Ok so I guess I’m the next guy…

[SmartestDumbGuy]

What’s up everyone. Lurked on this site for a few months and read all the stories of falling in love and all the same. Yes I’m in that category also and my dumb ass is still here to post. Not going to try to have a wall of text but here we go.

Met in Feb. and started doing privates. Did a lot of talking getting to know each other and got her snap. She also gave me her WhatsApp when her snap didn’t have service. Been talking offline after work and when she is off the entire time until she went to bed. Pics taken and videos shared. Met some of her family on there and always greeted. Basically everything she was doing when she was out or home, she shared with me and showed me as I done the same for her.

Feeling more of a connection it seems like everything is legit. No red flags, no money asked, nothing extra. On a special occasion for me, she decorated the room, bought a few extra things, and celebrated with me in private. She went out and bought new outfits just for me in our session. To this day I still haven’t seen her wear it again. In public on site, she addresses me as “my love” no matter who is on sites with her, lights up like she really is genuinely excited for me to be there just to talk with her and spend time chatting. If someone is tipping her, no matter what she is still talking with me and I sometimes see her lose a client because she isn’t paying full attention to them sometimes.

So I don’t want to make this any longer but what would you think about this? Does it seem genuine or should there still be caution? The love word has been thrown around, off site we both include and show what we are doing until it’s time to call it a night, feelings seem genuine, I’d say it all feels real without red flags being shown or I’m blind to them. Is there anything I could do to push a boundary to test her some more or just say fuck it and keep it going? I’m in the US and she is in Colombia. I could post a lot more but I don’t want to be the next text wall or same old story if it is.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Met some of her family on there and always greeted. Basically everything she was doing when she was out or home, she shared with me and showed me as I done the same for her.

Er, uh...I mean...good luck. And hi, welcome to the forum.

 

[GoddessKaeli]

Just because she's a cam model doesn't mean any of us know her intentions just because we're cam models. That's like me asking all plumbers if the new plumber guy I'm seeing is really into me. Figure out your own life, that's not for us to do. You're an adult.

 

[Nigerian Prince]

Can't you guys ever fall in love with a model who at least lives on the same continent....

 

[Smoothie]

Minor point, but “my love” is a very common term in that culture (and others) and shouldn’t be taken to mean anything serious.

It could be as insignificant as a waitress calling you “honey” just to be kind.

 

[MarieElise]

Minor point, but “my love” is a very common term in that culture (and others) and shouldn’t be taken to mean anything serious.

It could be as insignificant as a waitress calling you “honey” just to be kind.

This is a really good point. I've noticed that some people from some parts of England also call everyone Luv, and don't mean it sarcastic, patronizing, or in a way where they are truly "in love". It's just a form of local dialect too.

However, Idk what to say on the actual topic of your post OP.

To this day I still haven’t seen her wear it again. In public on site, she addresses me as “my love” no matter who is on sites with her, lights up like she really is genuinely excited for me to be there just to talk with her and spend time chatting. If someone is tipping her, no matter what she is still talking with me and I sometimes see her lose a client because she isn’t paying full attention to them sometimes.

I guess the one thing I would say is perhaps not to encourage this ^^^^^^, even if she is doing it. Because it sounds like by you being there all the time, you are actually damaging her chances of earning. So maybe it makes you feel good personally, but it doesn't sound like it is good for her. If you guys talk all the time anyway, then it's not like you need to be in her room all the time too.

 

[Danigirl]

 

[SmartestDumbGuy]

This is a really good point. I've noticed that some people from some parts of England also call everyone Luv, and don't mean it sarcastic, patronizing, or in a way where they are truly "in love". It's just a form of local dialect too.

However, Idk what to say on the actual topic of your post OP.



I guess the one thing I would say is perhaps not to encourage this ^^^^^^, even if she is doing it. Because it sounds like by you being there all the time, you are actually damaging her chances of earning. So maybe it makes you feel good personally, but it doesn't sound like it is good for her. If you guys talk all the time anyway, then it's not like you need to be in her room all the time too.

That’s what I’m doing now for her but she keeps on insisting me to be there with her. Personally I want her to make as much money as she could and not lose a client like that. I’ve been trying to let her know I don’t need to be there all the time but she’s damn near begging me to be there because she’s happy I’m there for her.

Minor point, but “my love” is a very common term in that culture (and others) and shouldn’t be taken to mean anything serious.

It could be as insignificant as a waitress calling you “honey” just to be kind.

Yes I know the my love is very common but the love I’m talking about is the “I love you” type of love.

Can't you guys ever fall in love with a model who at least lives on the same continent....

I would love to but I need to move to Colombia lol. That’s my style I like. If things go right then my ass will be out there next year.

 

[rockin_rod]

It's easy to confuse feelings of attraction, intimacy and affection.
Remember this is a business situation first and foremost.
If you didn't visit her room and tip for a week or two, would she still chat offline with you to the same degree?
Separate the financial from the emotional and see what remains.

 

[Lucid1]

What’s up everyone. Lurked on this site for a few months and read all the stories of falling in love and all the same. Yes I’m in that category also and my dumb ass is still here to post. Not going to try to have a wall of text but here we go.

Met in Feb. and started doing privates. Did a lot of talking getting to know each other and got her snap. She also gave me her WhatsApp when her snap didn’t have service. Been talking offline after work and when she is off the entire time until she went to bed. Pics taken and videos shared. Met some of her family on there and always greeted. Basically everything she was doing when she was out or home, she shared with me and showed me as I done the same for her.

Feeling more of a connection it seems like everything is legit. No red flags, no money asked, nothing extra. On a special occasion for me, she decorated the room, bought a few extra things, and celebrated with me in private. She went out and bought new outfits just for me in our session. To this day I still haven’t seen her wear it again. In public on site, she addresses me as “my love” no matter who is on sites with her, lights up like she really is genuinely excited for me to be there just to talk with her and spend time chatting. If someone is tipping her, no matter what she is still talking with me and I sometimes see her lose a client because she isn’t paying full attention to them sometimes.

So I don’t want to make this any longer but what would you think about this? Does it seem genuine or should there still be caution? The love word has been thrown around, off site we both include and show what we are doing until it’s time to call it a night, feelings seem genuine, I’d say it all feels real without red flags being shown or I’m blind to them. Is there anything I could do to push a boundary to test her some more or just say fuck it and keep it going? I’m in the US and she is in Colombia. I could post a lot more but I don’t want to be the next text wall or same old story if it is.

It sounds like you are contributing a significant amount of her income, so don't be surprised if she extends extra attention towards you. I would just ask that you consider what it was that you were seeking when you went into her room for the first time, and compare that against whatever it is that you are seeking now. Make no mistake, she is trying to earn a living with her job on cam, and giving you the extra attention to keep the tokens rolling in is the name of the game here. Especially if she is working for a studio. I would always advise caution when it comes to situations such as this because she has a job to do, just keep in mind that part of that job could be emotional maneuvering that is often taught inside the studio.

 

[SmartestDumbGuy]

It's easy to confuse feelings of attraction, intimacy and affection.
Remember this is a business situation first and foremost.
If you didn't visit her room and tip for a week or two, would she still chat offline with you to the same degree?
Separate the financial from the emotional and see what remains.

Very much I realize all of those. I respect that it’s a business and it’s her job. So far I’m on my first week of not visiting her room and just talking offline. So far everything is the same way it’s been but it’s still a short time. I will see how it plays out.

It sounds like you are contributing a significant amount of her income, so don't be surprised if she extends extra attention towards you. I would just ask that you consider what it was that you were seeking when you went into her room for the first time, and compare that against whatever it is that you are seeking now. Make no mistake, she is trying to earn a living with her job on cam, and giving you the extra attention to keep the tokens rolling in is the name of the game here. Especially if she is working for a studio. I would always advise caution when it comes to situations such as this because she has a job to do, just keep in mind that part of that job could be emotional maneuvering that is often taught inside the studio.

I have contributed a lot but lately nothing. I’ve been being around as little as possible in her room and talking offline, no talk of money or pressuring into doing privates. Basically more of a personal life talk and what we are doing and what’s going on. But of course we both miss it. I went in not looking for a damn thing though. Just was bored and decided to try it out and one thing led to the next in time. I fully respect her grind and what she has to do and she has even showed me a little behind the scenes of where she works. So I always let her know I wouldn’t interfere with her job and understand knowing what she has to do. I guess time will tell but I am keeping my guard up.

 

[Lucid1]

Very much I realize all of those. I respect that it’s a business and it’s her job. So far I’m on my first week of not visiting her room and just talking offline. So far everything is the same way it’s been but it’s still a short time. I will see how it plays out.

I have contributed a lot but lately nothing. I’ve been being around as little as possible in her room and talking offline, no talk of money or pressuring into doing privates. Basically more of a personal life talk and what we are doing and what’s going on. But of course we both miss it. I went in not looking for a damn thing though. Just was bored and decided to try it out and one thing led to the next in time. I fully respect her grind and what she has to do and she has even showed me a little behind the scenes of where she works. So I always let her know I wouldn’t interfere with her job and understand knowing what she has to do. I guess time will tell but I am keeping my guard up.

Oh boy. I bolded the section of your reply that not only throws up red flags here on this forum, but will also have most of us here throw up the bullshit flag as well. Bored or not, there was a reason you went to a pornographic cam site and decided to visit this girl. If you are already at the stage where you feel compelled to use reduction reasoning as a means of keeping what you think you have as "pure", then it sounds like she has her hooks into you pretty deep already.

 

[melanieoncam]

Can't you guys ever fall in love with a model who at least lives on the same continent....

hahah I was getting ready to post that too. It's always the same story.

My guess is if she was next door there would be no interest. Seems some only want someone seemingly unattainable.

 

[AudriTwo]

im confused. probably read the "in love with cammodel" pinned thread since they are linked in every new in love with cammodel now and is aware of them with his reported lurking... instead thinking "hey they get a lot of these. i'm not going to apply the information they have been repeating for years to my similar situation. i'm gonna create my own thread because its totes special"

anywho

 

[Finchomatic]

I could never understand how people can fall in 'love' with something they have only seen on their digital device. Not just cam rooms, but the entire online thing in general.

 

[Delroy]

I've met many friends and lovers with people who I have met online. Just because there is a glass screen between two people doesn't make the experience unreal. Long distance relationships have existed as long as long distance communication has existed. Telegraph operators used to send each other erotic Morse and some ended up marring. To me a relationship is about communication.

Of cause people falling in "love" with sex workers (and other parasocial roles) is equally as old.

 

[MarieElise]

Well since we're on the topic I think boning Gordon Ramsay would be hot (if he were not already a married man, and I were not already in a relationship).
I'm gonna call that a Paraimaginefucking relationship.
It's different from Parasocial because it's purely about the imaginary bone .

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

Don't do it! Or do.

 

[Finchomatic]

A conversation I had with a broadcaster about guys falling in 'love' with her was... Were they falling in love with her? Or were they falling in love with the fantasy of her broadcaster persona?


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[Smoothie]

I need to move to Colombia lol. That’s my style I like. If things go right then my ass will be out there next year.

This tells me that you’ve fallen in love with the idea of finding love with a Colombiana and that probably has as much, if not more, to do with your situation than the model herself does. I get the impression if it wasn’t this model, you’d have fallen for a different one eventually.

And perhaps that you’re finding evidence of romance in small gestures because you’re actively searching for justification for your dream scenario actually playing out.

You posted this thread presumably because you have doubts about this specific model’s true feelings. Then you said you’re trying to go to Colombia (visit? permanent move?) because that’s the kind of girl you like. Do you see how that makes it seem like you’re looking for a reason to do it, and you’re taking this model’s behavior as validation?

 

[MarlieJane]

Why would you post here to ask about your relationship if you are so sure about it?

 

[EllieJade]

Very much I realize all of those. I respect that it’s a business and it’s her job. So far I’m on my first week of not visiting her room and just talking offline. So far everything is the same way it’s been but it’s still a short time. I will see how it plays out.

I have contributed a lot but lately nothing. I’ve been being around as little as possible in her room and talking offline, no talk of money or pressuring into doing privates. Basically more of a personal life talk and what we are doing and what’s going on. But of course we both miss it. I went in not looking for a damn thing though. Just was bored and decided to try it out and one thing led to the next in time. I fully respect her grind and what she has to do and she has even showed me a little behind the scenes of where she works. So I always let her know I wouldn’t interfere with her job and understand knowing what she has to do. I guess time will tell but I am keeping my guard up.

Some of the girls have an ulterior
end game. Like getting a green card and a safe, stable place to land in the US.

 

[TokenGesture]

Telegraph operators used to send each other erotic Morse and some ended up marring.

This used to always work for me.


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[yummybrownfox]

Hell, since all of these relationship threads keep coming outta the woodwork (and probably making some of these lurkers' eyes light up with hope...smh)...and Eli is talking about knockin' boots with Gordon Ramsay, I might as well go ahead and say how much I'd love to get with Danny Pino...the Cuban actor who played Detective Nick Amaro on Law and Order SVU...and is currently playing drug cartel leader Miguel Galindo on Mayans M.C. And I need for him to KEEP the facial hair!

 

[rockin_rod]

This used to always work for me.


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OMG will you really? How about ..--/.--.-../--.-...-/--..?

 

[Marceline]

@EliMarie717 @yummybrownfox

I’m just going to slide on in here and say that I would love to be the middle of an Ezra Miller and Matthew Gray Gubler sandwich.

 

[MarieElise]

And I need for him to KEEP the facial hair!

Ooooh I agree. That's the sexiest I've ever seen someone make sipping a cup of coffee look! Damn

Also I lied ...

it's purely about the imaginary bone .

I'd take some free food if he threw it my way too (but only if he made it).

 

[rockin_rod]

I confess to having a huge crush on Salma Hayek for much of my adult life.
Last movie I saw her in, she looked right at me and smiled. And more than once! So, I know she feels the same way I do.
I've decided to ignore the billionaire husband and move to LA to make us both happy.

 

[eagerbeaver]

What’s up everyone. Lurked on this site for a few months and read all the stories of falling in love and all the same. Yes I’m in that category also and my dumb ass is still here to post. Not going to try to have a wall of text but here we go.

Met in Feb. and started doing privates. Did a lot of talking getting to know each other and got her snap. She also gave me her WhatsApp when her snap didn’t have service. Been talking offline after work and when she is off the entire time until she went to bed. Pics taken and videos shared. Met some of her family on there and always greeted. Basically everything she was doing when she was out or home, she shared with me and showed me as I done the same for her.

Feeling more of a connection it seems like everything is legit. No red flags, no money asked, nothing extra. On a special occasion for me, she decorated the room, bought a few extra things, and celebrated with me in private. She went out and bought new outfits just for me in our session. To this day I still haven’t seen her wear it again. In public on site, she addresses me as “my love” no matter who is on sites with her, lights up like she really is genuinely excited for me to be there just to talk with her and spend time chatting. If someone is tipping her, no matter what she is still talking with me and I sometimes see her lose a client because she isn’t paying full attention to them sometimes.

So I don’t want to make this any longer but what would you think about this? Does it seem genuine or should there still be caution? The love word has been thrown around, off site we both include and show what we are doing until it’s time to call it a night, feelings seem genuine, I’d say it all feels real without red flags being shown or I’m blind to them. Is there anything I could do to push a boundary to test her some more or just say fuck it and keep it going? I’m in the US and she is in Colombia. I could post a lot more but I don’t want to be the next text wall or same old story if it is.

If you've read the other threads on this topic then you already know what the general consensus is. There should always be caution. You say there's been no red flags which is positive. So why would you want to go and start pushing boundaries to test her? It sounds like both of you are being very open with each other. I'm surprised by the family introduction but if you feel like everything is on the level then what's the problem? Just keep your head about you. Don't assume the worst but be prepared for it. Don't go out of your way trying to find reasons not to trust her. But don't ignore them if valid reasons do exist.

 

[throwawayacc71]

Just go visit her if she's interested. just have a backup plan on arrival