Swarles123 said:
Mymilkshake said:
Sevrin said:
CaptainCuddly said:
She was just greedy and has no one but herself to blame. The offer was obviously for way too much money, and she has no one but herself to blame.
Wait.. what?? Sorry dude, this is a business. I'm not going to let that statement fly.
Your post is like shouting "I object" but not giving any reason why.
because its a business you should be
more naive?
ComicOzzie puts it a bit nicer than Sevrin. But both are true.
OK here are my reasons why:
1) As previously stated, this is a business. First and foremost we are here for business. To assume any cam model is performing on the web because she is a whore, a slut,
greedy, on drugs or any other negative stereotype is a gross miscarriage of information. We come from all backgrounds; single mom's paying when the deadbeat dad disappears, unemployed professionals unable to find our place in the mainstream workforce and need the continue to generate an income, college women paying tuition one semester at a time, women who may have mental or physical health issues and are otherwise unable to maintain a career, and the list goes on. No matter what our background, what binds us together is this is a business and we are here for our survival. Please don't misinterpret this. I'm not saying YOU or anyone else here believes we are sluts, whores,
greedy, on drugs or any other negative stereotype. What I am saying is, it is a popular misconception of most. We are here for the money. To earn for our survival.
2) A tip, gesture, tribute or payment that may seem out of the ordinary for YOU is actually quite common with many others, especially to those of us in the femdom/findom side of it. Likewise many of us are simply blessed with generous customers who want to see us succeed at achieving our goals (college, making a bill on time, a day of relaxation at the spa...). It is not unusual to receive "large payments". I personally have someone who tips $2500 regularly. While it's always a pleasant surprise, it's never truly unbelievable or shocking.
3) Without speaking to the supposed victim, we don't know what the agreement was. There are rules on every commercial website that forbid certain acts from being performed. As a result, fans of these acts will do whatever they see fit to have their desires met. If it means paying $5000 they won't hesitate. They will record it, take stills from it and relive the moment over and over and over again. It's the nature of the beast.
4) There is nothing unusual about any sizable tip. Period. Gold show countdowns are the perfect example. How many times have you seen a guy buy out the show? There's $300 left to make the goal - BAM! There it is. Yes, I realize $300 is not $1200 but it's just another example of why it's not so unbelievable for a cam model to accept a private show of the price. I've also heard stories of women on MFC having walls of tokens and high contributors within that wall. They happen every day, all around the web.
What I find particularly disturbing is the level of obtuseness towards the young lady. Yes, she made a couple of mistakes and as a result of her oversights she got burned but to
imply or otherwise state (as some here have) she deserved to be conned for being "greedy" crosses the line in my opinion. She's not being greedy. She's taking advantage of an offer that was presented to her as part of her work. Naive maybe, but greedy, no... and even though she was naive enough to take a first time customer at his word, she did not necessarily deserve it either.
The guy was clearly acting in a predatory manner. He probably knows she is a newer model and prayed on her hope and on her nativity. He took advantage. Greed has nothing to do with it. Now, speaking only from my own heart and not representing any other web model; My body is my temple. I love myself and my body. My body belongs to ME. I do with my body what I feel COMFORTABLE with. To say I am not comfortable with showing my wares on the internet is accurate, however, within my own set of boundaries I have negotiated with myself a set of rules. These rules include how far I am willing to take it and at what price. I can assure you, as a softcore performer, I would never agree to put on a full on hardcore show for anything less than my set price which is $14.99 per minute. $1200 comes quick at that price. Am I greedy?........ and after the show, what kind of dickwipe would scam me and take it all back? THAT in my opinion is more than just greed. He has a lack of respect probably not only for web performers but all women in general. He played with her like his personal toy, manipulated her and left her feeling, "raped". In a sense, it is rape. It was not with her consent.
Have you have had something taken from you? Have you ever not been paid after performing your work? Have you ever had someone renege on a contractual agreement? If you have, perhaps it's why some of us have more empathy than others. Maybe you are tighter with your wallet and don't feel spending higher dollar amounts is reasonable within your budget, it doesn't make her eagerness to accept the offer less viable because when there is one who wont there are always two who will.
