Sugar daddy website (news article)

[Jupiter551]

Students turn to sugar daddies to pay for degrees

January 15, 2014 3:31PM

With help from a man 15 years her senior Ari, 20, is enrolled in a college degree. Screengrab via ABC Source: Supplied

ARI was a 20-year-old student struggling to help her single mother pay the bills.

She had her heart set on a dance degree at Texas State University, but knew she could not afford the thousands of dollars in tuition fees.

"My parents had split, and my mum was having trouble with child support with my siblings and stuff, so I was working, like, five jobs to help," Ari told KENS5 .

Then she heard about SeekingArrangement.com, a sugar daddy dating website specialising in "mutually beneficial arrangements between wealthy benefactors and attractive people".

Ari signed up to be a "sugar baby", with a few caveats.

"I'm a virgin. We're not doing it. We're not doing anything sexual," she said.

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A man 15 years older than her approached her wanting to be her sugar daddy.

"Every time he would fly in, we would hang out, and he would just give me money," Ari said. "He was like, 'Oh, it's just gas money,' and it would be, like, two and three hundred bucks here and there. And I'd be like, 'Oh, cool.' And then each time he'd come, he'd give me more money, and we'd go do anything I wanted to do."

With the money she enrolled in a full time degree at Austin Community College.

"As long as you're not compromising your morals, and you're OK with what you do, I think it's a good idea," Ari said.

A SeekingArrangement.com spokesperson said the arrangements are not considered prostitution because sexual contact is not mandatory.

Almost 11 million college students in the US are registered on the website.

 

[Jupiter551]

So what do you guys think, do guys really do stuff like that without any hope of sexual attention? If so, then why not do it for some less attractive girl etc?

 

[Rose]

Some people are just lonely and need/want the companionship. Some of them are probably hoping for sex. Some of them probably like the "power". I'm sure the list is a million words long. :twocents-02cents:

 

[IsabellaSnow]

So what do you guys think, do guys really do stuff like that without any hope of sexual attention? If so, then why not do it for some less attractive girl etc?

Some guys do, some guys don't. When I was younger I joined a sugar daddy site. You get a big mix of men. A relationship like this girl mentions is rare. It sounds wonderful for a young girl, you get money and all you have to do is hang out with someone and do whatever you want? Wow, sign me up! But in reality it rarely works like that. In my experience a lot of the guys were reasonably well off but seemed to think that taking you to expensive places for dinner or maybe buying the odd item of clothing would be enough, when really expensive dinner is only worth anything when you're with the right person and shopping isn't so fun when you're going around with a dude.

One guy put me up in a really nice hotel in London before I lived there when I needed to go there for an interview, he was very nice and not your usual "sugardaddy" image, when we went out for lunch he asked me a few times about whether I had any financial responsibilities I needed to take care of, at the time I didn't have anything except my phone bill which I was hardly struggling with and I said as much. We ended up sleeping together and as I left to catch my train he passed me an envelope with a wad of cash, to pay my phone bill apparently... I met him once again after that and a similar thing happened with a larger wad of cash, as much as the money was nice, I'm pretty certain that's borderline prostitution. I think a lot of guys use those sorts of sites who don't want to admit to hiring a prostitute, they want to believe the girl's there for them, but they also want the control that comes from hiring an escort. Plus with the amount of time you end up spending with them it works out as way cheaper than a prostitute! I mean even that wad of cash was way less than would ever tempt me to have sex for money!

In my experience guys were either looking for a sexual relationship or hoping for an actual romance. I also had several guys who were married/in relationships message me, to which they got a tirade of scolding on my part, and I actually met up with a few of them (as friends) to scold them further. I don't know why, but much to my annoyance me thoroughly ticking them off only seemed to make them want to pursue me more. I know it's almost completely pointless trying to talk a guy out of having an affair when he's gone as far as setting up and paying for an actual account and is e-mailing women, but I felt I had to try.

In the end though I think camming is much more financially viable. In most cases guys I met were kind of weird and definitely after sex. Usually a waste of time. Only one out of them have I remained friends with, though I haven't spoken to him for a while, we both have horses and nothing sexual ever happened between us. With him it's a shame really that we weren't closer in age as he'd have been the most likely person I'd have dated.