Isabella_deL said:
Because a lot of women believe strongly that sex should be personal, always with emotions and feelings. Let's face it, men have always been dicks about a lot of things, and men think with their dicks. I swear half of working in the sex industry is going at some point "fuck it, it's going to go on and be like this anyway, I might as well make some money off it"
Just a note, males of all species think with their dicks, not just humans. There is a genetic imprint in the male biology that wants to spread his seed to as many offspring as possible. In humans, though, it has evolved from just spreading the male's genetic code into offspring into just fuck as much as possible. Many men who sleep with as many women as they can don't actually want kids, especially in this day and age of child support, palimony, etc. They just have the urge to have sex. The base instinct is there, for spreading their seed, but with contraceptives readily available, it has moved beyond that into just the actual pleasurable act of having sex. Our intelligence as a species has made the baser instinct not as important.
Isabella_deL said:
I don't judge prostitutes, good on them, but I do judge men who go to them.
You really shouldn't. It's a bit hypocritical.
But, there's also another reason you shouldn't. And it's not just in humans, but all of nature. It's that no matter how much 'power' the males of any species hold, it's the females of the species that control if a male has sex.
Look at nature. It's not the females that are brightly colored, sing, prune, fight with each other and parade themselves to find males. It's the males that are like this. The females have the control over which males they will mate with. They decide if the males will ever have sex.
And it happens in humans, too. No matter how much it is thought that males have a lot of sexual control, it's the females that control it all. Women have the vaginas, and they control who gets in it (not counting things like rape, I'm just talking general society).
Even in humans, we have alpha, beta and omega males. The alpha males seem to have no problem finding sex whenever they want it-- in general, women are more willing to sleep with an alpha male. Beta males have to seriously work to get sex-- in general, women will not really see the beta male as someone they want to have sex with. And omega males tend to resort to paying for sex or forcibly taking it-- in general, omega males are so unattractive to females that they can't get sex the normal ways.
Now, an alpha male human doesn't need to be the best looking male. But he has to be the most confident, and eschew something that attracts women to him. As an example, I have a friend who is definitely an alpha male, but he is far from attractive. He's overweight, has a fairly unkempt beard and massively long and bushy eyebrows, is going bald, dresses like a slob etc. But goddamn if he can't somehow find a way to get a woman to go home with him without much effort at all. But, alpha males don't always find the sex they
want. In fact, their overt sexual advances often backfire on them unless they are hitting on girls who are already horny or who are just looking to get laid, themselves. However, since they are intrinsically more desirable when women are looking for sex, they can often find someone to have sex with... even if it isn't their first choice.
Beta males need something else that will get a woman to go for him. Money, a stable career, perhaps an alpha male who talks them up, etc. But if the beta male has to work at getting it in some way. I'm more of a beta male. No matter how much girls tell me I'm actually attractive, etc., it takes me 100x or more effort to get sex than my alpha male friends. So much so that while alpha males are hitting hard times if they go a week or two without sex... well, let's just say a week or two without sex is nothing compared to my dry spells. One of the problems is that beta males fall into the 'friend zone' very fast.
And I'm sure each and every model on here has plenty of male friends who fell into that friend zone almost immediately. You all think they're great guys, but wonder why they never have girlfriends. You think women would fall over themselves to have such a good guy in their lives... but what you don't realize is that these males fall into the friend zone of pretty much every girl they meet. All the girls love them... but none of them want to
love them. The girls, in general, are going for the alpha males, instead.
But, every now and then, those beta males get lucky and randomly hook up with some (sometimes really hot) girl at a bar/club, with seemingly little to no effort. Everyone's happy for them. And then everyone wonders where that girl is in a few days. Basically, she was just looking to get some action herself, and hooked up with a beta male because she knew it would be easier than competing for the alpha males in the bar/club.
Then there's the omega males. Males with little to no social skills to speak of. They ostracize themselves from society in different ways. In a crowded area, they seem to be alone. These males have very little chance of ever finding sex in the traditional ways, no matter how attractive they may be, physically. For these males, paying for sex seems like the only way they can get it without becoming rapists. A lot of people would associate omega males as your typical nerd type, big glasses, really fat or really skinny, etc. But not all omega males are like this. Just for some reason, they don't gel with society at large-- even if they want to.
Sure, you get the same thing in females. Your alpha, beta and omega females. We all know the alpha females, those gorgeous women the other girls want to look like. Your beta females, the more homely but average girls. And your omega girls, the ones society says are unattractive, or are so socially awkward that they just don't fit in, even if they are what society would consider attractive-- and they also can be what would otherwise normally be alpha or beta females.
But, there's a difference. Even omega females can get sex easier than beta males or omega males. There's always some male, alpha, beta or omega looking for sex, and this means that even omega females can get sex.
Of course, we all know how society perceives the alpha female. She's super hot, but seems bitchy to men. This is mostly because she is hit on non stop by everything with a penis. Every guy wants to get between her legs, and they let her know it. As a result, she seems very picky about who she sleeps with-- and sometimes complains that it's been forever since she had sex if she isn't in a relationship. Though, in truth, she is picky, because she knows she has the pick of any guy she wants. She's the desirable one. If she walked into a bar and plainly stated she wanted someone to fuck for that night, there would be guys killing each other to be the one. I often joke if she just walked outside her home and screamed "I want to fuck!" guys would materialize out of the sidewalk to be that guy. Even alpha males have a hard time sleeping with her, even though she tends to gravitate towards them. But, again, she can pick and choose if she so wants.
Your beta female is more average. The normal girl next door type. She's often friendlier towards men, but can get supremely annoyed with alpha males' overt sexual advances very quickly. Yet, she also gravitates to the alpha males when she is looking for sex. She will 'settle' for beta males if she can't have an alpha male, though. She's still choosy about who she sleeps with, but not as choosy as an alpha female. If she's in an area with alpha females, she may think of herself as too plain to try for alpha males, though the alpha males will still hit on her-- thinking she is easier than the alpha females. She often has a lot of beta guy friends who don't overtly hit on her, but secretly want to sleep with her. But, when she is on the prowl for sex, she also doesn't have a hard time finding it.
The omega female... they're harder to pin down. They often are the jealous friends who get pissed if one of their friends is getting hit on (or more) than they are while out. They often are the ones who cockblock their friends if they aren't getting attention from other men or the friend who is flirting or hooking up with someone. They may be what most consider unattractive, they may not. In fact, even alpha and beta females can turn into omega females at the appropriate time. It's more of an attitude over anything else. An attitude that comes and goes. Like omega males, some are socially awkward, though. They have many of the same issues as omega males, in that case. But, the difference between them and omega males is they can still find sex if they want it, even, sometimes, from alpha males. There's always some guy who just wants to get laid, and they know it. They may not find the sex with their first choice, but they can still find it when they want it.
We've all seen how it works.
Let's say a group of guys goes out. A few alpha males and a few beta males. Generally, the cokcblocking happens between alpha males. The beta males tend to not cockblock each other, though they may find a way to slyly cockblock an alpha male if the opportunity shows itself. But, if the beta males find themselves in competition for the same girl, there will be cockblocking between them. But, alpha males will sometimes help out a beta male in some way, if just to try and get the beta male laid. But, again, if the alpha male has his sights set on the same female as a beta male, he will cockblock the beta male, mercilessly.
Contrast that with a group of females. Let's say an alpha female or two and some beta females. One of the females, it doesn't matter which type, starts getting and reciprocating the attention of an alpha or beta male. In almost no time, the rest of the group turns into omega females if they aren't getting similar attention (even if they have no plans on reciprocating the attention). They'll try and coerce the girl getting the attention away, say they should leave, etc. And it gets more apparent if the one getting and reciprocating the attention starts making out with the male. Even to the point where they sometimes physically pull the one girl away with them.
Hell, I literally have had an experience where a girl out with her friends
decided to make out with me, and her friends frankly told one of my friends that they were going to have to step in and cockblock. And the girl who was basically raping my face wasn't even the most attractive one in the group. :angry4: But the whole rest of the group started saying "we're going" and "let's get out of here" and then finally just grabbed her and pulled her out of the establishment.
And this is not a rare occurrence to witness.
This is where the 'wingman' approach has come in. Where if one guy starts noticing the other girls in a group trying to get the girl he is making headway with to get her away from him, he pulls in his friends to at least give the other girls attention. Otherwise he risks her friends cockblocking him out of the picture.
But, this is also one of the reasons when a girl is actively looking to have sex, she will go out alone. She knows she has a better chance of actually getting some action if she isn't out with a group of friends.
By the same token, many beta males will often have better luck if they go out alone. Then they only have to worry about cockblocking from strangers, over people they know.
Isabella_deL said:
Camming is different, yes. It's also different for the guys. Even beta males can seem to be alpha males in an online environment. Anonymity helps, here. A guy who might normally be shy with women can be far more proactive in an online chatroom. However, omega males still tend to be omega males in online environments. They're the ones who say the most fucked up shit to models thinking it will get them any sort of good attention.
Isabella_deL said:
There are also different reasons men turn to sex workers.
Yes. And different reasons men turn to prostitutes over strippers or camgirls. In terms of camgirls, it's more of a social interaction for some men. Especially if the camgirls seem to like them hanging around. But, it's still far away and not up close and personal. Strippers get the more in your face part going, but it is most often look but don't touch unless you want a bouncer throwing you on your ass. Then there's the prostitutes, where the guy just wants to get laid, and they provide that service.
Isabella_deL said:
My flatmate, who I love to pieces admitted that he goes to prostitutes, when he was with his long term girlfriend he'd go to brothels etc. That is the kind of thing I hate, the doing it just because it's there and you can.
But, truthfully, it's the same with camgirls. Why do guys initially go to cam sites? Because they can, and they're there. And, they can do so from the security of their own homes.
Isabella_deL said:
A lot of men I meet who come to cam girls do it out of situation and loneliness, wanting someone to talk to and have a sexual experience with, not as predators (although I do get a few).
Yes, loneliness can be a factor, or wanting someone to talk to. But the biggest factor of all? Nakend women. Period. It may become something different, over time, but the initial idea when any guy looks at a camgirl is "I want to know what she looks like naked."
It might be different if a guy comes into a model's room after conversing with her here, on the ACF, first. But, for a fresh person coming onto a site like MFC, it's all about the bewbs and va jay jay. Nothing more, nothing less. I've visited your room after talking to you here, and I wasn't all like "let's get Isabella nakie!" Same with me going into JJ's or Amber's rooms. There was already more of a friendliness made because of here. It doesn't mean I wouldn't enjoy said nudity if I saw it, but it wasn't the main reason to go into your rooms. Now, if I spot a pic of a girl on the homepage and decide to check her out? you can bet, 9 times out of 10, it's to see what she looks like naked. I never claimed not to be a perv, after all.
