Can I share my own experience since I've kinda been scorned over the last week?
Last year I discovered cam sites, never touched them before, and not long after I found one model I liked a lot. Back then, it was purely because she was pretty. We ended up speaking to each other pretty much every day. Obviously this started with a period of "Oh, you gotta buy my whatsapp" that kinda thing, which I understand. It's a job. But we still spoke almost every day. It was a dark time in my life, and I really just needed someone to fill the void, and she did that. She did it really well actually. She took an interest in me, talked to me, she'd respond when I messaged her, it was a lot of fun really. Naturally, this made me want to help her out, and tip her. Which I did.
Not long after, she revealed that she was in a studio. Around the same time, she made me her sole moderator (Multiple sites, but I was mod on both). She would confide in me about all kinds of things. If someone was being super weird in a private show or something, she'd tell me about it (Never with any regulars, just if it was some random guy). For a while it was all stream relelated stuff, like if she got a giant tip, she'd tell me about it, and I'd be happy for her. She'd tell me drama that was going on at the studio, and about her frustrations that some girls got preferential treatment.
At this point, we've been talking for maybe 6 months. We've been talking regularly on whatsapp almost this entire time, and it's much of the same there.
One day, she randomly bursts out crying mid stream, and ends the stream. She messages me like 5 seconds later, and just vents to me about how shit the studio is, and how she hates how she's treated poorly there (In her eyes, due to her ethnicity) and I do my best to just listen, because when someone is venting they don't usually want answers, just someone to listen. She ends the stream not long after. (She came back for a sec, because the studio fines girls for unscheduled breaks, but she basically just said fuck it and took the fine).
She takes a few days off, but tells me before that that she's planning to leave the studio, but she's worried they'll blackmail her or whatever. I obviously can't do anything about that, but naturally it worried me. She came back to the stream a few days later and announced that it was her last stream, and everyone was super nice, her regulars said their goodbyes, and all of that.
As soon as she ended the stream, she messaged me to tell me that she wasn't done streaming, she was just taking some time off, and that she'd come back with a new account. I wished her a good time on her vacation, and that was that.
A few weeks later, she got a new account, not a totally new one, but one she got of a friend who had stopped camming (Which I don't personally understand, because surely that meant she missed the "new girl" bonus and none of the followers are gonna give a shit when they realise it's not the same girl.)
Either way, she was back, and her first streams were crazy slow. Like less that 100tk a night kinda slow. I wasn't her mod anymore, and I didn't want to question her on that, so instead I tried to just support her with tk at the time. One major factor her is that at the studio she was making only 30% of tips (After the sites take their 50%, the studio took 70%). But now she was making 50% overall so it was great in theory. Everything was totally fine during that, we'd talk, I'd try to help, she'd tell me about her problems, I'd tell her about mine, etc. This whole time she kept talking about how I was her friend. I believed it.
I'm leaving out a lot of weird stuff that she did, because I think it will just needlessly add to the length of this, but about a week ago, everything was totally fine. She'd made me her mod again a months before, and she was finally picking up speed again, with about 30k followers on both the sites she's on, and averaging about 400-500 viewers on both sites. Then last Saturday, she just totally stopped responding to me. Nothing changed, she just stopped. I could see her on camera responding to other people, and I'm used to that because when I'm modding, I know she has to deal with the big tippers or whatever, but she's usually able to find a few minutes in her 4-5 hour stream to respond to me asking about her day or whatever. Or telling her she forgot to set a goal, or anything. I see the read receipts coming in, so she's reading, but just no responses at all. Usually she responded in like 15 mins if she was busy, but I can literally see her doing nothing. I figured something was on her mind maybe so I just kinda left it.
This went on for a week. Everything was totally normal for her, except I didn't exist. She stopped responding on whatsapp too, but read everything because she left read receipts on. Part way through the week I started asking her what was up, but she didn't respond to any of it. I would have been fine if there was some issue that meant she didn't feel like talking, but on the 3 total times she actually responded during that week, she just said "I'm fine".
I didn't know what to make of this so I tried giving her some space. I would totally understand but she's there laughing and joking away with everyone else on the stream, meanwhile I (Who is at this point her only viewer who's been there for a whole year) can't even get a response to "How are you" or basic shit like that. She'd read all of it, and then just not respond.
After all of this, she eventually revealed that apparently her way of saying "I don't wanna talk about it" is "I'm fine", which I guess I could get, but was I supposed to just accept that she didn't want to talk to me anymore, and wouldn't say why? Guess I was getting ghosted?
I was ready to accept that she was just bored, when suddenly she says she wants to talk normally again, (Like, how we were) so I accept that. She reveals that she feels I'm trying to force her to confess or something by asking her to explain why she suddenly won't respond to me at all, when the previous day we were talking normally. She insists that I just have to understand.
I try to understand that maybe she's going through something she can't talk about (Even thought it's only me that she's not responding to) so I send her a whatsapp apology. She reads it the same night. Doesn't respond.
Next day, she gets in contact via whatsapp, for the first time in about 2 months, and it's a normal conversation. Here's how it went.
Turns out she wanted me to let one of her viewers send a paypal payment to my paypal account, so I could then convert it to usdt to send to her. Apparently this viewer was too stupid to know how to just send usdt direct. She used to talk to me about this kinda stuff, but yeah.
I've deleted my account on any cam sites because she was the only reason I was still around. Was never in love because I don't think I could love anyone I hadn't actually met, but I did consider her a friend. She spent a year convincing me that it was true, whether I was tipping, or not.
I used to think people who fell into this kinda trap were idiots, and now it's happened to me. Guess I ain't so smart.
I sent her a final goodbye via whatsapp telling her exactly why I was leaving, and I've seen that she's read it. She hasn't responded, but it's late where she lives. I don't expect her to respond, but if she does I'm not 100% sure what I'll do.
Duuuuuude, I can't believe I'm as upset about it as I am.
So yeah, that's what happened to me. Finally cut it off a few hours ago. Still sore, but I'll be fine.