LaceyRoyce
Cam Model
- Feb 7, 2011
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- Twitter Username
- @MissLollipopMFC
- MFC Username
- Miss_Lollipop
- Clips4Sale URL
- http://clips4sale.com/store/46293/misslollipop
Your right to personal safety is unassailable.
Your arguments, on the other hand...
Apparently, you haven't yet realized that that also works the other way around.
If you thought I was going to come in here with my legs spread so you could kick me in the nuts, think again.
Another helping of self-fulfilling prophecy, anyone? There's plenty left.
And this year's Academy Award for taking off her clothes goes to... MarieElise.
Condescension. Junior if I do it, classy if you do it, huh?
Tsk, tsk.
If you think my status hinges on what you think of me, you have more in common with the stalkers and creeps you despise so publically than you care to admit.
Well, ladies, this has been fun. I can't say I haven't enjoyed at least some of the witty repartee. And I enjoy the moral high ground as much as the next cam model.
But if the price of claiming it is knifing someone in the chest, count me out.
Friend - when I want to show up in solidarity with a group of people where I carry privilege (and you are aware of this, as you noted) I start by listening, I do not start by telling the less privileged in my group what to do.
I’m a bisexual woman who mostly dates men. In queer spaces I don’t come in and tell people to simply refuse to feel shame because - I know - I pass as straight. I ask questions about their experiences and then I try to provide what they say they need for support.
Your post could have been “hey guys see this post about stigma and online safety and I’m curious how much shame plays a role for you? If you didn’t feel any shame from your community would you still feel the need to be so careful?”
But you didn’t do that you TOLD us and then when called in about it - relatively kindly I will add, instead of listening you just got defensive.
You mentioned the matter of safety - that we deserve to feel safe. You did not address the matters I raised about access to society too.
Shame can be a real part of sex work - internalized or external. But stigma is really about so much more and if you had asked questions and approached with curiosity instead of preaching, from a place of privilege .., you might have been able to find a community here.
Hopefully you at least will think before you tell people what to do on your first interaction