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Strange situation: Yesterday, I was on my way home very late at night using a public bus. Except me (male) there was only one other person. A woman maybe 35 years. I'm 44. It so happened that we took the same stop. Walking 15 meters in front of me she was going into the same direction as I did. Normally I overtake most people because I like to walk fast when I'm alone. Not in this case because she seemed to be a fast walker too. It was dark, and not a soul in sight. Apparently we had the similar way home. After 2 minutes I got a bad feeling. You know sometimes you get feelings from others, often you are wrong but in this case I felt her discomfort quite clearly. So I stopped and waited until I couldn't see her anymore. I think a lot of people would have done so. The situation was just too obvious. Now that I write this I think maybe I should have waited already after leaving the bus to make sure she doesn't feel followed.
So here is the thing: I actually didn't like that I had to stop walking. It complicates things, and I like it simple. But in this case persisting on that would have been really egoistic. Fear lets your fantasy go crazy, I know that first hand from other things. As a male being raped is just a theoretical possibility for me. I'm not saying its not existing but it is not part of my thinking process. So I really don't know what I'm talking about here. I even don't know what I'm asking for. Maybe I had to write this to get it off my chest because I can't stop thinking about it. And I hope I didn't stir up bad feelings.
Have you had similar situations?
I guess what I really want to know is the following:
What has to change in our world that the woman doesn't have to be afraid anymore? That I don't have to stop on my way home? That I instead could have maybe even talked to her for having a nice chat on the way home?
Obviously no raping anymore. But that's not all I believe. Or is it?
So here is the thing: I actually didn't like that I had to stop walking. It complicates things, and I like it simple. But in this case persisting on that would have been really egoistic. Fear lets your fantasy go crazy, I know that first hand from other things. As a male being raped is just a theoretical possibility for me. I'm not saying its not existing but it is not part of my thinking process. So I really don't know what I'm talking about here. I even don't know what I'm asking for. Maybe I had to write this to get it off my chest because I can't stop thinking about it. And I hope I didn't stir up bad feelings.
Have you had similar situations?
I guess what I really want to know is the following:
What has to change in our world that the woman doesn't have to be afraid anymore? That I don't have to stop on my way home? That I instead could have maybe even talked to her for having a nice chat on the way home?
Obviously no raping anymore. But that's not all I believe. Or is it?