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I’ve lurked on this site unregistered for years, but today I felt like posting about something I’ve been thinking about.


Does anyone else get really down when their favorite model/camgirl/SW retires and disappears from the internet? I’ve been on sites like MFC for over 20 years and have seen so many of my favorites leave. On one hand, I’m happy they’re moving on to the next stage of life and wish them the best. On the other hand… holy fuck, it can feel pretty rough.


I think part of it is that I follow some SWs the same way I follow actors, singers, or artists — except with SWs there’s often a more personal, intimate connection. With other performers, they usually stay in the spotlight for decades, make public appearances, stay active on social media, or have ways for fans to reach out. But with SWs, they can vanish completely. Sometimes they announce it, sometimes they don’t, and you’re left wondering what happened. A few transition into other public roles, like Twitch streaming, but most just… “poof” — they’re gone.


I often think about a model I used to watch on MFC years ago who also used to post here. She was easily my favorite MFC model ever. She completely changed how I saw camming — she didn’t fit the stereotype I had in my head. She was incredibly sweet and respectful to her fans, crazy talented, funny, geeky, and had one of the most infectious smiles I’ve ever seen. She had a real passion for so many things, and it showed. She somehow made something often seen as “naughty” or “taboo” feel warm, wholesome, and welcoming. Her streams were fun, positive, and had such a great atmosphere. I still miss them. Sometimes I think, “Man, it would be cool to send her some fan mail,” just to say thanks. I've tried sending messages before using sites that still exist, but from what I can tell, they've been abandoned.


I like to think she’s living her best life, but her leaving also makes me sad to think about because no one will ever fill her shoes. It’s bittersweet.
 
I’ve lurked on this site unregistered for years, but today I felt like posting about something I’ve been thinking about.


Does anyone else get really down when their favorite model/camgirl/SW retires and disappears from the internet? I’ve been on sites like MFC for over 20 years and have seen so many of my favorites leave. On one hand, I’m happy they’re moving on to the next stage of life and wish them the best. On the other hand… holy fuck, it can feel pretty rough.


I think part of it is that I follow some SWs the same way I follow actors, singers, or artists — except with SWs there’s often a more personal, intimate connection. With other performers, they usually stay in the spotlight for decades, make public appearances, stay active on social media, or have ways for fans to reach out. But with SWs, they can vanish completely. Sometimes they announce it, sometimes they don’t, and you’re left wondering what happened. A few transition into other public roles, like Twitch streaming, but most just… “poof” — they’re gone.


I often think about a model I used to watch on MFC years ago who also used to post here. She was easily my favorite MFC model ever. She completely changed how I saw camming — she didn’t fit the stereotype I had in my head. She was incredibly sweet and respectful to her fans, crazy talented, funny, geeky, and had one of the most infectious smiles I’ve ever seen. She had a real passion for so many things, and it showed. She somehow made something often seen as “naughty” or “taboo” feel warm, wholesome, and welcoming. Her streams were fun, positive, and had such a great atmosphere. I still miss them. Sometimes I think, “Man, it would be cool to send her some fan mail,” just to say thanks. I've tried sending messages before using sites that still exist, but from what I can tell, they've been abandoned.


I like to think she’s living her best life, but her leaving also makes me sad to think about because no one will ever fill her shoes. It’s bittersweet.
I wlil be honest, I haven't even been doing this long (almost a year?) and even I sometimes feel nostalgic and wonder how people I've done privates with are doing now. I guess it goes both ways lol. Brains are weird.
 
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I think it totally makes sense to feel a bit down when your favorite model retires. Especially if it’s someone who you would visit online and interact with often.

I’m planning on retiring probably in the next year or two, and I’ve started slowly announcing it and I’ve already had members message me about how they’ll be sad to see me leave.

I can see how it’d be a bit more rough when a model doesn’t announce it and just deletes all her accounts and vanishes, because then you’re left wondering “is she okay?”. I’m about 99% sure I’m going to delete all my clip stores and my MFC account when I do retire, but I’m also going to make a big announcement a month or so before I do, so no one is left wondering “oh shit… did something bad happen?”.
 
I'm always happy they get the chance to retire. Some of us will never get to leave.
I ain't leaving either. Tbh I don't want to though.

I'm one of those people who would retire, then probably be dead from boredom, purposelessness, and lack of structure within about 3 years afterward. This job provides me with so much release, & freedom of expression in so many different ways. I'd hate to go back to normal life/ 9-5, conforming. It would kill me.

When people leave suddenly, I think it's probably complicated and related to stigma, society, repressed sexual stuff around us. Guilt, fear all those kinds of things. If I did ever leave, which I won't, I could see myself doing the sudden thing. I did it in my last career; it's not ideal, but you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes. Sometimes it's just time to move on, and you have to put yourself first, no one else will.
 
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This post just makes me sad. I'm on the far end of the age spectrum around here , having only been caming since I retired from a career job ( Yes, there are people with old-guy fetishes). People just vanishing is a problem that comes with sexual subcultures in general, I'm afraid. I've been active in BDSM communities for, what, 40 years now, and have accepted that people will suddenly vanish from the scene. Usually I learn from friends of friends that they've started a new relationship and made their sexual life private. Often I find that we (the people who remain in the subculture) are nothing more than repressed memories of the person we used to know. I'd say it's the same with adult cam models except even more extreme. People want/need to be anonymous and that makes it easy to just vanish.

On the other hand, there are lots of times that you will run into people you knew from the past and discover they just left for a while and got back into things because they missed it. Your cam girl might show up someday, so keep her in mind. And I agree with @stormythunder that, from a broadcaster's perspective, there are viewers that I will miss when they eventually disappear.

People moving on is just the way it is. In a lot of cases, they don't want their past to find them. This reminds me of one of my favorite jokes on the Naked Gun movie franchise where Leslie Nielsen (Frank) says to Priscilla Presley: "Interesting - almost as interesting as the photographs I saw today". Presley's character becomes shocked and defensive, and replies: " I was young, I needed the work.", only to discover that the photographs were of some recent surveillance.
 
I’ve been on cam sites long enough to see several of my former favorite models leave. I 100% respect that they’re gone from camming, but I’d be lying if I said I wouldn’t be excited to see them pop back up. They were each great models. But if they never do, hey… that’s part of life.

As far as wondering if they’re doing well/hoping they’re ok, one piece of advice I remind myself of constantly: Don’t pre-emptively worry about things. Don’t stress unless/until there is a verified reason to stress. I’ve applied that logic to worrying about job security, to traffic, and anything else I’m tempted to worry about without really knowing if it’s a problem yet.

I absolutely hope every former model is doing well, but to wring my hands over it - when there may actually be nothing to fret about - is not healthy for me. So I try to assume the best unless I know otherwise.