Sevrin said:
In fact, sex has nothing to to with this. In order to be a sex worker, it is necessary to think in terms of sales, services and products, and not treat sex like a precious gift or a delicate flower. Sex workers can't expect society to treat sex work as just a normal part of life if they themselves insist on it being treated like something different.
I think this right here really hits home as the core of the topic. Stripping it all down to it's foundation means getting personal with yourself and really learning about who you are, how you view sexuality, the opposite sex and your personal belief systems.
That said, normally I wouldn't take such an interest (probably too much interest) but I'm curious about you. some of your finer viewpoints as stated here can be seen frequently in my guest chat, and guest chats all around the web. I feel I have some things to learn from you. It's a great discussion...
My personal philosophies of your overall messages without too much in-depth elaboration but enough to give you something to think on:
It has nothing to do with sex--- It has EVERYTHING to do with sex. We live in a world of conflicting messages and hypocrisies when it comes to women, sex and sexuality. There's reason it sells. There's reasons people sell it.
In order to be a sex worker, it is necessary to think in terms of sales, services and products--- Within boundaries. If you ever saw "Pretty Woman" one of the most memorable scenes is where she reveals "there will be no kissing". Some things are off limits. Not everything is for sale. Not everything has a price.
Sex is a precious gift AND a delicate flower--- Yes, it is which is why cam models spend some pretty serious introspective time with themselves before turning on the cam for the first time. From that introspection we form boundaries, an on cam persona and appear to you in a 680 X 420 window as opposed to a panoramic view.
Sex workers can't expect society to treat sex work as just a normal part of life if they themselves insist on it being treated like something different--- This is a point I ponder frequently as a nude/fetish model and is very a important point for all to consider. The end result is what is what you see on cam and is ever evolving.
That said, there are only two types of men whom I
voluntarily share myself with ;
1) Ones who see my body and sexuality as an erotic art form and compensate me for it. This is my camming life i.e. the business side.
2) The very rare and elusive man who eventually becomes my lover. this is a side of my sexuality that is not seen on cam. He is a person who I allow into my life on a more personal and intimate level and have a much different set of boundaries and rules that change as we grow together and establish trust. It is the personal side.
3) There are no others. Sex and sexuality is not an entitlement. It is mine to give and take. It is my right. It belongs to me! With all due respect, you seem to think it's an entitlement. The jerk who took back his payment in such a predatory fashion clearly manipulated her to reinforce his feelings of entitlement in a power play as displayed by a true needle dick coward. To compare the two of you is unfair but in fair play.
...and while we're at it, I really hate the term, "sex worker" when applied to camming. I am not a sex worker. I am a fetish model. I utilize YOUR imagination to portray an image. I am self employed in the privacy and safety of my own home. I do not come into direct contact with my customers. I am also celibate as many cam performers are.
It irks me to no end that someone who may be a dentist is given more respect based on a title despite the fact she may be sleeping with the entire office building and then some, all the while I am home alone snuggling with my cat in front of a good movie at the end of the day.