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[Vixxen81]

"Hey guys" was my favorite greeting, but I'm trying to be sensitive so I switched to "hey folks."

There was this push among some acquaintances of mine to say "y'all" instead of "you guys" for gender sensitivity reasons, but I refuse to do it. It feels like I'm doing a bad impression of someone from the south. So they get "folk"ed instead.

It's a hard habit to break, but I'm trying! Most of my teachers in school were from the midwest so there are a lot of Southern slang terms that were proverbially beaten out of me with harsh grading.

 

[MarieElise]

"Hey guys" was my favorite greeting, but I'm trying to be sensitive so I switched to "hey folks."

There was this push among some acquaintances of mine to say "y'all" instead of "you guys" for gender sensitivity reasons, but I refuse to do it. It feels like I'm doing a bad impression of someone from the south. So they get "folk"ed instead.

Ah... so this is the reason behind it. Never even dawned on me. Everything becomes clear now. Thanks

ETA; People aren't trying to do some shitty, half assed Southern LARP thing, they just don't want to possibly be misconstrued as sexist by saying "You Guys". Lol I'm a dipshit, I thought it was the new cool thing to LARP being from the South Hahahahahaha. At least I can laugh at myself.

 

[Vixxen81]

Ah... so this is the reason behind it. Never even dawned on me. Everything becomes clear now. Thanks

ETA; People aren't trying to do some shitty, half assed Southern LARP thing, they just don't want to possibly be misconstrued as sexist by saying "You Guys". Lol I'm a dipshit, I thought it was the new cool thing to LARP being from the South Hahahahahaha. At least I can laugh at myself.

If someone says "all y'all," they clownin'.

 

[inertvolcano]

ETA; People aren't trying to do some shitty, half assed Southern LARP thing, they just don't want to possibly be misconstrued as sexist by saying "You Guys". Lol I'm a dipshit, I thought it was the new cool thing to LARP being from the South Hahahahahaha. At least I can laugh at myself.

You're not a dipshit. I guarantee a lot of people are doing exactly what you thought they were doing. Just not all of them. ?

 

[ArcticKitty]

If someone says "all y'all," they clownin'.

I'm fixin to restore "ye".

 

[ArcticKitty]

*air kiss* ?

 

[Vixxen81]

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awwww!!!

 

[Vixxen81]

I'm fixin to restore "ye".

Fixin to is one I still use. It's so awesome. I'm fixin to fixin....

 

[RuthStrawberryblonde]

Can someone explain, I'm British - English.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Can someone explain, I'm British - English.

In the southern states of the US (I'm an expat kiwi/nz who moved to the deep south US 10 years ago) ya'll is a very common way to say "you all" "you guys" etc or "you" as the plural form. "all ya'll" is another way of saying "All of you guys" but because the literal translation is "all of you all" it sounds a lil.. hick.


"fixin'" means "I'm going to/about to"

"I'm fixin to get mad"
"I'm fixin to grill some burgers, do you want some?"

A lot of this language is seen as totally normal most places in the south but a lil 'rough' or uneducated in other places.



I remember a fight with a boyfriend who was living in California because he said I was being 'disrespectful' by using "ya'll" at dinner with someone. He texted me to "watch my language" ... lol. What an absolute twat he was.. jesus

 

[misterical]

I remember a fight with a boyfriend who was living in California because he said I was being 'disrespectful' by using "ya'll" at dinner with someone. He texted me to "watch my language" ... lol. What an absolute twat he was.. jesus

Wow. You'd think Jesus would have been more forgiving as a boyfriend.

 

[ArcticKitty]

Fixin to is one I still use. It's so awesome. I'm fixin to fixin....

Same, but with an Atlantic accent

 

[yummybrownfox]

I remember a fight with a boyfriend who was living in California because he said I was being 'disrespectful' by using "ya'll" at dinner with someone. He texted me to "watch my language" ... lol. What an absolute twat he was.. jesus

Yeah, that's crazy. Your ex needs to get a grip because it's not even that serious. Lol.

I was born in Pennsylvania...lived in Long Island, New York for two years...and I (and my family members) have been saying "y'all" waaay before I even moved down to Maryland. A lot of Black people (from the north, south, east, and west) say "y'all." I say "you all" in situations where I feel I should be proper...such as job interviews, meeting a boyfriend's mother for the first time, a video interview for a news story, etc. It just depends on the situation. The family members of mine who do sound country when they say "y'all" are the ones who are originally from North Carolina. I watched an old childhood video of myself (from when I'd stayed in NC for two weeks), and I was horrified to hear myself saying to someone "I wanna waaatch the taaape! Can we see the taaape?" ??? I'm like omg, why the fuck do I sound like Gomer Pyle?!

I usually don't sound like that all. These days my New York accent (from when I lived there in 2001 - 2003) slips back into the conversation when I say things with the "or" sound (fourteen...forty-four...), etc. And I'm very cool with that because I love New York and New York accents!

 

[inertvolcano]

I didn't know that people could be that prejudiced against southern accents until I learned that folks from the south who come north to look for jobs will train themselves out of their accents, because it can cost them job opportunities or promotions. The craziest story I ever heard was when I had a coworker in NYC dumped her boyfriend because she found out he had a southern accent. They met at a bar in NYC and he had trained himself out of his accent. She knew he was from the south but didn't think anything of it, but then they went to visit his family for the holidays and when he was with them he talked with this natural accent. It made her so upset she dumped him and bought a bus ticket out of there. One of the craziest things I've ever heard.

 

[RuthStrawberryblonde]

In the southern states of the US (I'm an expat kiwi/nz who moved to the deep south US 10 years ago) ya'll is a very common way to say "you all" "you guys" etc or "you" as the plural form. "all ya'll" is another way of saying "All of you guys" but because the literal translation is "all of you all" it sounds a lil.. hick.


"fixin'" means "I'm going to/about to"

"I'm fixin to get mad"
"I'm fixin to grill some burgers, do you want some?"

A lot of this language is seen as totally normal most places in the south but a lil 'rough' or uneducated in other places.



I remember a fight with a boyfriend who was living in California because he said I was being 'disrespectful' by using "ya'll" at dinner with someone. He texted me to "watch my language" ... lol. What an absolute twat he was.. jesus

Thank you I felt a little left out, up to speed now.

 

[yummybrownfox]

I didn't know that people could be that prejudiced against southern accents until I learned that folks from the south who come north to look for jobs will train themselves out of their accents, because it can cost them job opportunities or promotions. The craziest story I ever heard was when I had a coworker in NYC dumped her boyfriend because she found out he had a southern accent. They met at a bar in NYC and he had trained himself out of his accent. She knew he was from the south but didn't think anything of it, but then they went to visit his family for the holidays and when he was with them he talked with this natural accent. It made her so upset she dumped him and bought a bus ticket out of there. One of the craziest things I've ever heard.

Oh, shit! That is pretty extreme. Hopefully that guy finds someone who will love him for him, unless he prefers to stay single...which is cool too.

It had never even dawned on me that a person's accent could cost them a job promotion either...until I saw that episode of The King of Queens where Spence is helping Carrie lose her accent (I have to admit that episode is HILARIOUS though).

 

[Vixxen81]

I didn't know that people could be that prejudiced against southern accents until I learned that folks from the south who come north to look for jobs will train themselves out of their accents, because it can cost them job opportunities or promotions. The craziest story I ever heard was when I had a coworker in NYC dumped her boyfriend because she found out he had a southern accent. They met at a bar in NYC and he had trained himself out of his accent. She knew he was from the south but didn't think anything of it, but then they went to visit his family for the holidays and when he was with them he talked with this natural accent. It made her so upset she dumped him and bought a bus ticket out of there. One of the craziest things I've ever heard.

I speak with a decidedly Midwest Newsanchor accent. You would never know I was cursed with being born in the South. People are constantly amazed when they find out I'm a native.

"You don't sound Southern."
"Thank you, I worked very hard to achieve that."

Then they look at me like I'm insane. I refused to let my accent stop me from being seen as intelligent and independent.

 

[MarieElise]

I absolutely love southern accents ? I didn’t realize some people think they are rough or whatever. Hardly any people from the south seem to move up here. I’m always so excited when someone from the south moves up and they have a southern accent. I used to work with a girl from Georgia and her accent was so cool. That’s a shame some people feel that way about it. Because it’s so soft and soothing.

That’s probably why I noticed the y’all thing. When I hear it I get all excited like; oh my gosh I’m gonna hear a southern accent …so cool! Then I end up feeling disappointed, because it does not end up being someone from the South. I guess it’s just a phrase/word people use a lot.

 

[Marceline]

I didn't know that people could be that prejudiced against southern accents until I learned that folks from the south who come north to look for jobs will train themselves out of their accents, because it can cost them job opportunities or promotions. The craziest story I ever heard was when I had a coworker in NYC dumped her boyfriend because she found out he had a southern accent. They met at a bar in NYC and he had trained himself out of his accent. She knew he was from the south but didn't think anything of it, but then they went to visit his family for the holidays and when he was with them he talked with this natural accent. It made her so upset she dumped him and bought a bus ticket out of there. One of the craziest things I've ever heard.

It really does suck how some people can hear a southern accent and make assumptions about their intelligence or personality.

The only time I’ve ever truly experienced this was with some of my mother’s side of the family. My grandfather (not biological grandfather, but my grandmother married him before I was born and I never met my mother’s biological father) was really bad about that. He made it very clear that he looked down on my father and even me, because we’re southern. He’s from an Italian immigrant family and raised in New York, and for some reason just hated the south. Even my grandmother had a little bit of prejudice against the south.

Thankfully, the majority of people I’ve met either when traveling or when I would bartend and have customers who were visiting my area for the first time would find my accent charming. I’d even have people commenting on it in a positive way when I was still live camming.

Another thing about southern accents, there’s so many different regional accents you can have. A Mississippi accent is different from a Georgie accent, and so on. Even in Louisiana, there’s so many different types of accents just from city to city. I was at a bar not that long ago and was talking to someone there and he was actually able to tell exactly where I grew up based just off my accent, haha.

 

[Vixxen81]

I married an Italian from Chicago. He knows what's good. LOL

 

[Smoothie]

I speak with a decidedly Midwest Newsanchor accent. You would never know I was cursed with being born in the South. People are constantly amazed when they find out I'm a native.

"You don't sound Southern."
"Thank you, I worked very hard to achieve that."

Then they look at me like I'm insane. I refused to let my accent stop me from being seen as intelligent and independent.

Speaking of news anchors, the bias against southern accents is also why you don’t see a lot of TV hosts (news, talk shows, etc) speaking that way. At least not on shows that air outside of those regions.

Learning “non-regional diction” has always been a big thing for people hoping to excel in that line of work. Non-regional still ends up sounding like Middle America though, so it’s not really non-regional. It’s more anti-southern (and, to be fair, things like thick Boston or NY accents are also trained out of them).

 

[Vixxen81]

Speaking of news anchors, the bias against southern accents is also why you don’t see a lot of TV hosts (news, talk shows, etc) speaking that way. At least not on shows that air outside of those regions.

Learning “non-regional diction” has always been a big thing for people hoping to excel in that line of work. Non-regional still ends up sounding like Middle America though, so it’s not really non-regional. It’s more anti-southern (and, to be fair, things like thick Boston or NY accents are also trained out of them).

Exactly. It's funny because I was thinking that there are not very many New York/upper East coast broadcasters on Chaturbate. I mean I haven't seen every room but yeah...there's a decidedly "cam baby" speak thing that happens on CB. One model clicks her tongue after everything she says and it drives me insane in a very bad way. "hi thank you" *tongue hits teeth and sucks* I mean I know ASMR is a thing but as someone with misphonia she just makes me want to throw my computer against the wall.

 

[ArcticKitty]

Mister Saturday Night...Special

You got a barrel that's blue and cold.

You ain't good for nothin'

But put a man 6 feet in a hole!

 

[AriaAvalon]

Hi everyone, new member here, really enjoying the community.

I have asked a few models what is the most common request by guys, expecting to hear about cum shows, feet, or whatever. Surprisingly though I was told they often dive straight in and ask if they want to get married.

I don't know if it's just a misguided idea of what a camgirl wants to hear, but I've read enough lovecon posts here (back tattoo anyone?) to know that some guys characters and mental health make them susceptible to treating camsites as dating sites.

Is it really that common for guys visit camsites in the hope of starting a relationship?

I’m about a Month or so in and my experience has been yes. I have gotten a lot of guys acting like we are on a dating platform after a couple sentence exchange of words. Even after stating the site does not allow me to interact with them off platform. The next message is “here’s my Insta, Snapchat, and phone number just in case you change your mind.” Like broh, dont give your phone number to strangers on the internet. Lol

 

[Whatman]

One day you will realize that none of them are actually being serious.

 

[Vixxen81]

One day you will realize that none of them are actually being serious.

One day you'll realize that you're not on this side of the tip notes, the private messages, the begging, the negging, the surreptitious notion that we are their internet girlfriends that should eventually become their wives. I can kindly provide you about 10,000 messages over the last few years that reflect everything I just said.

 

[Vixxen81]

One day you'll realize that you're not on this side of the tip notes, the private messages, the begging, the negging, the surreptitious notion that we are their internet girlfriends that should eventually become their wives. I can kindly provide you about 10,000 messages over the last few years that reflect everything I just said.

Hey Lil, you doing any better? You've been on my mind a bit.

 

[yummybrownfox]

One day you will realize that none of them are actually being serious.

What-a-post.

You don't know what we deal with. Having an entitled member whine to a mutual model friend "Fox doesn't give out her phone number to tippers, because she's paranoid." (So trying to get a fellow model involved in laying on a guilt trip). Because the "Highest tipper gets my phone number" incentive was popular on MFC back in the day.

Ever have a member stop visiting your room because he'd asked "No, what is your real name?"...and then he wasn't satisfied with your answer? Yeah, that's not creepy at all.....
Ever have a member ask you "What's the name of the hotel you'll be staying at, because I want to have flowers sent to your room?"
Ever have a member talk about how you "check all of his boxes," and he wants to know if he can "get to know you better outside of this site?"

I'm guessing no.

 

[Ozzie_]

One day you will realize that none of them are actually being serious.

Tell me you haven't got a clue (or that you crave an internet "spanking") without telling me ........

 

[MarieElise]

They are all being serious, because we are fucking wonderful You're trippin