Hi everyone. I’ve been caming on Chaturbate for almost 6 months. It’s been rough and hard but I feel I was getting to a better place. Since a couple of months one of my biggest tippers became green and had been in my room every day. He encouraged me and helped me out when I was losing motivation. We used to talk a lot about al random different things and became friends. For some reason that I don’t understand he started to monopolise my room, other tippers started to never show up and even other green members told me they were feeling uncomfortable with him in the room and his constant comments and behaviour. This guy became so obsessed with me that he started to have tantrums about everything I do, from private shows to me skipping a day of transmission. I had several conversations and even discussions where he end up understanding and apologising. I started my OnlyFans few weeks ago and he was one of the first subscribers. Then the tantrums came back but this time with insults and rage (all because I post a PPV video with a boy) Since then things got worse, he quit OnlyFans and also CB because he knew I was hoping to move to OnlyFans and quit CB and the reason is I been diagnosed with cancer and I’m under treatment so I feel sick most of the time. I came back to CB today very excited and he was there as anonymous. When I finished my transmission I got a huge message from him on Snapchat telling me I’m a bitch, a liar and a loser because I said I will be leaving by the end of the month and I broadcast. For my surprise he found out my real Instagram, so now he knows my name, where I live, my family members, my friends and everything. I talked to him several times and I was pacient enough to explain to him situations, but this time he has go to far. I block him everywhere, even his whole country on Chaturbate but I’m scared of him now. I’m thinking of starting a new account in CB with a different name and his country blocked but I will lose all my followers. I can’t quit because of my medical bills and I don’t want to either. I really need help on what to do and how. Is to much to deal at the moment. Thank you for read such long post.
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look , do not give a fuck about him , just ban him everytime he apears , or any account that you get the feeling is him. Unfortunatelly in the cam world is so , every model out these get stalkers sooner or later so its not a big deal . I know its very disturbing from experience , i personally have 2 stalkers , 1 of them on CB and another on Stripchat . Just ban and block any member that bothers you in any way , and do not trust any member anymore . Enter online do your money and ban , ban ban ban , the ban its your friend . You do not own any explination to anyone especially to a member about your private life and status or about your situation , the chat room is yours and you are in charge . YOU ARE THE BOSS !! AND DO NOT LET ANYONE TO TELL YOU OR MAKE YOU FEEL OTHERWISE! They get satisfaction from seeing you care and you are disperate , once he will see you do not give a fuck about it he will slow down , probably of course like any reputable stalker out there he will contact you from time to time .
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Oh I have the same problem on bongocams I have one client he want to talk to me in private all the time, and if he doesn’t see me online he get angry , he wants to me to cam at night for him to have fun with me , if I don’t do and I explain to him he call me moody , so I did block him , but he keep open new accounts so I had to block pms so he start getting nasty in my public chat with me and clients now I had to put the price very high for public chat so no one can send send me msg because of him so I lost clients and my traffic went down because no one can talk in pm and even in public
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I always suggest to all my cam model friends, if they wanna play safe, never post your real name on instagram or facebook or change it now 
.. always a jerk can find you and make your life a nightmare . He can post naughty videos with you on porn sites under your real name, and adress, is really horible,, This happend to a top model on chaturbate, i could see lots of her videos and description whore from romania her name and adress
.. always a jerk can find you and make your life a nightmare . He can post naughty videos with you on porn sites under your real name, and adress, is really horible,, This happend to a top model on chaturbate, i could see lots of her videos and description whore from romania her name and adress
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better close your instagram for a while, before he figure it out whos family and send them notes .
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I haven't dealt with stalkers myself, but I've had friends (who were girls) go through the issues, and I've admin'd on a decently toxic site where there were plenty of stalker types who actively tried to harass users, so I've gotten a knack of their crap they try to pull... from manipulation, to blackmail, to threats, to cyber stalking, to even trying to trace the person down IRL. (The many PM logs I've had to sort through have been disconcerting to say the least.)
From everything I've learned about their situations, the best thing you can do in this crummy situation is RBI - report, block, and ignore. If he is somehow local and committing actions against you at some point, file a police report and/or restraining order. It may seem tempting at some point to say something to them or plead to them to stop, etc., but in almost all situations, this will only make things worse. Realize this: these stalker types may seem to care about you too much, but on a deeper level, they really don't care one bit about your feelings. Nothing you say or do will magically change their mind if they don't want to. Making any interaction/reaction with him gives him a couple things 1.) more feeling of a connection with you so that he is motivated more 2.) the feeling he is making progress in your desperation so he can try and manipulate you into getting him what he wants. Any lies they try to give you otherwise are just that -- lies. The apologies are lies. The threats are lies ("I'll leave you alone after you do ____."). It's all manipulation tactics.
Being scared is natural. After all, there are even sites out there that can scan your face from a picture and do a reverse internet search of it through the internet. However, I urge you not to let this stalker stop you do from doing what you want to do. Once you RBI him, it'll demotivate him after some point. He may continue to push after you for a bit to try and make some attempt at saying "I'm not giving up" but generally speaking... they really do just give up. Have good internet privacy, sure, like not leaving our instagram fully public if you don't want the full public seeing your instagram... but don't let him run your life. Do what you like. You deserve to live not in fear. That's why I don't even think you should delete your instagram or your CB account.
From a more pessimistic but realistic point of view, if he is going to do something against you, he is going to do it. You can't change a person's heart. If you've taken whatever reasonable preventive measures you could without hurting your mental health, livelihood, etc., there isn't much you can do to stop him from doing the action. There are means of encouraging him, and means of dealing with his actions afterwards, but not stopping him to the fullest. That's why I say to live your life like this guy doesn't exist, because in all honesty, he shouldn't. Fuck this rando.
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Sorry to hear about this. I know how you feel 
at the end of the day these men are mentally not very well.
I had one who would not leave me alone in chat constantly PMing me even though he never even tipped. He had pictures on his CB account of some ripped army guy, and somehow he found me on Facebook and tried to add me, though the Facebook was his real pictures and he was fat and ginger
I blocked.
Only today he was back in my CB room calling me fat and saying I have a small cock (even though I clearly don't
) have now banned him from the room and hope that's the end of it.
These types of men are just sad and foolish, best to pity them, they will move onto some other poor unfortunate victim soon enough.
at the end of the day these men are mentally not very well. I had one who would not leave me alone in chat constantly PMing me even though he never even tipped. He had pictures on his CB account of some ripped army guy, and somehow he found me on Facebook and tried to add me, though the Facebook was his real pictures and he was fat and ginger
I blocked. Only today he was back in my CB room calling me fat and saying I have a small cock (even though I clearly don't
) have now banned him from the room and hope that's the end of it. These types of men are just sad and foolish, best to pity them, they will move onto some other poor unfortunate victim soon enough.
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Hi,
There is nothing more effective than to IGNORE the stalker person.
Hopefully he lives right in the middle of a large country, and not on the border with 7 other nearby small countries.
Blocking his country was a good move IF it doesn't also remove the bulk of your following (such as, blocking "USA" might not usually be cost effective to most models).
When one performs in front of hundreds of men, and when "fantasy" is a major part of the appeal, there ARE going to be possessive, stalker-type people as a sliver of a percentage of that crowd.
A unique setting like webcamming, where your 'vulnerability' is at least somewhat actual, and completely 'perceived' by the viewer, is certainly likely to test (male restraint) a considerable amount.
I'm sorry this has happened to you, OP, but strengthen your resolve to IGNORE/block this person, and seemingly 'make' him stop.
The 'tones' of the behaviors you describe are all too familiar and common.
There is nothing more effective than to IGNORE the stalker person.
Hopefully he lives right in the middle of a large country, and not on the border with 7 other nearby small countries.
Blocking his country was a good move IF it doesn't also remove the bulk of your following (such as, blocking "USA" might not usually be cost effective to most models).
When one performs in front of hundreds of men, and when "fantasy" is a major part of the appeal, there ARE going to be possessive, stalker-type people as a sliver of a percentage of that crowd.
A unique setting like webcamming, where your 'vulnerability' is at least somewhat actual, and completely 'perceived' by the viewer, is certainly likely to test (male restraint) a considerable amount.
I'm sorry this has happened to you, OP, but strengthen your resolve to IGNORE/block this person, and seemingly 'make' him stop.
The 'tones' of the behaviors you describe are all too familiar and common.
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He may be on VPN and get around country region blocks so username blocking would be the only way. Question is do you know anything about him? His email, Instagram, face photo? IP address from CB? Just so you have something in case he does something stupid.
As someone suggested never use real names online and never reveal details. And delete anything online that you have or make sure it's fully private.
There are alot of freaking weirdos out there. All the best with fuckin off cancer babe.
As someone suggested never use real names online and never reveal details. And delete anything online that you have or make sure it's fully private.
There are alot of freaking weirdos out there. All the best with fuckin off cancer babe.
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