injury to or discharge of the victim.
The harasser's conduct must be unwelcome.
It is helpful for the victim to directly inform the harasser that the conduct is unwelcome and must stop. The victim should use any employer complaint mechanism or grievance system available.

When investigating allegations of sexual harassment, EEOC looks at the whole record: the circumstances, such as the nature of the sexual advances, and the context in which the alleged incidents occurred. A determination on the allegations is made from the facts on a case-by-case basis.

Prevention is the best tool to eliminate sexual harassment in the workplace. Employers are encouraged to take steps necessary to prevent sexual harassment from occurring. They should clearly communicate to employees that sexual harassment will not be tolerated. They can do so by establishing an effective complaint or grievance process and taking immediate and appropriate action when an employee complains."


http://www.eeoc.gov/facts/fs-sex.html


And I bolded that in response to the "husband shouldnt have said anything" comments.

So no, having a relationship with another employee is not illegal to do, but you can still easily face legal problems, even if it is consensual.


But, I (Ivy), digress. My issue isnt a matter of legality or pressing charges or anything of the sort. Its more of an "okay, what now?"

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

JoBerry point is still correct it isn't illegal.

But, I (Ivy), digress. My issue isn...of the sort. Its more of an "okay, what now?"

The way I figured it Bane told his boss or coworkers or some combination that you were doing porn. If they followed your twitter, which you invited them do, they found your video.
I can see why its a little creepy that boss bought your video, but isn't even close to being illegal, grounds for a harassment suit, or even IMO that unusual.

Given that Bane works at a bar the good news is I doubt its going have a big impact on had career. That said it is hard to imagine that after a few drinks there isn't going to be a lot of snickering, "Man did you see Bane's wife Ivy she has fantastic tits/ass and she gives a great blow job", by customers and probably co-workers.

One approach would be to own it, anytime somebody brings it up you talk about what blast it is to cam, describe all the trick you use to get or stay hard, have orgasms, talk about the weird requests and treat the whole experience as perfectly normal. There are camgirls/pornstars that do this. I bet its hard but IDK.
You can ignore the comments, but I think you guys maybe too sensitive to do that.

It sounds you want some magic way that folks you know IRL can't watch. This isn't possible anymore, it is really easy to get around region blocking, twitter follower just requires a new email, and you do want to use twitter as a promotional medium. Your best defense was to be just one of tens of thousand of girls camming, but that opportunity is gone. Sorry

The other choice is for Bane to find a new job, if its a small town and its another bar I'd be concern that gossip travels fast.
You can quit camming either permanently, or at least for a bit change your name, maybe your look and try to start over.

Realistically I don't think you have any good choices. :-(

 

[mynameisbob84]

If I'm following correctly then it doesn't sound like there'd be much ground for a sexual harassment suit (not that that's being seriously considered by anyone). From your/your husband's boss' POV, he hasn't done too much wrong. He was invited to follow your Twitter, which advertises your sexual content, which he then (legally) purchased. The next thing he knows, he's being interrogated about it and now you all find yourselves in the awkward situation you're in.

I guess being "found out" by co-workers/friends/family is one of those things that every camgirl dreads and hopes never happens, but it's also one of those things (and this is obviously easy for me to say as a viewer of cams and not a performer) that you kinda have to be prepared to deal with. If it's something that you simply can't deal with, then maybe camming just isn't for you. And there's no shame in that.

My advice would be to not freak about it (probably easier said than done) and do everything you can to normalise the situation. There's this weird (if understandable) paradox when it comes to sex work where on the one hand, sex workers want their work to be accepted by society as 'normal', but on the other, the focal point of sex work - the sex itself - is still treated as this precious thing to be guarded and shielded. Neither expectation is unreasonable, but the two don't really mix. If you were in any other profession, you'd likely welcome the boss' custom and wouldn't mind him paying for your service/product. You'd encourage it. The more sex work is normalised, the less of a big deal this will become :twocents-02cents:

 

[UncleThursday]

This is Bane.
I'll explain this in a way you can understand.
If you're management of any establishment, or owners, you are not permitted to have a sexual relationship with any employee. Technically, employees also cannot have any sexual connection with eachother legally.
If you pursue such connections, it is a violation of the law, and you can be convicted for it. Even if it's just looking at a person the wrong way, or buying a video, or even doing things with them in your own time.
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Hold on. Where did you get such a silly notion? There's no law against that at all. There's laws against harassment. But sexual relaitions? Uh, no. I didn't read all the prior posts, but if you were under that delusion I think that may be a source of confusion here.
Large companies quite often instill guidelines prohibiting sex among bosses and coworkers to limit liability should someone sue. But it is in no way against any law.

I was going to say the same thing. There is no law, that I am aware of, that prevents co-workers or employers and employees from having consensual sexual relations with each other. It's different if one is higher on the chain of command and then uses sex as a leveraging tool and whatnot. But there is no such law that prevents consenting adults from having sexual relations with each other, simply because they work together.

Now, the problems that can arise from such relationships, such as not leaving fights outside of work outside of work and causing a disruption at the workplace, is why many companies discourage interpersonal intimate relationships between coworkers or employees and employers.

The only place where I am aware of these sorts of things becoming a major issue is in the military, where they frown upon superiors being involved in relationships with their subordinates, and even go so far as to not let them get married until one or the other transfers out of the direct chain of command (like to another unit on the same base, happened to my cousin before he was allowed to get married because his fiance was a superior officer in his unit).

 

[Zoomer]

Since Husbands and Wives can, and do, work together without being arrested - the "dating coworkers / fucking coworkers is illegal" is clearly baloney. Companies may frown upon it, but companies don't make laws either.

As for defining what sexual harassment is... that's up for a court (or more likely, a tribunal) to decide. You cannot say it is - you can say it is likely... or alleged.

Otherwise, you may be edging towards libel/slander on your part - depending upon the medium

 

[Ann_Sulu]

Mainly the whole dating relations issue is a company thing. Most companies don't want to have co workers favoring anyone over the other simply due to relationships outside of work. Obviously it isn't the same for camsites. Sorry I took a break at this thread, but upon scanning things I agree with the points made here, but would add...since the boss was "invited" perhaps it's best to either ignore and move on if he doesn't bother anyone other than buying stuff or talking to him telling him it was an accident (yes, awkward). If he brings stuff up to people that is a whole other matter that I won't go into, since it's been brought up many times before in this thread. I hope things do calm down for you two though. Would hate for that to bring down your spirits on cam.