Can a model and a member really be friends?

[Wendsor]

It seems we have cast iron, conclusive proof :lol:

I buy my friends shit all the time, Just tip her without saying anything first, whats she gonna do? Ban you?

just no.
we have a good friendship like this. I'm not gonna change that.

 

[sweetiebatman]

If you think that would change it, then your friendship isn't quite on the solid ground you think it is....

 

[Wendsor]

she don't want it, i don't want it.
now get over it and lets continue with the topic instead of convincing me to tip.

 

[mynameisbob84]

she don't want it, i don't want it.
now get over it and lets continue with the topic instead of convincing me to tip.

I thought you said not tipping her made you feel bad. You could always send her an anonymous tip if tipping her is likely to irrevocaby fracture your relationship :twocents-02cents:

 

[Wendsor]

she don't want it, i don't want it.
now get over it and lets continue with the topic instead of convincing me to tip.

I thought you said not tipping her made you feel bad. You could always send her an anonymous tip if tipping her is likely to irrevocaby fracture your relationship :twocents-02cents:

I said more bad feeling then her.
in other words if I feel 80% bad about tipping, she feels more bad.

damn why is everyone so :angry4: .

 

[Anonymous]

damn why is everyone so :angry4: .

I don't think anyone who replied to you was angry. They saw your post about how not tipping made you "feel bad," so they just wanted to offer some helpful advice...that's all. I thought Bob gave good advice just now, and he didn't post anything nasty towards you.

 

[mynameisbob84]

she don't want it, i don't want it.
now get over it and lets continue with the topic instead of convincing me to tip.

I thought you said not tipping her made you feel bad. You could always send her an anonymous tip if tipping her is likely to irrevocaby fracture your relationship :twocents-02cents:

I said more bad feeling then her.
in other words if I feel 80% bad about tipping, she feels more bad.

damn why is everyone so :angry4: .

Nobody's angry, sir. I'm trying to help you out here. You can alleviate that 80% of bad feeling by giving her an anonymous tip. She won't know it's from you.

 

[RogueWarrior]

she: if you wasnt my friend
she: I would steal all ur money

Everyone seemed to gloss over this little tidbit, but it may as well have been in bold neon with fireworks when I read it. I mean, this is not a person I would want to be friends with in real life, on the net, etc.

Really, "Since we're friends, everything's cool. But if we weren't, I'd be sucking every last penny out of your poor lifeless soul."

But as long as you two kids are happy...............

 

[chitti]

she: if you wasnt my friend
she: I would steal all ur money

Heard kinda the same thing one night;

Model in response to a PM from a reg "Yeah? Then I'd be going to a better school and you'd be broke" said in a very snarky tone

That made me take notice

 

[Leggo10]

Someone was kind enough to point this thread out to me thinking i might have a unique perspective. I know first hand that members and models can be friends (or more) outside mfc or any other cam site. I haven't read through this whole thread so forgive me if this has been covered, but the only way I see this working in my opinion is if it's the model that wants more from the relationship with the member. I met my ex on mfc, but I never asked to be more than friends on mfc or to know anything about her personal life that she didn't feel comfortable telling me.

I guess what I'm saying is if a model is open to being friends outside of the site it might be best to let them take the initiative. I know my ex had dozens of regular members in her room that constantly asked to meet her in person and I'm sure that's the same for many of the models here. I never had ask, so it stands to reason that if a model likes you she'll make it clear to you if she wants a real life relationship.

 

[AmberCutie]

Someone was kind enough to point this thread out to me thinking i might have a unique perspective. I know first hand that members and models can be friends (or more) outside mfc or any other cam site. I haven't read through this whole thread so forgive me if this has been covered, but the only way I see this working in my opinion is if it's the model that wants more from the relationship with the member. I met my ex on mfc, but I never asked to be more than friends on mfc or to know anything about her personal life that she didn't feel comfortable telling me.

I guess what I'm saying is if a model is open to being friends outside of the site it might be best to let them take the initiative. I know my ex had dozens of regular members in her room that constantly asked to meet her in person and I'm sure that's the same for many of the models here. I never had ask, so it stands to reason that if a model likes you she'll make it clear to you if she wants a real life relationship.

Nicely said! I think through this thread we've come to the conclusion that yes, it can happen and does sometimes. But the bottom line is that too many guys come to MFC/camsites expecting it, and we're trying to get them out of that mindset. Come to a cam site for entertainment and some sexy visions, but anything outside of that shouldn't be expected.

And I totally agree with you about letting the model take the initiative.

I'm glad you got linked to this thread, I tried to find it for you yesterday when reading your intro post but ran out of time. :thumbleft:

 

[Leggo10]

Exactly. Don't go to cam site looking for a girlfriend. It can happen, but rarely. And to be honest, it didn't work out so well for me anyway so it's probably best it rarely happens.

 

[ComicOzzie]

Someone was kind enough to point this thread out to me thinking i might have a unique perspective. I know first hand that members and models can be friends (or more) outside mfc or any other cam site. I haven't read through this whole thread so forgive me if this has been covered, but the only way I see this working in my opinion is if it's the model that wants more from the relationship with the member. I met my ex on mfc, but I never asked to be more than friends on mfc or to know anything about her personal life that she didn't feel comfortable telling me.

I guess what I'm saying is if a model is open to being friends outside of the site it might be best to let them take the initiative. I know my ex had dozens of regular members in her room that constantly asked to meet her in person and I'm sure that's the same for many of the models here. I never had ask, so it stands to reason that if a model likes you she'll make it clear to you if she wants a real life relationship.

On a related note, if people go in to a model's room and repeatedly ask to be added to their friends' list, I sometimes comment that if they have to ask, they aren't the model's friend.

 

[Just Me]

Exactly. Don't go to cam site looking for a girlfriend. It can happen, but rarely. And to be honest, it didn't work out so well for me anyway so it's probably best it rarely happens.

I really do not think anyone questions that it can happen. You can win the lottery too, but the probability is not very good.

Letting the model take the initiative is a great idea and would probably save many members from problems, but it is not always a positive indicator that the models motives are towards a real friendship or relationship.

We do not have a large sample size here, but I have yet to see someone comment in this thread that they have or know someone that is really friends or in a relationship with a model they met here. The plural of anecdote is not data. :lol:

 

[wjr3]

I think through this thread we've come to the conclusion that yes, it can happen and does sometimes. But the bottom line is that too many guys come to MFC/camsites expecting it, and we're trying to get them out of that mindset. Come to a cam site for entertainment and some sexy visions, but anything outside of that shouldn't be expected.

Stumbled across MFC not expecting any type of personal relationship but got caught up in the possibility of having online friendships with models and other members. Only took about three years to accept that it ain't gonna happen for me. What can I say? I'm a slow learner.

Yet I can't complain because it's been a great run. Lots of phenomenal people out there.

 

[KristinKervz]

I have become good friends with a few of my members. Unfortunately in most cases, members aren't interested in your friendship and they're simply trying to get free content. On the other hand, I can't tell you how lost I would be without my friend Jason, who started as just a funny regular and good tipper. He is now a trusted friend and I often refer to him as my assistant hehe. He sends out videos for me, advertizes for me, mods my Cam4 room, he would pretty much do anything to help me out. He never asks for anything and he is realistic about everything. He's never tried to make it sound like he's falling in love with me, never gets too personal, he's just great. Oh and he never hints around with the famous "we should play sometime". That's an ongoing problem I have with members I get a little closer too. They seem to be under the impression that cam girls are totally into spending every second of the day playing on cam, even when they're not getting paid for it.

 

[victor0021]

I know from personal experience yes it can happen. I have become friends with a model outside of MFC, yes we have even met in person. We text or talk almost daily, it's something that built up over time and was completely unexpected. I never went to MFC thinking it would happen, when I started out I thought it was just interactive porn. After about 2 months I found her room and we hit it off right away. I think the two key elements are trust and it has to be unconditional that's why it's called friendship. She has never expected anything from me and treats me the same tips or not, and I have never asked her for any "freebies". I think if 2 people really click it really doesn't matter how they meet. I am actually really thankful for MFC because without it we would have had no chance to meet.

 

[ScarletRaven]

I would have to say that I do believe that members and models can be friends because I have a few very close friends that I have made while working on MFC and lots of other members that I think of as friends. That being said, my entire life involves my children and then online community so I am very lonely (that sounds pathetic). What I mean is that being a single mother of 4 with no real family (both parents deceased) takes up a lot of my time, so I don't socialize much in the real world. My social life is online through MFC, Twitter, Facebook, my forum, ACF, OCNASC. The people I meet in my room leave impressions on me, all in different ways and I love that about what I do. We are like one big happy (dysfunctional) family with so many different personalities. The problem that I have run into the most is that I am to trusting and think that everyone is my friend when in the end that is not the case.

I try to remember that for the most part, members are coming to MFC for some source of entertainment and not any type of committed relationship (friendship or girlfriend). So we can be friends with lots of people, it is just a matter of the expectations of the friendship. This is the same in real life though. You have many friends but you don't talk to them all as often, don't share the same info with everyone, don't give your time the same...different levels of friendship.

I am babbling...LOL

 

[Wendsor]

last week I aksed a girl a question about MFC, she said give me your skype I show you more how everything works for a girl.
in 10min we were done and continue to talk for almost 2.5 hours about hobbies and what not.
and in the end she told me we could speak on skype whenever I wanted or had time. (and she ofcourse)

I don't call this a friendship and but it seems like some girls are open to make friendship.

 

[Anonymous]

I would have to say that I do believe that members and models can be friends because I have a few very close friends that I have made while working on MFC and lots of other members that I think of as friends. That being said, my entire life involves my children and then online community so I am very lonely (that sounds pathetic). What I mean is that being a single mother of 4 with no real family (both parents deceased) takes up a lot of my time, so I don't socialize much in the real world. My social life is online through MFC, Twitter, Facebook, my forum, ACF, OCNASC. The people I meet in my room leave impressions on me, all in different ways and I love that about what I do. We are like one big happy (dysfunctional) family with so many different personalities. The problem that I have run into the most is that I am to trusting and think that everyone is my friend when in the end that is not the case.

I try to remember that for the most part, members are coming to MFC for some source of entertainment and not any type of committed relationship (friendship or girlfriend). So we can be friends with lots of people, it is just a matter of the expectations of the friendship. This is the same in real life though. You have many friends but you don't talk to them all as often, don't share the same info with everyone, don't give your time the same...different levels of friendship.

I am babbling...LOL

I thanked this great post and bolded the part that I think is/was especially true for many of us models.

 

[TinyViking82]

I've read all the 7 pages here now, when really all adds up to: be polite, nice and honest .. And if someone thinks you are a nice guy, they will most likely let you know.
If your goal is to "find a model to be friends with" i think you are going at it wrong. Cause then you most likely have some ulterior motive on the get go.

Can't people just hang out, have fun, and not overthink everything :twocents-02cents:

 

[Anonymous]

I've read all the 7 pages here now, when really all adds up to: be polite, nice and honest .. And if someone thinks you are a nice guy, they will most likely let you know.
If your goal is to "find a model to be friends with" i think you are going at it wrong. Cause then you most likely have some ulterior motive on the get go.

Can't people just hang out, have fun, and not overthink everything :twocents-02cents:

Agreed.

The guys who enter the chat just to ask "Where from, bb" and then leave.....I guess they're looking for a local model who they would like to meet up with? Lol. Guys have actually ended private chat sessions (not on MFC, but on other sites) just because my response to "Where from?" or "Do you meet in person?" wasn't the state/country or the 'yes' they had hoped for...lol.

 

[Just Me]

I would have to say that I do believe that members and models can be friends because I have a few very close friends that I have made while working on MFC and lots of other members that I think of as friends. That being said, my entire life involves my children and then online community so I am very lonely (that sounds pathetic). What I mean is that being a single mother of 4 with no real family (both parents deceased) takes up a lot of my time, so I don't socialize much in the real world. My social life is online through MFC, Twitter, Facebook, my forum, ACF, OCNASC. The people I meet in my room leave impressions on me, all in different ways and I love that about what I do. We are like one big happy (dysfunctional) family with so many different personalities. The problem that I have run into the most is that I am to trusting and think that everyone is my friend when in the end that is not the case.

I try to remember that for the most part, members are coming to MFC for some source of entertainment and not any type of committed relationship (friendship or girlfriend). So we can be friends with lots of people, it is just a matter of the expectations of the friendship. This is the same in real life though. You have many friends but you don't talk to them all as often, don't share the same info with everyone, don't give your time the same...different levels of friendship.

I am babbling...LOL

I thanked this great post and bolded the part that I think is/was especially true for many of us models.

This is also true for some of us members.

 

[goldencorsair]

Agreed.

The guys who enter the chat just to ask "Where from, bb" and then leave.....I guess they're looking for a local model who they would like to meet up with? Lol. Guys have actually ended private chat sessions (not on MFC, but on other sites) just because my response to "Where from?" or "Do you meet in person?" wasn't the state/country or the 'yes' they had hoped for...lol.

lol

 

[Littlegringo]

As sad as it is to say, most guys do have ulterior motives, whether it's just some random guy in person or a fan of a camgirl. Seen so many times where a guy "wanted to be friends" with a girl, simply because he actually wanted to be more than friends and tried to go that way to make that happen.

I'm not saying it's not possible, of course it is, but (and despite lots of guys who would deny it) the majority of guys will have "more than friends" on their mind when they try to be a girl's friend. The percentage of guys who honestly are just being a friend is going to be way less than the percentage that is thinking this hot hot girl is going to want to bang him because he was her friend...

Oh yeah, and hey BB you seem like someone I could really be friends with, where u from? :liar:

 

[babe_ruth]

I've enjoyed reading the many perspectives in this thread.

Personally, I've found it to be not too difficult to become "internet friends" with several models. It seems to happen all by itself. But "real life" friendship appears to be ANOTHER THING ENTIRELY. I have one friendship that briefly crossed over, initiated by the model. It got a little weird for a while, but now we are back to being iFriends again. Earlier, another model had suggested possibly meeting, but it never happened. More recently, yet another model has suggested meeting, and this is still pending. I have no idea what will happen, and that's OK.

I really like being iFriends with these unique individuals. If the other thing happens too, that could be awesome as well!

 

[goldencorsair]

As sad as it is to say, most guys do have ulterior motives, whether it's just some random guy in person or a fan of a camgirl. Seen so many times where a guy "wanted to be friends" with a girl, simply because he actually wanted to be more than friends and tried to go that way to make that happen.

I'm not saying it's not possible, of course it is, but (and despite lots of guys who would deny it) the majority of guys will have "more than friends" on their mind when they try to be a girl's friend. The percentage of guys who honestly are just being a friend is going to be way less than the percentage that is thinking this hot hot girl is going to want to bang him because he was her friend...

yes

generally speaking, most models don't care for a real friendship anyways. some maintain an "internet friendship" for whatever reason. those are the smart ones who know where the line is drawn. they know their role/job and never step outside the boundaries. (i.e. they play by the rules of the game)

this thread should be a "must read" for any MFC members who have been on for more than 3 months.

 

[Trav]

As sad as it is to say, most guys do have ulterior motives, whether it's just some random guy in person or a fan of a camgirl. Seen so many times where a guy "wanted to be friends" with a girl, simply because he actually wanted to be more than friends and tried to go that way to make that happen.

I'm not saying it's not possible, of course it is, but (and despite lots of guys who would deny it) the majority of guys will have "more than friends" on their mind when they try to be a girl's friend. The percentage of guys who honestly are just being a friend is going to be way less than the percentage that is thinking this hot hot girl is going to want to bang him because he was her friend...

generally speaking, most models don't care for a real friendship anyways. some maintain an "internet friendship" for whatever reason. those are the smart ones who know where the line is drawn.

So a model who develops a real friendship with a member is not one of the 'smart ones?'

Hmmm...

 

[Evvie]

As sad as it is to say, most guys do have ulterior motives, whether it's just some random guy in person or a fan of a camgirl. Seen so many times where a guy "wanted to be friends" with a girl, simply because he actually wanted to be more than friends and tried to go that way to make that happen.

I'm not saying it's not possible, of course it is, but (and despite lots of guys who would deny it) the majority of guys will have "more than friends" on their mind when they try to be a girl's friend. The percentage of guys who honestly are just being a friend is going to be way less than the percentage that is thinking this hot hot girl is going to want to bang him because he was her friend...

yes

generally speaking, most models don't care for a real friendship anyways. some maintain an "internet friendship" for whatever reason. those are the smart ones who know where the line is drawn. they know their role/job and never step outside the boundaries. (i.e. they play by the rules of the game)

this thread should be a "must read" for any MFC members who have been on for more than 3 months.

I wonder what gave you the impression most models don't want "real" friendships? I greatly value my friends on MFC.

I'm also not sure why you think models who have the capacity to make friends aren't smart...

 

[hornygods]

As sad as it is to say, most guys do have ulterior motives, whether it's just some random guy in person or a fan of a camgirl. Seen so many times where a guy "wanted to be friends" with a girl, simply because he actually wanted to be more than friends and tried to go that way to make that happen.

I'm not saying it's not possible, of course it is, but (and despite lots of guys who would deny it) the majority of guys will have "more than friends" on their mind when they try to be a girl's friend. The percentage of guys who honestly are just being a friend is going to be way less than the percentage that is thinking this hot hot girl is going to want to bang him because he was her friend...

yes

generally speaking, most models don't care for a real friendship anyways. some maintain an "internet friendship" for whatever reason. those are the smart ones who know where the line is drawn. they know their role/job and never step outside the boundaries. (i.e. they play by the rules of the game)

this thread should be a "must read" for any MFC members who have been on for more than 3 months.

I wonder what gave you the impression most models don't want "real" friendships? I greatly value my friends on MFC.

I'm also not sure why you think models who have the capacity to make friends aren't smart...

I think you might have inferred something different - it looks like he means a form of friendship where the two parties often meet each other in real life (i.e. social friends). If this was the case, then his remark about 'real friendships' being unwise on MFC would make sense.