Is it a scam? Or possible? Unlikely?

[Raven_Rogue]

IMO, i would just stay friends and keep it online.I think you have got yourself caught up in a fantasy of "what if" because you met this lady in circumstances you are not used to and it has excited your brain because it was "different".
You say you are a well off guy and have no problems dating IRL, i would continue doing that.It's the much easier option.
If the online friendshop fizzles out, don't stress it and put it down to experience.
Anyway, i'm off to the winchester pub for a nice, cold pint.....

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*friendship* NOT *friendshop* Damn you, auto correct ?

 

[yummybrownfox]

You told EasternPromis to not make assumptions, yet you posted this earlier…

Are all cam girls (or even ex-cam girls) automatically scamming?

Um…no. And yikes. Joining a cam model forum suggesting that we are all scammers, just because you were in over your head with some other model, is pretty tacky and rude.

 

[Raven_Rogue]

You told EasternPromis to not make assumptions, yet you posted this earlier…



Um…no. And yikes. Joining a cam model forum suggesting that we are all scammers, just because you were in over your head with some other model, is pretty tacky and rude.

Ohhhh fucking hell.Well spotted @yummybrownfox i didn't catch that when i saw his post

 

[gallett]

You told EasternPromis to not make assumptions, yet you posted this earlier…



Um…no. And yikes. Joining a cam model forum suggesting that we are all scammers, just because you were in over your head with some other model, is pretty tacky and rude.

Im sorry but you are taking that out of context. I was actually reacting to the automatic "oh it must be a scam" that was being implied by that specific reply. I actually meant it in the opposite way - i was quite annoyed that the base assumption here was that "of course its a scam" especially because this is a cam girl forum... - hence the complete sentance even said in an exasperated way
"Are all cam girls (or even ex-cam girls) automatically scamming? Or cant this really exist?"

On reflection, i should have made it more obvious that i was almost being sarcastic. Which never comes off well in forums with multiple lingusitic backgrounds.

You will see in subsequent posts ive made it pretty clear that i think 90% of cam girls and clients are equally decent in their intentions.

Appologies if it didnt come off as such... i certainly wasnt making assumptions - i actually meant the opposite

 

[Raven_Rogue]

What you’ve described is mostly a very transactional relationships. I mean, you seem very ok with it, as long as you’re in position of power in this story aka “rich older man” with hot poor girl, because the girl needs to bend to please you, not vice versa lol

The only things you say about this girl is that she’s Really your type, that’s she’s pretty stupid (to the point she needs technology help of someone from far abroad and this requires to give passport- what? Lol Is she banned on Google and YouTube? Lol) and that she seems naive. That’s pretty predatory…

IMO in this story it’s irrelevant that once upon a time she was cam girl and you saw her on the site. The real question here is why you, allegedly rich divorced man in late 30s preying on early 20s dummy girl from a poor country if your local dating life is thriving.

 

[gallett]

What you’ve described is mostly a very transactional relationships. I mean, you seem very ok with it, as long as you’re in position of power in this story aka “rich older man” with hot poor girl, because the girl needs to bend to please you, not vice versa lol

The only things you say about this girl is that she’s Really your type, that’s she’s pretty stupid (to the point she needs technology help of someone from far abroad and this requires to give passport- what? Lol Is she banned on Google and YouTube? Lol) and that she seems naive. That’s pretty predatory…

IMO in this story it’s irrelevant that once upon a time she was cam girl and you saw her on the site. The real question here is why you, allegedly rich divorced man in late 30s preying on early 20s dummy girl from a poor country if your local dating life is thriving.

Oh dear, i say again, i am sorry your experience has taught you to see the world in such binary terms. I have not gone into detail over the depth of the relationship because why would i do that on an internet forum when the question was about examples of other peoples experiences, not just about my own.

I can see that in your binary world, guys over 30 are somehow predatory no matter what their nature and women under 25 are innocent victims of them regardless of the situation... unless of course i had said the opposite and said how much i adored some women who was obviously completely ripping me off - in which case you would be defending the girl and calling me a fool... so either a fool or a predator no matter what i say.

Im afraid the truth is the world is often more complicated than that and i would hope i am neither. She may sometimes seem trusting but she is no dummy. Im a computer programmer by trade and the questions were often complex issues. The id is a completely different thing - sufice to say im not going into that here.

Regarding the, so say, unequal power in the relationship, again, i have never ever asked for a thing. Ive helped her out when she needed it with zero expectations and i openly said that... it was a long time before something actually developed. You are suggesting it is unequal, but she has the power to pick and choose men locally and online. She could easily have 20 other guys in the same situation and how would i know? But also, thats completely her right to do so and i have said as such. Hence the whole discussion of whether these things could ever develop.

What i will say is that sometimes friendships form in peculiar circumstances and hence the question on here was about any existing examples. The advice has been sound and i have thanked people for it.

 

[misterical]

Thats not me trying to be arrogant

For a man that's trying not to be arrogant, you don't half spend a lot of time mentioning how rich and successful you are.

But i am addressing the very real situation of trust which im afraid is due to the particular industry we are discussing

I thought she was no longer in the industry? Even then, coming on a forum for cam models and vaguely suggesting that scamming is commonplace (it isn't - most men scam themselves from what I can see here) is a little insulting.

But i think guys should perhaps be worried in a place like columbia (maybe thats just an incorrect assumption.

It's both an incorrect spelling and an overly simplistic assumption. Like anywhere, Colombia has good and bad places.

I can see that in your binary world, guys over 30 are somehow predatory no matter what their nature and women under 25 are innocent victims of them regardless of the situation... unless of course i had said the opposite and said how much i adored some women who was obviously completely ripping me off - in which case you would be defending the girl and calling me a fool... so either a fool or a predator no matter what i say.

Calm down. Most of the guys who come on here posting stories like you may not be predators, but most are somewhat deluded. It's perfectly reasonable for someone to question your intentions. I get the impression that you didn't want anyone here to question you, only answer you. Preferably by telling you that it is in fact real.

 

[Lilly_____]

Oh dear, i say again, i am sorry your experience has taught you to see the world in such binary terms. I have not gone into detail over the depth of the relationship because why would i do that on an internet forum when the question was about examples of other peoples experiences, not just about my own.

I can see that in your binary world, guys over 30 are somehow predatory no matter what their nature and women under 25 are innocent victims of them regardless of the situation... unless of course i had said the opposite and said how much i adored some women who was obviously completely ripping me off - in which case you would be defending the girl and calling me a fool... so either a fool or a predator no matter what i say.

Im afraid the truth is the world is often more complicated than that and i would hope i am neither. She may sometimes seem trusting but she is no dummy. Im a computer programmer by trade and the questions were often complex issues. The id is a completely different thing - sufice to say im not going into that here.

Regarding the, so say, unequal power in the relationship, again, i have never ever asked for a thing. Ive helped her out when she needed it with zero expectations and i openly said that... it was a long time before something actually developed. You are suggesting it is unequal, but she has the power to pick and choose men locally and online. She could easily have 20 other guys in the same situation and how would i know? But also, thats completely her right to do so and i have said as such. Hence the whole discussion of whether these things could ever develop.

What i will say is that sometimes friendships form in peculiar circumstances and hence the question on here was about any existing examples. The advice has been sound and i have thanked people for it.

"Dear". LMAO the audacity of coming here for advice and being condescending to the models

You just exemplified to us how you really feel about women. Dismissive of everything that has been said to you, belittling a grown ass woman's very clear and objective thoughts on the matter.

There's nothing binary about EsternPromis' line of thought, "dear".

You refuse to admit but you're just one of the hundreds of men who come here asking "is this real" and we say "well probably not" and you go like

"but what if it is"
"yeah but most likely not"
"but you see, it has to be. because ..."

Then why did you fucking ask?

You're 100% like every other "In love with a cam model" guy. Plus you're condescending as fuck. I hope this gal drains you wallet dry.

 

[Raven_Rogue]

"Dear". LMAO the audacity of coming here for advice and being condescending to the models

You just exemplified to us how you really feel about women. Dismissive of everything that has been said to you, belittling a grown ass woman's very clear and objective thoughts on the matter.

There's nothing binary about EsternPromis' line of thought, "dear".

You refuse to admit but you're just one of the hundreds of men who come here asking "is this real" and we say "well probably not" and you go like

"but what if it is"
"yeah but most likely not"
"but you see, it has to be. because ..."

Then why did you fucking ask?

You're 100% like every other "In love with a cam model" guy. Plus you're condescending as fuck. I hope this gal drains you wallet dry.

 

[Maxi]

To be fair… ‘oh dear’ in British English means like: ‘oh no’. I’m not sure that really help this man’s cause, though.

I think this thread needs an ending because he’s going around circles.

OP: I think you have what you need - there have been anecdotes here suggesting that a relationship between a cam model and a member has happened in the past, however it isn’t very common, and unlikely.

Only you and your friend can create a future between you both. It’s no different than any other beginning of a relationship - whether you meet on Tinder, Match.com, Bumble; other than your friend is seemingly thousands of miles away. Either go for it or don’t.

 

[bud9752]

 

[mika_kedi]

I didn't read the OP or any post in the thread, just wanted to ask if we're talking about food already or not yet? Lmk when it's food please.

 

[Ich Bin]

I didn't read the OP or any post in the thread, just wanted to ask if we're talking about food already or not yet? Lmk when it's food please.

I've been thinking the same thing! It's time for Food Talk! ?

 

[Vixxen81]

Ha I almost posted about food a few hours ago.

So I had chicken wings for my bday dinner because I'm not eating two-year-old crab legs.

What is your favorite birthday meal?

 

[Ich Bin]

Ha I almost posted about food a few hours ago.

So I had chicken wings for my bday dinner because I'm not eating two-year-old crab legs.

What is your favorite birthday meal?

I'm going to have to give thought about my favorite birthday meal.
Because everytime I see Vixxen81's name, I just immediately think about your famous -

Chicken Teriyaki with Broccoli over White Rice

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Scam may be the wrong word here. This is a mutually beneficial relationship. You send her gifts and money and she gives you the GFE you enjoy. GFE doesn’t mean it’s fake, it’s entirely possible to develop a genuine affection and shared interests. But there is always the $$$. You’re her sugar daddy.

If you’re unsure if this is correct stop all gifts and payments for a long period (months) and see what happens.

 

[Ozzie_]

"Dear". LMAO the audacity of coming here for advice and being condescending to the models

You just exemplified to us how you really feel about women. Dismissive of everything that has been said to you, belittling a grown ass woman's very clear and objective thoughts on the matter.

I cannot speak to the OP of course, but "oh dear" in English is not usually used to call someone "dear" (affectionately or condescendingly) .

It is the equivalent of "oh god", "Oh my lord", "oh fuck/shit/damn", "oh no", "oh wow" etc.

Now if he had said "Oh my dear girl..." then yes, 100% condescending

 

[Lilly_____]

I cannot speak to the OP of course, but "oh dear" in English is not usually used to call someone "dear" (affectionately or condescendingly) .

It is the equivalent of "oh god", "Oh my lord", "oh fuck/shit/damn", "oh no", "oh wow" etc.

Now if he had said "Oh my dear girl..." then yes, 100% condescending

I understand that meaning as well but that's not how I read it

But I don't think it really matters as the rest of the message is still very very much condescending, dear or no dear.


?

 

[MarieElise]

I’ve had steak for my birthday the last 2 years. My partner cooks it perfectly for me and does whatever veggies I request. So I like Greek salad w cucumber, feta, and Kalamata olives. Than usually asparagus. A lot of times I don’t need a carb on the side, but since we have kids we’ll do rice and beans too. Either rice and beans or spaghetti are the most popular carb sides in my house.

There is only one cut of steak I really enjoy; petite sirloin. So always that. I’m a weirdo.

 

[Lilly_____]

Ha I almost posted about food a few hours ago.

So I had chicken wings for my bday dinner because I'm not eating two-year-old crab legs.

What is your favorite birthday meal?

I'm not one to celebrate much, but I have this thing about going to Outback steakhouse on my birthday. They have these really spicy shrimps with cheese sauce and nachos and I love to have those and margaritas.

Eta, I suppose this is an international restaurant chain but I'm not really sure. It's really popular around here and very different from what Brazilian steakhouses are like. I love it.

 

[SAD^^EYES]

All I can say is that paranoia is not good, from your story I see no risk for scam whatsoever. Just go for it, live your life, create memories. Worst case scenario, things won't work, so what? Life goes on...

 

[MarieElise]

All I can say is arrogance, naivity and refusal to listen to those more knowledgeable and experienced than yourself, are not good. I say just go for it too though. Fools get what they deserve, I doubt anyone cares at this point ?‍

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I can see that in your binary world, guys over 30 are somehow predatory no matter what their nature and women under 25 are innocent victims of them regardless of the situation...

Gross, someone more knowledgeable and experienced gave you the truth and you try to twist it around on her Definitely go for it!! You deserve it all.

ETA; Also just saying it's losing arguement for dummies 101 here to fall back on the old "you're jaded I'm sorry you don't understand" "or you're a sex worker, you've had bad experiences that lead you to see the world skewed" trope. Like come up with something new and more intelligent, it's such a dull fallback, that every self-deluded, egotistical dumbass uses to try and win arguments here. At least try something a little more creative, for the love of my brain cells already!

 

[AudriTwo]

Ah yea! Derailing trash thread for food discussion. OP isnt interested in hearing our perspectives, obviously.

Its my husband's birthday today and i have homemade tiramisu cake for him. His favorite Not my home. Someone else's home made it.

It's hilarious. Our family (as in us and his parents) can never make a timely decision when and what to eat. With cake however everyone was in full agreeance. We eat it in an hour.

 

[Maxi]

So many birthdays this week!! Here’s the meatball sandwich that I made today ??



ETA: I had half of it and almost fell asleep.

 

[yummybrownfox]

I didn't read the OP or any post in the thread, just wanted to ask if we're talking about food already or not yet? Lmk when it's food please.

I ate crabs last week, and had a birthday coupon for free steamed shrimp too. My drink was a sweet tea with lemon. I forgot to bring my little bear-shaped bottle of honey to add to the tea. Lol.

A few days ago I had a cheeseburger and Sprite from Five Guys. Their burgers are so good.

I’ve been pleasantly surprised lately to find that some Dunkin’ locations DO have the Mango Pineapple refresher in stock. What?! I’d been told by different Dunkin’ employees that it was discontinued, and it hadn’t been available to order on the app anymore. So I was bummed. But then, out of nowhere, it’s become available again at various Dunkins!

But for how long? I’m gonna enjoy it while it lasts. Maybe I should check out these Wawa refreshers that I’ve been reading about. They look and sound amazing (They supposedly give you an energy boost like my Mango Pineapple refresher does), and will probably have to replace my refresher soon.

 

[Smoothie]

What is your favorite birthday meal?

Marinated chicken (three days marinated in a family recipe marinade), grilled outdoors. Fresh Italian bread to go with it.

Broccoli salad. Taco dip (another family recipe) with Tostitos. And a very cold beer.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Ha I almost posted about food a few hours ago.

So I had chicken wings for my bday dinner because I'm not eating two-year-old crab legs.

What is your favorite birthday meal?

Yum!


Crabs with melted butter and sweet tea with lemon. That meal isn’t usually on my actual birthday though, because that day I’m usually at an amusement park all day…which means I will eat light (Coney Island fries and a cherry ICEE) before I resume my day of belly-flopping thrill rides. Later that night I had a sweet black pepper bacon croissant and Mango Pineapple refresher from Dunkin’.

 

[Vixxen81]

Marinated chicken (three days marinated in a family recipe marinade), grilled outdoors. Fresh Italian bread to go with it.

Broccoli salad. Taco dip (another family recipe) with Tostitos. And a very cold beer.

Marinated chicken is amazing but it must be super low in acid if you can do it for three days? An hour in a bath with some Italian dressing and it turns into shredded chicken.

 

[Smoothie]

Marinated chicken is amazing but it must be super low in acid if you can do it for three days? An hour in a bath with some Italian dressing and it turns into shredded chicken.

I sometimes cut it to two days and it still tastes great, but three (no more than three) gets the entire chicken just the right flavor, all the way through.

I like the lightly charred edges from the grill too, so sometimes I cut the chicken into cubes or strips and skewer it like a kebob. Cooks a little faster and gives me more of those crispy edges.

 

[Deleted member 63844]

I loveeee joining these threads late and ending up in the food discussions!

@EasternPromis everything you said was on point

Also I’m very jealous of all you Americans with your crabs, it’s just not a thing here! I’d love to try one of those seafood bag boil things that have been going viral recently