- Jul 19, 2015
- Twitter Username
- Chaturbate Username
Have you ever felt that someone who you thought was your SO was actually just using you for sex?
I was driving through the middle of nowhere one night and had a UFO sighting. Terrified the hell out of me, and I would be a liar if I said all the stories about getting fondled by aliens wasn't part of the reason my knees were shaking.Have you ever felt that someone who you thought was your SO was actually just using you for sex?
Guy, you've actually asked 3 different questions here.How could you tell that all he cared about was sex?
True, three different questions. But, in a sense, still along the same lines so I took it as such.Guy, you've actually asked 3 different questions here.
1. (in the thread title) Have you ever felt you're being used for sex?
is an entirely different question than,
2 (In OP) Have you ever felt that someone who you thought was your SO was actually just using you for sex?
3 How could you tell that all he cared about was sex? This seems to indicate that there are no other emotions involved, and that this couldn't be temporal, as in that moment he was just using her for sex.
As for myself, 1. yes, 2 no
Well said, Dan. I've had similar situations, and think we all have. The one thing that I can't understand is why someone would stick around if they have zero interest in you? This happened to me, with my ex as well as many others I know were lied to for years. I hear people talk about needing to stay because of finances, "for the kids", etc.I don't know if it's only sex, most of times I was used in my life were centered around a use of my trust. Of course we should be able to know that when someone loses interest in you, or attraction to you, it's not necessarily an abusive behavior. People have the right to lose interest in me, and I have the right to suck it in and move on. I had many a shoe thrown at me when I was on the other end of the unpleasant equation of a relationship becoming a dream deferred.
In my humble experience with relationships (especially with trashing them), the vanilla mainstream expectation that your significant other will cater to your Disney fantasy, can be as far fetched as an expectation from an adult industry worker to fulfill your erotic fantasies.
I think people become the most attractive when they let themselves expose their flaws to their significant other, that's where trust kicks in. It doesn't mean that your flaws become perfections, only that you may quit hiding them for a few moments with someone specific Excuse me, I'm starting to feel my age kick in, and becoming a cliche seems like a part of it...
This. When I had a SO, we'd go three months or longer with no sex, which was absolutely outrageous to me, so that's like the opposite of being used for sex.an SO? no- otherwise- yes, thank god
Guy's questions, with their depersonalized vagueness, often resemble a Rorschach test. I doubt if that's how they're intended to come across, but they do lead to some interesting--and revealing--discussion.I love the way in which a thread becomes serious here, and all of a sudden with the swing of a pendulum, it becomes hilarious again