Should you share your location with people in your chatroom?

[alectarain]

I never like to tell the state I'm from to just random strangers coming in and out of my chat. I barely share it with people that pay for shows, because I'm a camgirl. I like to do everything online But a lot of people seem to get annoyed with me when I just say, "I'm from the United States." I usually get a "wow that narrows it down." or something close to that. I also hate revealing where I live because I know some customers are seeing if I'm close to them or they ask "Are you anywhere near ____?" as if I'm going to meet them offline. Does anyone actual recommend revealing their location. I don't because I'm in a small town and I just don't feel comfortable with it but so many people ask that I wonder how many camgirls tell the state they live in. Or I could just lie....

 

[Guy]

I never like to tell the state I'm from to just random strangers coming in and out of my chat. I barely share it with people that pay for shows, because I'm a camgirl. I like to do everything online But a lot of people seem to get annoyed with me when I just say, "I'm from the United States." I usually get a "wow that narrows it down." or something close to that. I also hate revealing where I live because I know some customers are seeing if I'm close to them or they ask "Are you anywhere near ____?" as if I'm going to meet them offline. Does anyone actual recommend revealing their location. I don't because I'm in a small town and I just don't feel comfortable with it but so many people ask that I wonder how many camgirls tell the state they live in. Or I could just lie....

Tell them for safety and privacy reasons, you prefer not to disclose your location.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Not a model, but at no time does a member ever need to know where you live. And the members who get angry because you won't tell them are the exact members you don't need in your room. If you live in a big city, you're probably safe to let people know which city just to shut them up, but they don't need to know at all.

 

[Lexi Emerson]

If you're not comfortable with it, don't share it. Simple as that. I know many girls that have made somewhere up just so they don't have to deal with saying they don't share it but honestly, it's your room and you have no obligation to share that info. If people won't respect that then I would just ban them or throw them on ignore. That is a boundary that shouldn't be crossed.

The only girls I know who say their exact city are ones from huge places like Vegas. I would never recommend giving your specfic town especially if it is small. I personally share my state and that is it.

 

[Teagan]

NO! Dont tell them. Its none of their business and there is absolutely zero need for them to know where you are. Of course some will complain though cause they wanna believe that if you only lived near them they may have a chance to talk you into meeting them or escorting for pennies. Tell them you live in France, tell them you live in Neverland, tell them you live in their dreams... just do not tell them where you actually are. You have absolutely no clue who may be watching and what mental issues they may have to track you down and possibly hurt you.

The best advice though is listen to yourself. You said it makes you uncomfortable...so why even waiver on it at all. Dont ever do anything you are not comfy with on cam. There is no reason at all that you have to. Not with location, and not with anything else.

 

[Violet Dawn]

I don't know why people like this information. It seems rather pointless to me, but if you don't want to tell them you are in no way obligated to do so. Maybe ask them why they want to know so badly then go from there. Or just flat out say no. If they get mad at you for not wanting to reveal your location it makes them look like they had their mind in the wrong place and they definitely are not worth your time. I'm sure that a lot of guys just ask as a sort of conversation starter, but most guys don't get upset when I tell them "United States" or "Over the rainbow", they actually find humor in it. Those are good dudes. But I think pretty much in any situation do not do something you are uncomfortable with and if you live in a small town do not tell them where you live, because once you give out the state they will keep digging for more and waste your time.

 

[AshleyAlexis]

I usually will say I am from California due to it being a big state and some even know I'm in norcal but that's all they get. the biggest thing you will learn as a camgirl is that a lot (or all?) info you give out or things you do are 100% your choice based on YOUR comfortability (is that a word?). I usually tell myself that if a member gets upset at you for sticking up for yourself or making sure you're comfortable, you probably don't want their tokens anyway!

 

[gothicfeline]

I say tell them you are from the could city of besbin...

 

[Teagan]

I just wanted to also add you said that you tell people who pay for shows. Dont do that either. Just cause a member pays or tips you does not mean they are anymore trustworthy than someone who doesnt. Money does not always equal safety or security or sanity is on the other end of it. There is an extreme number of girls who report their once perfectly fine regular tippers turn into stalkers and they regret telling them any info at all. Not trying to fear monger but just being real with you. Your safety comes first and that means protecting yourself and your location. Even to tippers or regulars.

 

[Puffin]

Disclaimer:I'm not a model.

If a location question comes up, say in a happy/fun tone something about stalkers, such as "STALKER ALERT!"
That will end any testing questioning and those listening will understand why. Your room will stay positive.

If instead you say "No" or "I prefer not to say" or give some vague location then:
You will give to the room the negative feeling of evading. Some people in the room, especially newbies, won't know 'why', making them feel awkward. You are likely to be asked further location questions, pushing to find out either where or why you are evading. For the room to be positive again for everyone, you will spend effort cleaning up.

 

[Nordling]

When did "NO" become "evasive?" To me, it still means no. Rooms don't have feelings; only members and models do, and most members know very well the crap models go through to avoid giving away location--most will support you no matter how you handle it.

 

[JickyJuly]

I love hearing a girl say no in her camroom. It means she runs shit, and her room stays a happy place for her. Dudes who want to whine over hearing no are not going to be fun members. Good riddance.

 

[Guy]

I just wanted to also add you said that you tell people who pay for shows. Dont do that either. Just cause a member pays or tips you does not mean they are anymore trustworthy than someone who doesnt. Money does not always equal safety or security or sanity is on the other end of it. There is an extreme number of girls who report their once perfectly fine regular tippers turn into stalkers and they regret telling them any info at all. Not trying to fear monger but just being real with you. Your safety comes first and that means protecting yourself and your location. Even to tippers or regulars.

@Teagan Have you heard or read about models being stalked by their clients?

 

[Teagan]

@Teagan Have you heard or read about models being stalked by their clients?

That's what I said, yes.

 

[SaffronBurke]

I tell everyone who asks that I'm from Pluto. For some reason, a sizeable amount of folks mishear it as "Toronto". Mmmhmm, yep, I totally live in Canada, even though I've never set foot in the country.

 

[Lili_xo]

I am in USA which is a huuuge country and in a state which is so large it is bigger than many countries in Europe so - I really don't see the point of not telling where I am. The members also share with me where they are and I put a flag counter to see who is visiting from where. Is fun to chat and get to know members a little - hoping to put together a fun room-lying is a huge turn off for me in others too and usually can tell - if I want to keep a secret I have no problem saying "no- will not tell you that" and so far no one had a problem with accepting my "no".
I don't share a city because that is getting just too close to people but in real life am secretive like that too so am skilled at withholding info lol.In fact the camming world seems to be the world in which being myself is a natural thing - this is soo...weird.
However whatever I chose to share- the few facts- must be true and I share some-wathever I feel like sharing is true.
I also don't see how anyone can possibly stalk anyone cause they know the country??
(I have to add am still new and learning.)
I refused to share my state with one member only who was very rude but I also refused to chat with him about anything cause he was just so rude.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

I say tell them you are from the cloud city of bespin...

Lol that's the city I say while I'm on cam. Everyone automatically assumes Cloud City is the actual place I'm from until they ask for clarification of where, then I reply Bespin. Lots of times I'll immediately get "Ok but haha where are you really?" or the classic "Well I'm not a creepy stalker type, so you can tell me" aannddd ban, cuz ew, get over yourself.

For a while I thought stalkers were predominantly people the model knew personally, but after one indecent (leaving out names) of a model who had a tipper, who found out where she lived, and decided that if he was at the airport she'd feel the need to pick him up...and yeah he was even from another continent wtf... Anyway, point is anybody and everybody can be a potential wackjob, so it's best not to give out too much info. At most I say I'm in the South, and for all anyone knows it's true...or could just be the VPN I use. *sigh*

 

[Guy]

Lol that's the city I say while I'm on cam. Everyone automatically assumes Cloud City is the actual place I'm from until they ask for clarification of where, then I reply Bespin. Lots of times I'll immediately get "Ok but haha where are you really?" or the classic "Well I'm not a creepy stalker type, so you can tell me" aannddd ban, cuz ew, get over yourself.

For a while I thought stalkers were predominantly people the model knew personally, but after one indecent (leaving out names) of a model who had a tipper, who found out where she lived, and decided that if he was at the airport she'd feel the need to pick him up...and yeah he was even from another continent wtf... Anyway, point is anybody and everybody can be a potential wackjob, so it's best not to give out too much info. At most I say I'm in the South, and for all anyone knows it's true...or could just be the VPN I use. *sigh*

Have you ever used ExpressVPN or VyprVPN?

 

[Ann_Sulu]

I've used a number of VPN's but neither of those.

 

[LolaFrenchStudent]

I agree with previous comments: you shouldn't disclose your location if you don't feel comfortable with it, especially since you live in a small town.

Personally, I live in a big town with more than 2 million inhabitants, so at first I didn’t really care about telling people I live in Paris.

The advantages are that I don’t have to make up a fake location or deal with people constantly asking me where I live. I think it also helped me seem more genuine to my room and build a regular “French fan base” (there aren’t many French broadcasters on CB, so it’s kind of a “niche”).

As I later realized, the downside is that some viewers (with whom I didn't even really engaged with) asked me to meet them in real life, which was a bit weird (do they seriously think that CB is some kind of a dating or escorting website?!).

I think that most viewers are harmless. For them, CB is only about the girl-next-door fantasy. If they were to recognize me in the subway or in the street, they would probably feel too shy and awkward to actually come speak with me.

But you can never be sure that there isn’t a sociopath out there watching your show, so all in all, I would still advise against revealing your exact location.

 

[Teagan]

But you can never be sure that there isn’t a sociopath out there watching your show, so all in all, I would still advise against revealing your exact location.

I think you meant to say psychopath there cause sociopaths are of no danger but yeah I agree. Small towns make it much more dangerous.

 

[LolaFrenchStudent]

You're right, Teagan, "sociopath" isn't the word I should have used in this sentence.
I meant to say "someone who could harm you in real life".

 

[Nordling]

Sociopaths often include dangerous people. They are people with no ethical/moral underpinnings and feel free to do whatever pleases them. I'd be concerned with both categories.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/wicked-deeds/201401/how-tell-sociopath-psychopath

 

[Teagan]

All people are capable of being dangerous. You may not have a conscience but you still can take social ques and learn right and wrong from that. Not to mention what the definitions are have changed and are arguable so what someone is called or labeled as can vary. For instance some say sociopaths and psychopaths have no conscience but others say that's not true, it's just psychopaths. All depends on what you read and from where and what time you're living in.

http://www.signature-reads.com/2013/05/little-did-we-know-5-myths-about-sociopathy-debunked/

http://www.diffen.com/difference/Psychopath_vs_Sociopath

My point being is can sociopaths be dangerous? Can psychopaths? Can everyday soccer moms be dangerous? Yup, yup, and yup. Give the chance or opportunity or pushed to it anyone can be dangerous. So on a cam site where anonymity could possibly spell danger from whomever is on the other side it's best not to hand them the map about where you are.

 

[JoleneBrody]

I think you meant to say psychopath there cause sociopaths are of no danger but yeah I agree. Small towns make it much more dangerous.

As the close family member of a diagnosed and very very dangerous sociopath, I have to extremely and firmly disagree here.

 

[Serenity_Tam]

As an online only entity location is irrelevant. Also keep in mind - the amount someone tips you does not mean they should be privvy to such information. Having a lot of dollars is not necessarily associated with sanity.

I will just say Canada
or if it's asked a lot then I go with Arrakis or the blue sun system
...which are larger than Canada.

 

[AnneDVille]

I say I'm from the Annederworld, which is an island below the belts of hell.

Actually... I may have lost a few potential tippers by ending the conversation as soon as they asked the question. The way I see it: My location has absolutely nothing to do with my ability to show my tits online. So the question becomes irrelevant.

 

[Violet Dawn]

Actually, yeah the person who tried to burn my apartment down was a diagnosed sociopath. But it could have been a misdiagnoses. And I think their motive was revenge rather than "I like burning people alive, woohoo!" What I learned in college sociopaths are just less likely to commit crimes than psychopaths. Sociopaths aren't driven to hurt people, psychopaths tend to like that stuff, or be more susceptible to doing it. But as related to the topic, I don't think you should trust either one. xD

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

I agree with previous comments: you shouldn't disclose your location if you don't feel comfortable with it, especially since you live in a small town.

Personally, I live in a big town with more than 2 million inhabitants, so at first I didn’t really care about telling people I live in Paris.

The advantages are that I don’t have to make up a fake location or deal with people constantly asking me where I live. I think it also helped me seem more genuine to my room and build a regular “French fan base” (there aren’t many French broadcasters on CB, so it’s kind of a “niche”).

As I later realized, the downside is that some viewers (with whom I didn't even really engaged with) asked me to meet them in real life, which was a bit weird (do they seriously think that CB is some kind of a dating or escorting website?!).

I think that most viewers are harmless. For them, CB is only about the girl-next-door fantasy. If they were to recognize me in the subway or in the street, they would probably feel too shy and awkward to actually come speak with me.

But you can never be sure that there isn’t a sociopath out there watching your show, so all in all, I would still advise against revealing your exact location.

I do think there are advantages to being honest about your general location, depending on what type of chat room you want to run. In the case of a social site like CB or MFC, I think those advantages are significant for exactly the reason you discuss it makes the model seem more genuine and approachable. Which can lead to larger tips. Now if all I wanted to do on MFC, is see girls get naked and fuck themselves, then yes the locations is irrelevant. But if you are interested in conversation deeper than show bobs bb, or what size are they, or do you do anal, then answering a question where do live, with something like near LA, Chicago, or Kansas, Eastern Mexico is much than "I live on the internet."

I reject that the only reason a member wants to know a models location is because they want to meet/stalk you. When I meet somebody IRL, and to lesser extent online, one of the first 10 questions, I ask or get asked is "Where do you live?",Where are you from?. It is a very handy piece of information to know as a conversation starter. If you know where somebody lives you can talk about the area, the local sports team, the food, the weather, or even the politics.

Now I certainly get why if you live in small town why you would want to keep that information private.
But as a camgirl husband told me: pretty attractive woman are going to attract unwanted male attention, in some cases it rises to the level of being stalked. But it is a hell of a lot more likely you are going to be stalked by the guy you meet at a bar, grocery store, gym, or see every day at Starbucks, than the dude who lives a 1,000 miles away and pervs on dozen other models.

 

[CrazyCatLady]

I do think there are advantages to being honest about your general location, depending on what type of chat room you want to run. In the case of a social site like CB or MFC, I think those advantages are significant for exactly the reason you discuss it makes the model seem more genuine and approachable. Which can lead to larger tips. Now if all I wanted to do on MFC, is see girls get naked and fuck themselves, then yes the locations is irrelevant. But if you are interested in conversation deeper than show bobs bb, or what size are they, or do you do anal, then answering a question where do live, with something like near LA, Chicago, or Kansas, Eastern Mexico is much than "I live on the internet."

I reject that the only reason a member wants to know a models location is because they want to meet/stalk you. When I meet somebody IRL, and to lesser extent online, one of the first 10 questions, I ask or get asked is "Where do you live?",Where are you from?. It is a very handy piece of information to know as a conversation starter. If you know where somebody lives you can talk about the area, the local sports team, the food, the weather, or even the politics.

Now I certainly get why if you live in small town why you would want to keep that information private.
But as a camgirl husband told me: pretty attractive woman are going to attract unwanted male attention, in some cases it rises to the level of being stalked. But it is a hell of a lot more likely you are going to be stalked by the guy you meet at a bar, grocery store, gym, or see every day at Starbucks, than the dude who lives a 1,000 miles away and pervs on dozen other models.

I somewhat agree with this. This is why I was honest about being in the PNW. Most of my offline adventures involve riding my quad all over this beautiful land so it would be hard to fake a location for me:/

I am careful to not give out too many details since this is a large area though.